This can be said to be the similarity of all bullying:

Because of a casual word or action, there may be no reason, and a person suddenly becomes the target of attack.

No one knows this better than Wang Jingjing.

10 years ago, Wang Jingjing, who was admitted to high school, began to be bullied.

She was isolated and rejected, called "cosmetic woman", "ostentatious woman" and "goddess", and was treated with malice and physical violence. ...

Like all children who have experienced bullying, she despaired of the world countless times and tried to commit suicide again and again.

It was not until 10 years later that she stood up, revealed her heart and opened the scar.

Bullying caused by a cup

The nightmare that changed Wang Jingjing's life began in the first year of high school.

Two boys were fighting in the classroom and accidentally knocked over her cup.

The deskmate casually joked, "Wang Jingjing, this cup is worth 3 million yuan. You are miserable."

A joke was inexplicably interpreted as "Wang Jingjing boasted that her cup was worth 3 million pounds".

Someone added fuel to the vinegar. "That boy lost her 200 yuan, but she was too little."

This incident was uploaded to the popular post bar at that time, and the whole school knew it at once.

In the post bar, the whole school set off a "counterfeiting" craze:

Questioning that the clothes worn by Wang Jingjing are very cheap and it is impossible to afford 3 million cups;

Correcting Wang Jingjing's teeth, it is rumored that she began plastic surgery from elementary school;

The classmate arranged for her to like a boy, and she clarified that "I don't like it, and I don't lack boyfriends", and in a blink of an eye it became "Wang Jingjing boyfriends in groups";

Every time Wang Jingjing explains something, there is another reason to be hacked.

There are more and more "black materials" and she is becoming more and more famous.

These "deeds" are widely spread through post bars, and almost all junior and senior high school students in the county know them.

It is also common to be slandered as a "goddess" and sold as a prostitute by rumors.

Every time you open the search bar, there are dozens of related information.

More unfortunately, verbal humiliation is not the end.

Once, she was recognized by a senior on the road, and the senior slapped her more than a dozen times in one breath.

Although the two have never met.

Things like this happen almost every day.

"As everyone's enemy at school, anyone can hit me," Wang Jingjing said.

She lost all her friends.

The girl who used to be very close to her found her and said, "I'm sorry, I can't have dinner with you anymore."

Defaming Wang Jingjing became a kind of "political correctness" at that time;

At first, some sober people defended Wang Jingjing, but these people also became isolated, laughed at and attacked.

Three years of high school life, six fifths of the time, Wang Jingjing can only be a loner.

There is a famous saying in Ma Dong said by Qiba: There are many bitter people in my heart, which can be filled with a little sweetness.

One day, this "sweetness" appeared.

A boy came into her life, praised her for her good looks and often chatted with her.

Wang Jingjing seems to have grasped a lifeline, as if there was light in his life.

The preparation time was too long, so she didn't get suspicious.

In order to keep his only friend, Wang Jingjing gave him what he wanted: he sent him a photo in his underwear.

Unsurprisingly, "friends" turned to posting photos online.

Wang Jingjing suffered more humiliation, and the words attacking her became more and more obscene.

At this point, she has suffered from depression and is receiving treatment.

When her photos were widely spread on the Internet again, she couldn't bear it.

Swallowing more than 40 antidepressants in one breath, attempted suicide.

After being saved by her father, at 20 10, she turned on the gas again and committed suicide.

People around her look like Sister Xianglin. They chewed her sadness, then chewed it up and spit it out.

"I have committed suicide several times, which is too old-fashioned."

Later, Wang Jingjing dropped out of high school and went out to work.

But even after leaving school, she still can't get out of trouble.

One day, a girl became friends with Wang Jingjing, claiming that she was from a school near Wang Jingjing.

"I think you are a nice person and want to make friends with you."

Wang Jingjing was overjoyed and accepted this new friend.

After paying her salary, she invited her friends out for dinner and bought them clothes.

Later, Wang Jingjing learned that this so-called "friend" was also an "undercover".

While coming out for dinner, the other party has been taking pictures of himself, and then live broadcast the whereabouts of the "goddess" on the Internet.

The following comments were broadcast live, and one sentence was particularly dazzling:

"What a fool! How can anyone really like you?"

When Wang Jingjing went to college, some former alumni appeared in her university post bar to "promote" her story;

After graduation, I opened an online shop, and someone appeared inexplicably, and the things that rumored her were fakes;

The eight-year nightmare completely changed her life:

My studies have been destroyed, my personality has changed greatly, and I dare not trust anyone anymore.

After Wang Jingjing was demonized, no one would care about his feelings.

Wang Jingjing said in the program:

Those who are single, such as school sisters, just slap themselves for more than a dozen times;

Others, in fact, just followed suit and insulted her.

If there are only a few single things, she can actually forget them quickly and return to a normal life.

"At that time, everyone didn't add too much wood to the fire, but my house has burned out."

Apologize if you can't wait.

Last year, Wang Jingjing filed a complaint and sent the post manager to prison.

The administrator was finally sentenced to three months.

In court, Wang Jingjing met the man who had slandered her for several years for the first time.

But the other party didn't even look at her from beginning to end.

After the incident was exposed, some former followers found Wang Jingjing and apologized to her.

But none of the principal offenders came forward.

The senior who slapped Wang Jingjing in the face was moved by the wind and sent a long article.

Let's clear the relationship first: I don't know what 3 million cups are, and I have never slandered Wang Jingjing, just an outsider.

