This sentence seems to be a cliche. Everyone knows that low-quality social interaction refers to meaningless interpersonal communication, but they misunderstand high-quality solitude. Many people think that they just read books and listen to music at home.

But in my opinion, it is not. High-quality solitude is an ability and a choice to face your true inner freedom.

As the legendary Italian director Ferini said:

Solitude is a special ability that few people have. I have always admired those people who have internal resources and can enjoy solitude, because solitude gives you an independent space and a kind of freedom, which people say "yes" but are actually afraid of.

It's easy for us to be alone, but high-quality solitude is really difficult, because we don't know what "high-quality solitude" is.

Chen is notoriously lofty in the entertainment circle. He doesn't like making friends with people, and seldom attends dinner. Even if there is, it will generally not exceed half an hour. He prefers to be alone, and often does things that "rob women and children".

Or often sit in front of the window where you can only see the sky and play the piano for two or three hours every day, and play for four or five hours when you are in high spirits.

Still painting, no sects, no rules. Grinding ink, spreading rice paper, holding a brush, recalling the place where I have been filming for many years, and then painting the scenery with pen and ink. After painting, stick it on the wall of the study and watch the comparison repeatedly.

There is a big room in his home, which is specially used for putting tools for sugar makers, dough makers, carpenters and tailors.

If you miss your daughter, water the sugar man and knead the dough, or sew a dress for your daughter to express comfort, or sew all kinds of purses for your wife.

Sometimes he sits under the window with his wife, who embroiders cross-stitch and he cuts his wallet. The leaves outside the window are silent, and there is a feeling that the years are quiet.

Many people always misunderstand the word high-quality solitude. In their view, high quality means that you must acquire or learn something while you are alone.

But in fact, in this impetuous society, no matter what you do, as long as you can calm down and do something, you can get something from it.

People who know how to be alone with high quality will not deliberately do anything when they are alone, because more often, they are just pursuing the stability they need inside. "Calm is useless."

Schopenhauer once said, "Only by being alone can a person become himself completely. Anyone who doesn't like being alone doesn't love freedom, because a person is free only when he is alone. "

People who know how to be alone with high quality choose the freedom of real life and soul, how can they talk about loneliness?

Influenced by Walden, American picture book writer Rita Shamma loves19th century without machine civilization. At the age of 57, she moved to Vermont and felt idyllic loneliness.

On the wasteland of nearly 10 square kilometers, she built nineteenth-century style farmhouses and barns.

She also has a secret garden with roses, tulips and camellias ... In July, the pond was full of blooming water lilies and the yard was full of fruits.

She grows flowers and vegetables every day, feeds chickens and sheep, weaves and paints, and never regrets it. Started a completely self-sufficient pastoral life. All the daily necessities at home, such as soap, candles, lamp oil, etc. Tasha made it herself.

She is also very happy to live alone and live according to her own wishes.

Such loneliness, which is far away from the world, may be considered by some people as loneliness and a way of life that lonely people will choose.

But a real person, when alone, can know how to face up to his inner desire and devote himself wholeheartedly to what he likes.

Coincidentally, Zhang Erdong, a post-80s painter, rented an old house in Zhong Nanshan for 4,000 yuan in 2065,438+04, which lasted for 20 years and cost several thousand yuan to decorate. First, the cowshed was demolished. There were hundreds of stones in the foundation, which were dug for a whole week.

Do things like painting the walls yourself, find a professional master when laying the floor and building the roof, and finally transform the old house into a comfortable look, and finally name it "Muxuantang".

For the "poetic dwelling" way of living alone, the water needed for mountain dwelling is borne by oneself, and the ingredients are bought from the foot of the mountain, steamed buns, vegetables are planted, geese are raised, foundations are dug, and floors are laid. ...

He said: "From digging, planting seeds and vegetables, to germination, survival and fruiting, to endless fruits, to a bird song, a rain and a summer night with insects, the freshness and enrichment brought to me are far more shocking than what city I have visited."

In his present life, "there is a chicken named Xia Feng", "there is a goose named postal kiosk", "there is a dog named Jia Zheng", "there is a small vegetable garden of his own" and "there is a kingdom of his own poems and paintings" ... under the protection of Zhong Nanshan, he has more time to think and experience life.

However, everything in mountain life is not as perfect as others think. He once said: "The Peach Blossom Garden is only the day you see, and the serial is the night."

The truth behind "poetic dwelling" is:

There are flowers and mud in spring.

There is a moon in autumn and a long rainy season.

In summer, there is a cool breeze and insects.

There is snow and ice in winter.

But he doesn't write about slippery dirt roads, slow rainy seasons, insect bites and cold weather. Because bitterness exists to make sweet sweet.

High-quality solitude means that when I am in pain, I can still feel poetic, distant and quiet time alone.

In this impetuous society, I wish you to be a person who knows how to be alone.