On my way to work, I met an acquaintance. He turned a blind eye when you waved to him enthusiastically. Suddenly, you're a little embarrassed. Reluctantly, you took half your raised hand and pretended to scratch your head. You even began to look back to see if anyone had noticed your predicament.

You are thinking, is he angry with you, or does he have a bad eye or something really doesn't show?

There is a "Hanlong razor law" that tells us that if an action can be interpreted as "stupidity", it should not be interpreted as malice. The stupidity here is quoted, which not only represents ignorance and intelligence, but also includes accidental and unintentional negligence.

Just like the above example, if it can be explained by other people's "mistakes", don't interpret it as that they are malicious to you.

Once you buy the seeds of doubt, all negative emotions will follow, thinking will continue to extend, the other party and yourself will become opposites, and the whole person will enter a state of "fighting". The more you think about it, the more wrong it is. In the end, it was not an enemy, but it really became an enemy.

Although I didn't expect anything to offend him, he turned a blind eye to you and completely angered you. You decided to take revenge. Next time he greets you, you pretend not to see it. You even started to speak ill of him in front of other friends, of course, this kind of words were eventually embellished and spread to the ears of the parties. Your revenge escalated and eventually became irreconcilable sworn enemies.

When you broke up completely, did it ever occur to you that the starting point of this tear turned out to be a misunderstanding?

Interpersonal communication needs tolerance and fault tolerance. It is accidental that I am not so enthusiastic about you-maybe I ignored it too slowly or really forgot it, and you won't care. Only in this way can the relationship be stable and lasting. Otherwise, whenever the other party is left out for subjective or objective reasons, you will immediately turn against each other and enter an endless cycle of suspicion. Maintaining such a relationship is too expensive and unstable, and it will be abandoned sooner or later.

The wisdom of Hanlong's razor law is that if the other party is really malicious, but because you choose to accept it with understanding, when the other party's mood cools down, you will thank you for your tolerance. And if the other party is not malicious, it will eliminate a tragedy of mutual misunderstanding.

Looking back on the idol dramas we have seen, the hero and heroine in the drama always involuntarily start to think the worst because of a little misunderstanding-she doesn't love me, and he has someone outside, and it often takes more than ten episodes to eliminate the misunderstanding. If they master Hanlong's razor law, they will naturally not waste this time, and the progress of the plot will be greatly accelerated.

The biggest function of Hanlong's razor law is to forgive others, but actually to let yourself go-suspicion is very tired and won't make you happy.

When a victim's heart is occupied by negative emotions, then good things will not happen to him and happiness will pass by. The so-called fool is blessed with stupidity, because the "fool" has a simple heart and doesn't think about why he hurt me every day. How can I get back at him?