As we all know, smoking not only harms our own health, but also "second-hand smoke" affects people around us.
In life, many people have the habit of smoking, some to meet social needs and some to refresh themselves. Most of them also had the experience of quitting smoking, but they often ended in failure.
This makes people wonder: Why is it so difficult to quit smoking?
On the one hand, it is a physiological reason, on the other hand, it is people's dependence on this behavior at the psychological level.
Psychologists have many heavy smokers: Freud, Tiechin and so on. Why are they so dependent on cigarettes?
Physiologically, nicotine in cigarettes, as an addictive substance, can excite the brain and make people feel happy after smoking.
Medically, it is difficult for us to quit smoking, because once nicotine in our body is reduced, our body will immediately feel uncomfortable.
Because it forms a metabolic cycle in our body, when we choose to continue smoking, this feeling will disappear, so many people have to continue smoking.
It is very difficult to quit smoking because our brains gradually adapt to the stimulation of nicotine.
Non-smoking will affect the secretion of dopamine, and we will have physiological symptoms such as mental depression, nausea and dizziness. This is the so-called "smoking cessation syndrome".
Whenever we feel anxious and sad, in order to alleviate this uncomfortable feeling, we will reduce the feeling of pain by supplementing neurotransmitters in the body. This method is very effective, so once addicted, it is difficult to quit.
Once addiction is formed, the stimulation of nicotine to people will begin to weaken. In order to maintain the pleasure of the brain, we can only smoke more, so our addiction to cigarettes is growing.
We also have a great psychological dependence on smoking. When we are upset, the first choice is smoking.
In psychology, the behaviorist school believes that habit is formed through constant strengthening, and it is precisely because we constantly strengthen the process of smoking that smoking is branded with habit.
The book "This Book Can Make You Quit Smoking" puts forward some effective ways to quit smoking. The author thinks that the change of self-cognition is the key to quitting smoking.
People who quit smoking successfully must first change their self-awareness, first overcome their psychological dependence on smoking, and then overcome their physical dependence.
Therefore, overcoming fatal sexual addiction requires strong willpower and self-control.
Defects under strong willpower.
In the study, it is found that all smokers have inhuman perseverance, and they have a series of similarities:
Strong self-esteem and decisive personality.
Stubborn and unreasonable.
Invisibly bring pressure and bondage to people around you.
And having these strong willpower will have some bad effects on our interpersonal relationship.
The internal control and external control latitude of personality play a key role in the success or failure of quitting smoking.
Therefore, the personality difference between successful smokers and unsuccessful smokers is the difference of control points: that is, internal controllers are more likely to quit smoking successfully than external controllers.
The internal controller has strong ability to handle affairs and decisive personality. Generally speaking, people with decisive personality are easy to succeed in their careers. They tend to be independent, have strong subjective initiative, and are always firm in their choices and decisions.
But being too decisive will make people around you feel unreasonable, and it is easy to ignore the feelings of others and be self-centered when making decisions.
They tend to be very possessive, and often unconsciously occupy a dominant position in intimate relationships, with a strong desire for control.
They are always nervous and take everything seriously. In the process of getting along with them, we will be infected by such emotions and become sensitive, suspicious and anxious, which is not conducive to the healthy development of body and mind.
At the same time, they have extraordinary willpower and will be ruthless in some ways.
They seldom listen to other people's opinions, and it is difficult to change their decisions and put themselves in others' shoes.
Compared with ordinary people, they are more rational, insist on their own independence in action, are hard to be influenced by the outside world, are easy to go their own way, are headstrong, and can't listen to other people's opinions and reasonable suggestions.
There are many such allusions in history: Cao Cao's Walking in Glory, Chu's Embattled and Ma Su's Lost Street Pavilion are all caused by arbitrariness.
A good intimate relationship is that both sides are equal and get along well.
But when you get along with a strong-willed and arbitrary person, you will feel that this relationship is unequal. You are controlled by his consciousness, and it is hard to resist. You must obey him.
When you try to point out that this is inequality, your relationship comes to an end.
The so-called people who stay away from the success of quitting smoking in life only emphasize the negative impact of strong willpower on the social level and the possible personality defects of smokers, and do not criticize the successful people who quit smoking morally.