Sexual moral standards: 1. The principle of consensuality of both parties. Voluntariness is based on the premise that it does not violate social ethics. 2. The principle of no harm. Do not harm yourself, do not harm the other party, do not harm future generations, and do not cause mental pollution. 3. The principle of love. Somatic feelings and psychological feelings are organically integrated. 4. Principles of marriage contract. There is a famous saying in the Bible: "Sexual intercourse is moral only in the marriage bed." 5. Principles of scientific family planning. 6. Principle of sexual taboos. Some genetic diseases and family ethics have sexual taboo requirements.

In addition to legal means, the most important means of restricting sexual morality is to rely on traditional virtue education, including: sense of shame, sense of obligation, sense of responsibility, sense of conscience, sense of public morality and sense of chastity. Sex and love under moral constraints, sex and love that pursue high-level needs of human beings, will be a beautiful poem, a charming painting, an intoxicating song, a cup of sweet wine, and a part of the journey of life. Good times.

The sum of social norms that regulate human sexual behavior. In order to maintain the stability of social order and ensure the normal conduct of social life, such norms need to be used to restrict people's sexual behavior. As a moral phenomenon, sexual morality not only manifests itself in certain concepts, emotions, and thoughts, but also in specific behaviors and various activities. Therefore, the content of sexual morality can usually be summarized as: one core - sexual moral norms, three sexual moral categories - love concept, chastity concept and fertility concept, three sexual moral relationships - premarital sexual relationship, conjugal sexual relationship and Extramarital sexual relations, an external condition - the morality of the sexual environment.

Norms are the basic requirements for people’s sexual behavior in a specific social and cultural background. Taking China as an example, this requirement has three basic points: ① Sexual behavior must be based on legal marriage. Because sexual behavior has inevitable social consequences, it must be limited to legal marriage. Legal marriage in China refers to a relationship between husband and wife that meets legal conditions and is registered with the government. Only the sexual behavior produced by this kind of relationship is legal, protected by the law, and ethical. In addition, all non-marital sex is illegal and immoral. ②Sexual behavior must be based on love. Sexual behavior is the unity of spiritual and physical union between men and women. It is not only physical satisfaction, but also the satisfaction of spiritual life. Only sexual behavior based on love can achieve the harmonious unity of spirit and body, be the embodiment of the free will of the sexual subject, and therefore be noble and moral. This is one of the important signs to identify the quality of love life. ③ Both parties to sexual behavior must be responsible for the consequences of sexual behavior. Both married men and women have their own sexual rights, and at the same time they also perform corresponding obligations and bear certain responsibilities. There are three main aspects of responsibility: first, be responsible to the other party; second, sexual behavior must be responsible to society, comply with social norms, and be beneficial to social morality; third, be responsible for the results of sexual behavior, including being responsible for the health of the other party and the next generation. .

Category The basic concept that reflects and summarizes the characteristics, aspects and relationships of sexual moral phenomena is the category of sexual morality. Sexual morality should study and clarify three categories that are closely related to human sexual behavior: the relationship between sexual desire and love, that is, the concept of love, the concept of chastity arising from sexual behavior, and the concept of fertility brought about by sexual behavior.

Concept of love: Love is the heartfelt mutual admiration between men and women and the desire for each other to become a lifelong partner. Sexual attraction is the natural prerequisite for love. But there is a qualitative difference between love and sexual desire. Love is a social emotion of human beings, while pure sexual desire is just the instinct of animals. Modern sex is fundamentally different from ancient love: first, it is based on mutual love, and women are on an equal footing with men; while ancient love did not necessarily require women's consent. Second, love often reaches a strong and lasting level. If they cannot be combined and separated from each other, it will be an unacceptable misfortune for both parties. The characteristics of love are as follows: 1. Reciprocity. Both parties take mutual love as the premise, agree on each other, and give to each other. ②Specificity and exclusivity. Love is an admiration relationship between a man and a woman, which does not allow a third party to intervene, so it is exclusive. ③Persistence. Love is a lasting emotional life that requires both parties to be loyal and to withstand the tests of various hardships on the road of life.

