Secondly: others are willing to joke and think that they are indirectly talking about themselves. Because of depression, my heart is more negative and sensitive. At this time, whether other people's jokes are aimed at themselves or preaching to themselves, so my heart is very uncomfortable and blocked.
Third, jealousy arises. Why do you suffer from depression because others are so happy when talking and laughing? Why can't you show that happiness and joy? Why do they have the right to happiness and they don't? I was very uncomfortable and sad, so I fell into a panic.
Fourth, inferiority complex and depression. Because I am depressed, I have persistent depression in my heart. This kind of emotion easily leads to self-isolation, self-depression, which makes me uncomfortable and makes me think blindly. At this time, my body and mind are not harmonious, and my heart feels blocked.
The above is my answer, I hope it will help you.
First of all, I am glad to accept your invitation to answer this question and give my opinion. It is purely personal and literal, without professional elements.
I think depressed people are unhappy at first. There are always many things, and they are all unhappy things, so they are depressed, and I think depressed people should look around and feel gloomy. It should be bland and tasteless. This kind of psychology will inevitably lead them to look at anything or anyone to think that they should be like them, so that they are indifferent. On the other hand, if they see that others are different from them, or are happy with them, they must think that you are different, and you shouldn't.
Layman's understanding. I hope my answer will help you understand why depressed people are blocked when they see the people around them happy.
It is precisely because of the negative thinking of people with depression that their views on things are distorted, just like wearing sunglasses for them, and their world has lost its color.
Other people's jokes can't resonate with him. On the contrary, he may think that he doesn't deserve happiness. Sure enough, he is different from others, thus falling into a negative evaluation of himself and getting worse and worse.
As others, what we want to give to patients with depression is companionship and support. No matter what you are, we will treat you as usual. You are sick, not fragile.
Thank you for your invitation.
In fact, this phenomenon can be seen from children when we are very young. For example, when a child sees that other children have many toys and fun building blocks, he will instinctively approach him and even want to take them from other children to play with. Therefore, children often have disputes and quarrels because of grabbing toys. This is a manifestation of the child himself. Because he is still young, I don't know how to say that this thing doesn't belong to him, but he can flow.
As we grow up, it is easier for us to suppress this kind of emotional concealment of beautiful or desirable things that we can't get. For example, many single people will be envious when they see beautiful love happening to others, but if this beautiful feeling happens to people we hate very much, it may lead to jealousy and even resentment. Why can't I get so good? Why can he get unbalanced in his heart? A sense of loss, even think that this beautiful feeling is deprived from your own life.
But in fact, this is a self-generated sense of substitution. In fact, whether people are happy or not has little to do with you. Just because people are happier doesn't mean you are less happy. Just because people are less happy doesn't mean you are happier. Why do people have a feeling of bringing in other people's happiness and sadness?
That is, people don't distinguish some boundaries, that is, what they can change, what they can't change, and don't draw some boundaries, so people are often very anxious because they can't change the objective world.
When we learn to accept the objective world, learn to accept what we cannot change, learn to admit that we are not omnipotent, learn to accept our own imperfections and imperfect world, and learn to admit the good and bad of others, instead of depriving you of happiness. You can still live well if others are not good. If others are good, you can live a better life, that is, you are an independent individual, and you can keep your independent thoughts.
Maybe you understand this, always remind yourself in your life, practice these ideas in your life, and maybe you will find happiness in your own world.
Finally, I wish you can be happy every day, find your own happiness, and meet happiness in your later life, but they are all happiness.
Oh, you're jealous
Hello, why are people with depression so flustered when they see people laughing and laughing next to them? Maybe sometimes when we are depressed, it will be even worse to see this scene. From our point of view, this problem occurs because of envy, jealousy and hatred ... Most people will wonder why others can be so harmonious and happy only when they are in bad times, but often it can stimulate our upward motivation. However, this is the idea of ordinary people. If for people with depression, this scene is invisible and depressing. Why do you say that?
First of all, understand depression and understand the thinking mode of patients with depression. The thinking mode of patients with depression is low self-worth, slow thinking and impaired social function, which leads to the inability to communicate normally. In addition, if the patient with depression is not accompanied by someone who knows him and understands him, it is difficult for him to get out of the predicament by himself, leading to more and more depression. So depressed people look at others and laugh happily, but they are envious in their hearts, but they can't mobilize their inner motivation. The main reason for their depression is that they are too depressed, like a thick wall pressing him, unable to bounce up, having difficulty breathing, struggling with their heads, but ineffective, helplessly looking at the colorful world outside, living in a dark world like redundant people, even worse than dust.
Churchill famously said, "The depression in my heart is like a black dog. It bites me every chance it gets. " Depression is like a black dog, loyal to people with depression. I can't get rid of it. I've been with me. Can't see the light outside, can't get rid of torture. The black dog will attack me repeatedly, making me lose the courage and will to struggle gradually until one day I leave this world.
Unless we can face the "black dog" directly, the black dog is really loyal, and its appearance is also the last psychological defense line to protect us. Recognizing it again and accepting it is also the first step to accepting yourself.
Admit your inner needs and actively realize them.
Be brave to be yourself, learn to express your emotions and express your thoughts.
Learn to love yourself, and then love others with all your strength.
Friends and relatives around you should be more company, more encouragement and more listening, so that patients with depression can regain the meaning of life.
These are personal suggestions. Thank you for watching. I hope it helps you.
Why do people with depression get flustered when they see the happy smile of the people next to them? That's because he (she) wants to say it himself, but he can't say it, or he has nothing to say, so his heart is blocked. People should learn to communicate with others from an early age?
There is no reason for depression,
My heart is always restless!
Because I'm afraid of being seen,
It's boring to watch people laugh!
I experienced it, that is, from my mother's illness to before she left, I was very depressed. I feel depressed myself, that is, at that time, in addition to going to work in the hospital, it was three o'clock and one line at home. Sometimes I endure grief in front of my family, sometimes I cry when I sleep at night, and I cry when I go to work. Anyway, it is an unspeakable feeling, and I don't want to communicate with others, and I don't like dressing up. I feel like I'm talking when I see others talking. I know I'm depressed. I didn't go to the hospital. Then I slowly adjusted myself for more than a year. I'm fine now. In fact, I don't think my beloved mother wants me to live well for her and take care of her favorite son. I feel much better now than before, but I have no complete reply. Sometimes I wonder. Depression is not easy to find, but please be kind to people with depression. Maybe it's because they have experienced something that no one else has experienced.
When a person is depressed, don't be angry when you see people around you happy. Think about why you are angry, find out the reason, and try to get rid of it. If you can't get rid of it, just put it down for a while and do something else happy. Bad luck will pass. Don't make others feel bad because you are angry. Let others be angry with yourself, and you will be even more angry and fall into a vicious circle. You will be depressed for a long time! Learn to be tolerant, kind and generous, and get better slowly!