When it comes to hitting people by yourself, "outsiders" only admit to hitting two slaps. The reason for kicking people is also because of Wang Jingjing.

Then she accused Wang Jingjing of cooking cold meals with what happened nine years ago. After the online exposure, she was deeply hurt.

After a cursory apology, she made a request: delete the content related to her.

The boy who once sent photos of Wang Jingjing's underwear was found out.

He replied, "flies don't bite seamless eggs." "Young and not sensible."

For years, the perpetrators never apologized for the mistakes they made when they were young.

Twenty-six-year-old Wang Jingjing appeared very calm in the program, just like a mature woman.

But when the insult called "goddess" was aroused again, she seemed to return to her childhood in an instant.

Helpless, desperate.

"I can't trust anyone," Wang Jingjing said on the show.

"Walking in the crowd, I always worry about whether someone is watching me and being malicious to me."

When the column group "Talking to Strangers" invited her, she was also suspected:

"Is there someone who hates me deliberately lying to me?"

In the face of eight years of bullying, apologizing may seem too humble.

At least, people who are insulted and despised can have an explanation.

Wang Jingjing never received an apology.

Defendant victim

The phrase "at the beginning of life, human nature is good" is so rare that it is doubtful in some cases.

When vicious acts occur, more people tend to look for reasons on the victims, rather than understanding the victims and punishing the perpetrators.

So onlookers like to say: flies don't bite seamless eggs.

Many people asked after listening to Wang Jingjing's story:

"They slandered you, why don't you explain?"

Wang Jingjing explained.

After being misinformed that "the teacup is worth 3 million", she immediately explained that she had never said such a thing.

However, the perpetrators did not believe in the plain version, and intensified their efforts to plan a cruel carnival.

They tried to convince onlookers that there was a wonderful Rainbow Jingjing in the school.

From 3 million teacups, to cosmetic surgery, and the constant rumors about boyfriends, each one was created in response to Wang Jingjing.

Then, someone asked Wang Jingjing, even her lawyer:

"Don't you just ignore them?"

"They scold you, you don't want to see. If you are depressed, see a doctor. Why do you have to go to court? "

She swallowed it, too

When I was stopped by my senior to slap in the face, I waited for her to react and immediately grabbed each other's hand.

When the other party screamed "Goddess hit someone", she subconsciously put down her hand and fought with others.

It was not until the other side kicked a few more feet that they left, and no one came forward to stop them.

"I think it may be my own problem."

"Why do they bully you and not others?"

"Being targeted by so many people, I am definitely not a good person."

After the program was broadcast, Wang Jingjing sent a Weibo.

She said that this program was actually recorded a year ago. At that time, she often blamed herself and constantly tried to forgive those who had hurt her.

She is even afraid that her actions will implicate those who have been violent to her.

So when netizens spoke for her, she excused the bully.

Her self-censorship behavior is not a case.

The theory of "the victim is guilty" is universal, and Wang Jingjing is only a microcosm of it.

In the Korean movie Su Yuan, Xiao Su Yuan went to school alone with an umbrella and met an uncle who was drunk and sexually assaulted near the school.

However, after the hype of unscrupulous media, Su Yuan's family seems to be vilified and despised everywhere.

The little girl said in psychotherapy, "I thought I should give my uncle an umbrella when it rained, so I gave him one."

But everyone said it was my fault, and no one praised me. "

Bullies never appreciate the understanding of the victims, and even never miss a chance of malicious speculation.

"Evil is evil, there is no need to find reasons for evil. I won't organize netizens to attack my alma mater again. Ten years ago I stood by and won the bid in the dark. "

Don't make any more tragedies.

The lives of most bullying victims are hard to see.

Few people, Rainbow Jingjing, came forward.

A survey report entitled "Seeing school bullying" shows that more than half of the 36,000 respondents have experienced bullying.

Among them, 1/4 bullied others, mostly by others.

40.83% of the bullied choose to give up their studies completely;

More than half choose to transfer or take a short-term suspension;

Others can't live with the expectation of this world.

Last year 10, a girl in Grade Two committed suicide by taking medicine.

After the National Day, she refused to go to school until her mother forced her to tell her about being beaten by her classmates.

After her family took her to school for consultation, everyone thought that things had been handled and the girls went to school happily.

Unexpectedly, after only half a day, she would never go to school again.

After taking the medicine, the girl called her father and cried, "I am ashamed to study at school."

A fresh life passed away like this.

Our culture is used to silence. It is these that make the wounds of the victims more difficult to heal.

In Fang Siqi's first love paradise, Fang Siqi, who could not accept the teacher's evil deeds, tried to convince herself:

"I can't just like the teacher. I want to fall in love with my teacher and do anything for the people I love. "

The author Lin said: "It is the so-called education, the so-called ethics imposed on her, and the so-called tradition, which doomed her to be out of the question."

She can only take the responsibility on herself and silently bear the malice that should not be borne by her.

The influence of bullying on Wang Jingjing lasted for a long time.

Now Wang Jingjing, with neat short hair, looks more and more mature and capable.

She used the name Wang Shengnan, which was once considered "too powerful" by her parents.

Try to put your life on the right track, boldly express "hate" to those who have done evil to her, and be more able to reconcile with yourself.

But everyone knows that if you have been hurt, there will never be a real reconciliation.

The most complicated thing is the heart.

My little sister can't say that she feels the same way, but she still hopes that everyone who has experienced or is experiencing difficulties can bravely face their own existence value.

As for the "fire" of the perpetrators, we don't add that firewood, and we don't forget to splash a basin of water by the way.

Victims never want too much.