The attitude towards love reflects a person’s mental outlook and moral character. A moral and cultivated person should establish a correct view of love: ① Career is higher than love. Love without a career is empty. Career and love are not contradictory and can complement each other if handled properly. Love is only a part of life, not the purpose of life. The most noble and important thing in life is career. Therefore, we must insist that career is higher than love, and consciously subordinate love to career, and the persistent pursuit of career will also promote love. ②Respect the other party’s right to choose voluntarily. In the process from falling in love to getting married and forming a family, men and women must seek to understand each other through ethical means and must respect each other's right to choose voluntarily. Any means of coercion, threats, and deception are immoral. ③Be loyal and dedicated. This is the most important principle of love life. Both parties in love should be loyal to each other, trust each other, and not change their minds. ④Responsibility and self-respect. In the process of love, one should express mutual love in a way that meets moral requirements and control one's behavior rationally. During the relationship, both parties should maintain chastity, respect themselves, and respect each other.

The concept of chastity refers to the unswerving integrity of love between men and women.

It is a historical product of the needs of human survival and development, and it is also a virtue that requires both men and women. The modern concept of chastity does not object to remarriage or remarriage after the death of the lover, and does not regard it as unfaithfulness to the previous love. On the contrary, it should be protected by national laws. The concept of chastity should include two aspects: ① The conclusion of marriage must be based on love, confirming that each other has the same life ideals and interests, and have the same personality characteristics for life; confirming that they can consciously assume the corresponding responsibility after marriage The obligations and responsibilities can bring spiritual happiness and happiness in life to both parties. A marriage based on this foundation is chaste and moral if both parties consciously maintain it. If there is no basis for love and the marriage is based solely on money, status, and beauty, it is unchaste and lacks vitality. Only a union based on love has the right to physical proximity. ②Chastity is mutual and should stand the test of time. The modern concept of chastity has ended the ancient one-sided restraint on women and has become a common requirement for both men and women. Each other must treat the relationship between the sexes with a correct outlook on life, cherish and maintain their respective chastity, and promote the seriousness of the relationship between the sexes and the respect for love. of loyalty. After marriage, mutual respect and love, mutual understanding and mutual consideration, and mutual consideration are the basis for maintaining a happy marriage. The concept of chastity is of great significance to maintaining family happiness, nurturing children, purifying social atmosphere, maintaining social stability, and building a healthy and civilized society.

The concept of fertility refers to the general concept of human reproduction and parenting. The concept of fertility, on the one hand, is a reflection of the economic foundation, and on the other hand, it shows that human production is part of social production and is of great significance to social development. Contemporary China's view on childbearing requires the unification of childbearing rights and obligations, and the unification of childbearing wishes with responsibilities to society and future generations. Specifically, they include: ① Starting from the overall interests of society, establishing the moral concept of "reproduction is for the public", requiring childbearers to use the interests and requirements of society as the motivation for childbearing, and avoid treating childbirth simply as a means to achieve personal or family goals. The moral concept of "reproduction is for the public" reflects the socialist nature of Chinese society. Population reproduction under socialist conditions, from a formal point of view, reproductive activities are carried out within each family; from a content point of view, the children born are by no means an individual's private property, but a major issue related to the national economy and the people's livelihood. Individual reproduction should proceed from the needs of the country and be subordinate to national interests. The moral concept of "reproduction is for the public" is reflected through the purpose, motivation and results of reproduction. ②Family planning, eugenics and postnatal care are behavioral norms for reproductive ethics. Family planning and eugenics and eugenics are China's basic national policies. The purpose is to control the population quantity, improve the quality of the population, and make the development of the population compatible with the production of material materials. Family planning is the use of scientific methods to control the time and density of births to achieve planned births. Specific contents include: advocating and encouraging late marriage and birth control; requiring a couple to have only one child. Eugenics and eugenics take artificial measures to ensure that children born with excellent genetic qualities are also scientifically raised to improve the quality of the population. The moral norms of family planning and eugenics and eugenics put forward corresponding requirements for the sexual life of couples: first, people are required to accept the moral concepts and behaviors of contraception; secondly, in order to achieve the purpose of eugenics and eugenics, the sexual life between husband and wife needs to be civilized, scientific and harmonious. ③ Adhering to late marriage and late childbearing is an important part of China's contemporary reproductive ethics. Medical research shows that young people generally mature physiologically between the ages of 23 and 25. If you get married and have children too early, due to immature physiological development, it will not only affect the physical development and health of the individual, but also affect the healthy growth of the next generation. Early marriage and early childbearing in rural areas, and "early birth of a son, early blessing" are the feudal moral concepts of having children for oneself. It is necessary to understand from scientific principles that early marriage and early childbearing are not only harmful to physical development and health, and are not conducive to the prenatal and postnatal care of future generations, but will also lead to excessive population growth and affect the country's modernization process. This is not allowed by contemporary Chinese reproductive ethics.

