After the incident of his illegitimate daughter Xiao Longnv was exposed, the famous martial arts star Jackie Chan said his famous saying that some men regard as a treasure: I made a mistake that all men in the world will make.
This scandal was minimized by Jackie Chan's wife Lin Fengjiao's humiliation. Lin told Jackie Chan at the time: "You don't have to worry. I just want to tell you that my son and I will be here anytime you need us." Stand up and support you. But you won’t hurt others, and don’t hurt us.”
Don’t hurt others, and don’t hurt us. This is a false proposition. It’s the lesser of two evils. In the end, Jackie Chan chose to ignore his illegitimate daughter, leave the family property to his wife, and go home to be a good husband in public. Lin Fengjiao endured the humiliation for many years, but it seemed that she finally won the victory, and Jackie Chan was able to avoid greater embarrassment in public. It can be said that Jackie Chan poured a basin of sewage on all the men in the world and deceived him into getting away with it.
Not all men in the world will make the same mistakes as someone else. Men from well-educated families will not even consider making such mistakes. I saw an article describing someone chasing after an actress. His behavior was like that of a rooster in a flock of hens. If put on an ordinary person, he could be called a hooligan. Let’s look at his educational background. He dropped out of school in the first grade of primary school. A family that only raised a child until he dropped out of school in the first grade should not expect to have higher quality requirements for his children.
The words of public figures are influential. For a person of such caliber, such a confusing sentence comes from the mouth of a public figure who is known as the big brother in the industry. It is inevitable that people will be confused. Fans of right and wrong have created the misconception that "having promiscuous relations between men and women is a mistake that everyone makes, and it's not a big deal. If you don't do it, you're not a man, but if you do it, you're cool." This is completely fooling the public.
Only an immoral and irresponsible man would make the mistake someone made. And being immoral will inevitably cause harm to others, and it is almost impossible not to suffer the consequences. It does not mean that you can escape the karmic punishment with the shelter of some ignorant women who endure humiliation. If you don’t believe it, look at someone’s two children. One is neither a boy nor a girl, living on the street, and the other is taking drugs and destroying his future. And someone's wife, a beautiful woman who was astonishingly beautiful when I first saw her in "A Boat in the Ocean", was already haggard when she reappeared. Compared with the other forest in "Twin Forests", The condition is much worse. This is enough to prove that scumbags are harmful to others. The mistakes they make are not mistakes that can be laughed off, but mistakes that come at the cost of destroying other people's physical and mental happiness throughout their lives. This is definitely not a mistake that a man raised by an educated family should make. . "Zhu Xi's Family Instructions" says: If lust arises after seeing sex, the retribution will be on the wife and daughter. Not false at all. The reason why humans are different from animals is that in addition to being creative, they also know how to exercise restraint. The formation of human society's moral concepts and the formulation of laws are all aimed at suppressing behaviors that do not understand restraint. People who don't know how to restrain their desires are like beasts, and this is true for both men and women.
Marriage is an agreement between the parties involved. This agreement includes the word loyalty, and the person who breaks the contract should pay the price.
Let’s go back to the matter of Li Jinlei and Leehom Wang. Now many people have begun to denounce the woman, thinking that she should not use public resources to expose her private affairs, and that she is destroying her children and her ex-husband, and is a poisonous person. woman. I think Li Jinglei's approach is indeed cruel, but I'm not sure whether she can properly resolve this matter at home. If Wang Ye thought he was making a mistake that all men in the world would make, then no matter how much trouble Li made, it would be considered a fuss. She could either just watch her husband go out to find other women for fun, endure cold violence at home with her young children, hide in the bathroom and cry secretly like Lin Fengjiao, or she could only choose to be divorced.
Li Jinglei and Wang Yifeng gave birth to three children. If the first one was pregnant out of wedlock and forced into marriage, and the third one was an accident, it couldn't possibly be an accident twice, right? This shows that when entering into a marriage contract, both parties were consensual. In terms of personal qualities, Li not only has a master's degree from Columbia University, but can also play violin and paint, which shows that her family's economic conditions are not bad and they are capable of affording her a good education. So when it comes to personal conditions, there is nothing incompatible between Li and Wang.
If a family does not need a woman to earn money, a person of this caliber would be a good candidate to be a mother. Of course, Li's native family is not decent enough, and it is not impossible for Wang's parents to disapprove. The more this happens, the more it shows that the relationship between the two was strong at that time. Otherwise, there is only one possibility. Wang is looking for the pregnant mother, but according to their early interaction photos , the video can rule out this possibility. Wang was not so mean at that time. At most, it’s just the seven-year itch, preferring the new and hating the old. In fact, in the eyes of many men, women who have given birth or had a hysterectomy are much inferior to women outside, especially women who have given birth to several children. This is an indisputable fact. , some men don’t cheat or engage in prostitution just because they don’t have the financial resources to support it.
If you can look at the problem from this perspective, you should be able to understand Li's anger.
I personally think that as long as marriage is your choice, no matter what the original situation is, you must have a positive and serious attitude when entering the palace of marriage, because it is not only about your own life, but also the life of the other person. There is also the life of the child. The life of the child is as important as your own life. If you are unhappy with the other party, you can communicate. If you can't live with the other party and think about breaking the contract, it is not wrong. Then you should make arrangements based on your conscience instead of deliberately transferring. Property, let the other party get less. If you don't regard other people's life as your life, how can others regard your life as theirs? Respect is reciprocal. So Li's anger is normal wifely anger.
Many people only consider the loss of money caused by spreading a bad reputation. In fact, they don’t know that money is something that cannot be taken away after death. What can be taken away is the soul. Cleanliness has nothing to do with wealth and reputation. If Li's decisive attitude is not used to deal with Wang's behavior, then people who have abandoned their families can continue to party by stepping on other people's wounds. They can be soft-handed in getting paid for advertising endorsements. This is actually the case. Deceiving the public is creating social injustice. From this point of view, Li is just sacrificing his life to uphold good customs with a chivalrous heart, and he is also saving the souls of the people involved. Onlookers don't have to worry about the Wang family's financial path being cut off and the camel dying of emaciation. Bigger than a horse.
Causation is bound to exist, but human society does not necessarily automatically present results. It is often someone who sees things differently and steps forward to change the situation. For example, someone raped someone with a knife, and someone saw it and did not dare to speak out because he was afraid of death, so he allowed the crime to happen. The result may be that the rapist ran away or killed the raped person and escaped punishment. Unfortunately, Another person passes by and comes to the rescue, and the rapist is caught. However, the consequences of the rapist's crime are different. In human society, the rapist may not be guilty, and neither is the first person, but this may not be the case in God's eyes. Both sin and injustice are in the eyes of God.
What I want to say is, if you are kind, please understand that there are conditions for achieving true kindness. It includes not doing unjust and shameful things. Tolerance is used in the wrong place, which is actually unjust. . Your knowledge will be recorded and become the standard by which you will be judged.
Those who understand what I am talking about must understand. Those who do not understand, I hope you will understand one day. I hope that you will not be fooled, live a happy life, and do not step into traps.