reassuring you is the highest evaluation of a person, which shows that this person is kind and reliable.
Zeng Guofan was born in a peasant family, but eventually he became "the first perfect man in history". Ten years after he entered the official career, he moved seven times and was promoted to ten levels in succession, and was awarded the title of first-class Yi. He became the first scholar in the whole Qing Dynasty who was named the marquis of Wu, and he got away with it in the harsh and fierce political environment in the late Qing Dynasty. When he died, he was given the highest preferential treatment in the Qing state funeral, and his children and grandchildren were blessed. Mao Zedong said, "Give to your neighbors and serve yourself alone."
Looking at Zeng Guofan's life experience, the reason why he can achieve such brilliant achievements is closely related to his way of dealing with people. Zeng Guofan knows how to be a man, and the core point is to make the other person feel comfortable and at ease. This is simple to say, but not easy to do.
Let your family rest assured, your superiors rest assured, your subordinates rest assured, your friends rest assured, your enemies don't "rest assured", and those who win the hearts of the people will win the world. "Rest assured" contains a person's character and also reflects a person's cultivation.
not much to say, I'm relieved.
exposing other people's shortcomings and boasting about their own advantages is essentially to prove their own advantages and maliciously belittle others. This kind of behavior is the embodiment of narrow-mindedness, and it is most easily hated among people.
Therefore, you need to leave room for yourself when you speak, and don't put yourself in a situation where you can't get in or get out. A dull and talkative person is often shallow and vulgar, lacking self-restraint and unpopular.
Zeng Guofan once said, "Think big, start small, keep your mouth shut and be immune." "Actions should not be careless, and words should not be careless." "Don't talk big, be pragmatic." Brilliant and valuable ideas can be welcomed, but generalizations can be boring.
Zeng Guofan's "few words" stems from a trivial matter. At that time, he had just entered the academician courtyard and was enjoying himself. Once, when he was celebrating his father's birthday, he talked about his friend Zheng Xiaoshan, who had come to celebrate his birthday, and got carried away. As a result, Zheng Xiaoshan was disgusted and left.
Zeng Guofan regretted it afterwards. He reflected in his diary that he had made three big mistakes.
one is always self-righteous;
second, don't open the door and say whatever you want.
Third, obviously speaking offends people, and arguing with others, even to the point of inhumanity.
to sum up these three points, Zeng Guofan said that as a standard Confucian intellectual, he could not even understand the truth that "bad words come from his mouth, but angry words don't come from his family" in The Book of Rites. He can't even pass the cow plan of the language online loan home. What else can he achieve?
Zeng Guofan devoted his whole life to "forbidding many words". Not only does he often criticize himself, "The loss of everyday speech is really like a ghost!" I often ask myself, "When can I pull this root out?" He not only asked himself not to talk too much, but also regarded it as a very important part of his parenting wisdom, especially for his two sons and younger brothers.
As the saying goes, "Don't talk nonsense", the most taboo when you stand up is to be frivolous and complacent, so that you say something inappropriate, or lie and brag for bragging. Because it may bring disaster to yourself, and secondly, it will lose the trust and respect of others. Who will trust you? Therefore, it is difficult to achieve great things in the end if you like people who speak fast for a while.
smart people know how to work.
in p>1853, Zeng Guofan, a scholar, led the army and founded the Xiang army. He didn't expect that Xiang could make great achievements repeatedly, and finally put out the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom fire that burned half of China. How did Zeng Guofan form and manage Xiang Army? Managing Xiang Army is actually these two words, so that subordinates can "rest assured" him and believe in themselves.
Zeng Guofan has a famous saying: "Don't live alone, don't shirk." Before the Xiang army conquered Nanjing, the capital of the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom, Anqing was the last important city.
It can be said that Zeng Guofan and Ceng Guoquan brothers played a very key role in this war. Ceng Guoquan, in particular, could not have won the First World War if it had not firmly held Anqing at the gates.
However, Zeng Guofan gave the throne to the imperial court, but gave Hu Linyi the right to plan and co-ordinate World War I, and gave Duo Long a bloody battle at the front, which made Ceng Guoquan very angry.
"Anqing was won by me after a bloody battle for more than a year, risking my life. Why should I give the meritorious military service to others? " Ceng Guoquan questioned his brother.
In this regard, Zeng Guofan just smiled and kept silent. A stubborn man like Ceng Guoquan can't understand his intelligence.
for Zeng Guofan, doing merit has two advantages. First, you can win the support of others. The credit of others has been affirmed beyond expectations and will naturally support Zeng Guofan.
more importantly, it can eliminate the suspicion of the imperial court and reassure the imperial court of Zeng Guofan. In history, most of the powerful ministers with heavy weapons have no good end. Only by knowing humility can we avoid the recurrence of tragedy.
It is particularly important to give Duo Long extra points. Duo Long, an aristocrat of the Eight Banners, said a few good words to Zeng Guofan in front of the imperial court, so he could make a decisive decision.
Zeng Guofan's wisdom is also applicable to today's workplace. Bosses like employees who give credit to colleagues and take the initiative to make mistakes. All friends who want to succeed should do so.
Xiang Army founded by Zeng Guofan
Smart people don't take advantage.
taking advantage, no matter what form, nature and purpose, can be summed up in one sentence: taking advantage of being cheap is good, or embarrassing or troublesome.
Li Ka-shing once said to his son, "If you cooperate with others, if the profit is reasonable, you get seven points, or eight points, then our Li family can get six points." Zeng Guofan also has a famous saying: "You can enjoy the benefits but you can't be immune to them."
in p>1861, after winning the battle, Bao Chao, a famous Xiang army soldier, took advantage of Zeng Guofan's birthday to present him to the 16th National Congress of the Communist Party of China. Many of them are precious jewels, antiques and the like. Zeng Guofan said, "Open it and let me have a look." Looking carefully, he took out an embroidered hat: "I like this hat, and I can take everything else back." Bao Chao has always been resolute and brave, but her eyes are red at this time.
Zeng Guofan sent Rong Rong to the United States to purchase machines, which is a very heavy job. According to the usual practice, Rong Rong will give gifts. But at this time, Zeng Guofan had left Nanjing and went north to suppress twisting. Therefore, he specially wrote to his son and said, "If the value of what Hong Rong sent is not more than twenty taels of silver, please accept it. If it is more than twenty-two, return it. "
it's not flattering to accept a small gift. Rejecting gifts is not only adhering to principles, but also helping the poor. Zeng Guofan put it well: "If you are rich, you will gather and people will disperse, and if you are rich, you will disperse and people will gather." He paid little attention to wealth, so he kept talents. Who is unwilling to follow such a leader and who is not at ease?
In our life, we will always meet some people who are careless and have no head or tail. Whenever something is assigned to them, we will inevitably feel worried and anxious, which is a sign of people's unease.