Relational moral relationship is a specific form of sexual social relationship. It is a sexual relationship between people based on certain interests and obligations and expressed in the form of certain sexual moral norms. . Including premarital sexual relations, conjugal sexual relations and extramarital sexual relations.

Premarital sexual relations refers to sexual intercourse between unmarried men and women. Both parties may be single, or one party may be married. Regardless of whether the purpose is marriage or not, premarital sex and trial marriage are harmful and socially unacceptable.

Love is the process of cultivating love between a man and a woman before marriage. Although there are only two people in love, love is not just a personal matter. It involves other people and society, so there is social responsibility. The moral requirements of love are: ① Pay attention to the moral character, sentiment and like-mindedness of both parties. When choosing a couple, you need to consider personality, hobbies, financial income, etc., but moral character, sentiment and like-mindedness are always important foundations for pure and lasting love. ② Respect each other’s emotions and perform obligations equally. The establishment of a love relationship must be based on the consent of both parties. Both parties should be on a completely equal footing. Neither party can force or trick the other party into accepting their love. Likewise, neither party should forcefully love someone they don't like against their will. Once both parties establish a love relationship, they must equally assume all the obligations contained in the relationship. ③Be honest with each other, test for a long time, be loyal and single-minded.

From the confirmation of the relationship to the marriage, there must be a process of comprehensive understanding between each other, and they must be honest and can withstand the test of time. Both parties must be loyal and dedicated, and cannot have other lovers at the same time, or transfer love rashly. Even if you find that the other person is not suitable to live with your partner, you should break off the love relationship with the other person through legitimate means before choosing a new couple. ④Noble taste and healthy communication. After the love relationship is established, both parties must control their emotions with reason during the deepening of the relationship, and avoid sexual impulses that exceed social moral norms.

Premarital sex and trial marriage will inevitably lead to sexual indiscretion and promiscuity, eclipsing the special and precious relationship of lifelong partners, directly destroying the institution of marriage, and deviating from the foundation of unwavering love. marriage and bring about a series of serious social problems.

The sexual relationship between husband and wife refers to the normal sexual life between legal couples. To maintain a harmonious sexual relationship between husband and wife, both parties must abide by certain moral requirements: ① Equality and voluntariness. Equality between men and women means that couples should have the same rights and obligations in their sexual life. Whether it is a husband or a wife, they both have the right to actively ask for a sexual life with the other party, and they also have the obligation and responsibility to satisfy the other party's sexual requirements as much as possible. Equal rights and obligations must reject the "possession concept". It is never about who possesses whom or who obeys whom, but that both parties are completely equal in terms of personality and emotions. Sexual life is conducted on a voluntary basis between husband and wife. Violating the principle of voluntariness is immoral. ②Respect and consideration. A harmonious sexual life between husband and wife is inseparable from mutual respect and understanding. First of all, husbands should respect and considerate their wives, and should not force or force their wives to have sex when sex may harm their physical or mental health. Secondly, the wife should respect and be considerate of her husband, understand her husband's emotions and needs, pay attention to adjusting herself, strive to make her sexual intentions consistent with her husband, and treat and satisfy her husband's reasonable requirements in a reasonable manner. When it comes to sexual life issues, chauvinism is wrong, and chauvinism is also harmful to the relationship between husband and wife. ③Be loyal to each other. Loyalty means not betraying, not blaspheming the feelings of the other party, and not abusing feelings of the wife or anyone other than the husband, with or without supervision. Loyalty between husband and wife is the moral foundation for maintaining and developing love and promoting a harmonious sexual life.

