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Internal friction is like a small monster, which plays a role where we can't see it, enough to destroy a person's mind and make a person accomplish nothing.

Murphy's law says that the more afraid a person is, the more he gets.

If you are worried about the uncertain future, you will not only catch up with the present time in vain, but also behave with teleology. In the process of doing things, let everything develop in the direction you think, but it will make the possible good situation worse.

All people's troubles are actually caused by themselves. Instead of worrying about yourself, always remind yourself to stop internal friction and live a more active life.

The book "The Courage of Being Disliked" says that all troubles stem from interpersonal relationships. It is precisely to meet the expectations of others, or to let others meet their own expectations. If both satisfaction and satisfaction fail, you will naturally feel annoyed.

Everyone has his own life topic. If you want to stop internal friction and gain physical and mental freedom, you must learn to separate your own life topic from others'.

Don't interfere too much in other people's life topics. Whether parents or children, or any other intimate relationship, each has its own way to go. As an independent individual, everyone has the choice to start over.

The expectation of others or the expectation of becoming others will make us feel stressed. When we can't get or fulfill our expectations, we will fall into serious internal friction and doubt our self-worth.

Instead of making life easier and more active, it is better to develop the horizontal relationship between individuals, do your own thing well, don't live in the expectations of others, and don't expect others to meet your own requirements.

Just like Fan Meisheng in Ode to Joy, she was very uncomfortable at first, that is, she lived in the expectation of her parents, and all the money she earned was given to her family, but she left herself in a state of anxiety about money.

When I was in love, I was full of expectations for my other half, Wang Baichuan, and put the mission of saving the unhappy family on him. Therefore, although two people love each other, they are very uncomfortable to get along with. Both sides are always in a state of tension, paying attention to meeting the pressure of life, and it is difficult to enjoy the sweetness of love.

Until Fan knows how to let go of expectations of others and break up with peace; No longer let others have expectations of themselves, refuse unconditional support from their brothers, and the whole life becomes suddenly enlightened.

To solve internal friction is to know how to separate life topics, not to live in the expectations of others, and to reduce ideological pressure.

If you always focus on the bad things, you will feel that life is simply terrible, as if there is nothing satisfactory.

Just like forgetting to bring an umbrella when going out and getting caught in the rain, even the beautiful clothes may be splashed by the roaring cars; Image damage, work may be laughed at by others, a series of troubles, like falling dominoes without end.

However, if you find that you forgot to bring your umbrella, you will start to think of getting caught in the rain as a very romantic thing, and feel the beauty in the rain carefully, so as to notice the coming car and avoid splashing it on you.

No matter what happens in life, people will always habitually see the negative side, which is normal, but it is the immediate attention that will have an impact on emotions and make a person fall into annoying self-consumption.

If you want to get out of self-consumption, the best way is to learn to change your mind. No matter what happens, you can see the positive side and you will feel much more comfortable.

I once talked about a boyfriend in college, but I didn't expect them to make it to the end. After breaking up, the ex-boyfriend and other female classmates came together. It's embarrassing not to look up.

In order to please his current girlfriend, my ex-boyfriend did a lot of things to slander me, and even said a lot of things to slander me. These rumors reached my ears and made me feel bad.

Just when I was troubled by emotional problems, I was asked by my tutor to talk. My tutor knows my troubles, but she wishes me loudly, hoping that I can stay away from people who don't love me and find my own other half.

Come to think of it, it's true. It seems that the ex-boyfriend's empathy is a kind of pain, but after all, what he lost was just a person who didn't love himself, so he no longer felt sorry.

Knowing how to change your mind when you are in a bad mood can make a person see hope from the desperate situation, so as to stop internal friction, continue to be positive and win more opportunities to become better and better.

The human heart is like a container with limited space. If there are too many things that make you feel unhappy, in a bad mood and uneasy about reality, it is enough to make the container of life hold nothing else.

Life is also limited. As Liu Yuanyuan, a talented woman from Peking University, mentioned in her speech, everyone's life is destined to have only one end, and no one is an exception.

When we come to the end of life, everything that happens in life is just a passing sight after all. We can't take it away whether we like it or not. In this case, when we are still alive, we might as well enjoy it seriously and accept all the gifts that life has given us. These gifts may bring us sorrow or joy, which is a unique life experience.

An active life can keep us full of energy, get positive encouragement and become better and better; On the contrary, a life full of internal friction, if immersed in such emotions, will only make internal friction more and more serious.

A beautiful life is not without internal friction, but when internal friction appears, we will not wait and die, but try to make ourselves more active and adjust, so as to enter the positive cycle of life and find more and more self-worth in life.

Nothing in life can't be overcome. If you fail, you will find a way out. If you are confused, act immediately; If you have internal friction, you will learn to change your mind and never stay in negative emotions and feel sorry for yourself. It is bound to get better and better in its own time zone.

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