Extramarital sexual relations refers to the sexual relations between one party who has entered into a legal marriage and another person of the opposite sex outside of marriage. China's marriage laws have objectively created basic conditions for the unity of love and marriage. The "Marriage Law" not only gives people the right to marry freely, but also gives people the freedom to divorce. This prevents to the greatest extent the situations of "having no love but having to share the same bed with different dreams" and "having lovers but not being able to get married". However, this It does not prevent extramarital sex. In real life, extramarital affairs will continue to occur due to reasons such as the social environment, the ideology and moral level of the parties involved. Extramarital affairs mostly occur in the following situations: ① Marriage based on money, status, power or reputation; ② Marriage in which the relationship between husband and wife tends to weaken and break up after marriage; ③ Marriage lacking moral character; ④ Inharmonious sexual life marriage. The reasons for extramarital sexual relations include money, fame and fortune, as well as emotional factors, but they mainly depend on the moral values ??of the parties involved. The fine traditional sexual civilization of the Chinese nation denies extramarital sexual relations for the following reasons: ① Extramarital sexual relations separate sex from marriage, love from marriage, and this separation makes it possible for the parties involved to evade social responsibilities related to sexual behavior, regardless of whether they are Family, spouse, or sexual partners outside of marriage are all irresponsible behaviors. ② Extramarital sexual relations violate the norms of spousal loyalty, disrespect the personality of the spouse, hurt the relationship between the couple, and make the relationship exist in name only. It is an immoral act. ③Extramarital sexual relations will put the extramarital sexual partner into a difficult life, mainly have a major adverse impact on their marriage and family, bring all kinds of troubles, pain and misfortune, will destroy the other party's marital relationship, and seriously damage the other party's family. rupture. ④ Extramarital sexual relations violate the principle of moral self-discipline and cast a disgraceful shadow on the depths of one's soul. You will be impacted by storms at any time and have to pay a moral price. Once exposed, it will bring disgrace to the person involved and the extramarital sexual partner, which will have a serious impact on the family and career, and will also be very detrimental to the growth and development of the children.

Sexual environment ethics refers to the moral evaluation and moral requirements of various environments that affect and restrict human sexual behavior. Sexual environment refers to the natural and social objective environment that affects and restricts human sexual behavior. In real life, especially under the current influence of Western lifestyle, sexual environment pollution will inevitably occur due to the resistance of sexual instinct to social constraints. The so-called sexual environment pollution refers to the mixing of ingredients that do not meet the requirements of sexual morality into the objective environment that affects human sexual behavior. For example, conceptual sexual environmental pollution is mainly influenced by Western "sexual liberation" and "sexual freedom"; cultural sexual environmental pollution is yellow culture; economic sexual environmental pollution is the penetration of commodity economy into the relationship between the sexes, turning seriousness into The relationship between the sexes has become a commodity relationship. Sexual environmental pollution destroys the reasonable order of gender relations and the purity of sexual morality. It also threatens the healthy environment for human survival and the stability and unity of society. It especially seriously affects the healthy growth of teenagers. Therefore, to strengthen sexual moral education, we must first start by transforming sexual environmental ethics: ① Transforming family sexual environmental ethics. The formation of personal sexual moral concepts is firstly through parental education and imitation of parents' behavior. Whether parents' sexual moral concepts are noble or not has a subtle influence on their children.

Parents should avoid frivolous sexual behavior in front of their children, avoid their children in sex life, and eliminate extramarital sexual relations. A good family living environment and a harmonious relationship between husband and wife are of great significance to the formation of healthy sexual morality in children. ② Transformative social environment. The sexual social environment is mainly social security, social public opinion and social education environment. Behaviors that are in line with the fine sexual ethics of the Chinese nation should be encouraged, and behaviors that violate sexual ethics must be punished. Sexual morality education needs the support of public opinion and social education, and is based on the coercive power of the law. Correct moral evaluation and education are the guidance of public opinion. Only by forming a joint force can the social atmosphere be purified. ③ Transformative cultural environment. Culture is an important inducing factor for human sexual behavior. The quality of the cultural environment directly affects the practice of sexual ethics, especially the moral behavior of teenagers. Therefore, journalists and cultural workers must establish good sexual ethics and have a high sense of social responsibility. They must prohibit the publication of pornographic and obscene publications and severely crack down on the authors, publishers and traffickers of pornographic and obscene publications. At the same time, we must promote healthy and civilized sex education for the whole society, and pay special attention to school sexual health education for teenagers.