After reading Will Bowen's "A World Without Complaints", I came to the following conclusion: If I had fewer useless complaints and more understanding and useful actions, my life would be more practical. Sense of happiness.

I accidentally came across the news that a bus crashed into a lake in Anshun, Guizhou, which shocked me. The cause of the accident also caused an uproar among the public: the driver had a bad life and deliberately retaliated against society.

It is not enough to end one's life voluntarily, but one must also drag innocent passengers along with him to be buried with him. Does this driver know that when you drink liquor regardless of your life and step on the accelerator to go to hell, these innocent people originally stepped onto this bus with full trust in you and entrusted their lives to you, and you But he betrayed their trust.

Thinking of the many cases of self-mutilation, revenge, and murder over the years, I can’t help but feel: Our science and technology is developing rapidly, but the development of human thought and spiritual world seems to have stagnated, and even There are some signs of regression. At least in the past, even if people lived as lowly as ants, they still knew how to survive; however, nowadays, while people are desperately pursuing material things, their lives seem to have become even more humble.

The source of these phenomena seems to be summed up in one word: complaint.

Complaining not only refers to people around you chatting in your ears about dissatisfaction, but also refers to any negative and resentful emotions and psychology caused by dissatisfaction with the status quo. This kind of complaining will produce The corresponding consequences - dissatisfaction, hatred, malice and even revenge.

If it hadn’t been for the Anshun bus crashing into the lake, causing many casualties, maybe we wouldn’t know that somewhere in Anshun, there is a person who has accumulated a lot of pain in his heart because of the unsatisfactory and unfair life. The complaining emotions are not released in time. When they are gathered to the point where the heart can no longer hold them, they suddenly burst out and cause accidents. Only then do we know about it.

Coincidentally, a woman from Anshun also had strong complaints against her husband because she suspected that she had no future, which prompted her to have the idea of ????killing her husband, resulting in her husband being stabbed to death.

There are countless such examples.

This also shows that the world is not as peaceful as it seems on the surface. In fact, many dark psychology and emotions have grown in every corner, and people and objects are not as safe and sound as they appear on the surface.

For example, in "The Hidden Corner", Zhang Dongsheng, who seems gentle and harmless to outsiders, has lived in an environment of being despised and ridiculed for a long time in private. The repeated losses and embarrassments made him feel deep in his heart. The complaints from his parents-in-law and wife gathered little by little, and finally when they couldn't bear it any longer, they turned into a murderous demon without blinking an eye.

Complaints are everywhere.

Perhaps as American actor Lily Tomlin thinks:

Just like fish are not aware of the existence of water around them, and people are not aware of the existence of air, when people live In a world where there are always complaints, complaints have become a part of life and gradually become commonplace.

I always hear this sentence in life - "It's just a complaint, what's the big deal?"

Is this really the case? I don't think so.

I have personal experience. Many times when I am very interested in planning something, a complaint from a family member that I think is nothing may very well arouse my strong resentment and lead to a bad mood. affect the implementation of previous plans. If it gets more serious, it may lead to me being unable to achieve anything for a period of time.

Similarly, when I unconsciously complain angrily to them, the originally harmonious atmosphere will appear extremely cold and uneasy in the next few days.

The more serious problem is that when I regained my rationality, I found that I had wasted all my time complaining. Not only did I spend an uncomfortable time, but I also did not produce any beneficial results. . If I use this time to do other things, I can gain more. If you accumulate the time spent complaining every time in your life and concentrate on doing one thing, it will be an immortal achievement.

A small complaint can have a huge impact. I believe you have heard of the "butterfly effect". Any small fluctuation may cause subsequent violent storms. Just as a little gossip on the Internet can quickly turn into a weapon that causes depression and suicide, the same is true for complaints.

The driver's car crashed into the lake, the woman killed her husband, and Zhang Dongsheng's darkening state were all caused by the "violent storm" caused by the "flapping of butterfly wings" that was not taken seriously at the beginning.

Now that we recognize the existence of complaints and the need to eliminate them, we need to clear them out in a timely manner.

In the book "The Law of Results", James Allen has the following wonderful remarks:

Complaints are useless seeds, like weeds. If If not cleaned up in time, it will spread wantonly, rob nutrient resources, and eventually occupy the entire mind.

How to eliminate the feeling of complaining?

Dr. Angelou once said a famous saying:

In short, either change the object of your complaint, or change your own mentality.

When you feel dissatisfied due to objective factors in external things, the first thing that comes to mind is how to change the current situation so that you can fundamentally meet your needs.

In "I'm Not the God of Medicine", Cheng Yong is the "God of Medicine" in the eyes of all patients. However, in my opinion, his "God of Medicine" image actually reflects the tragedy of the people at the bottom of that society. color. Faced with the sky-high price of the leukemia drug Meglitin, most patients only think of complaining that the drug price is too high, and then continue to sell iron to buy the sky-high price drug while complaining, waiting blankly for the arrival of the "medicine god".

Perhaps it is impossible to change just by relying on one's weak power, but there is hope when moving forward, and it is impossible to retreat.

When you cannot change external things, you should adjust your heart in time, release your complaints, anger, and resentment, and do what you should do.

Tao Yuanming's "Miscellaneous Poems" said:

Life is short, we should not only enjoy ourselves in time, but also make good use of our time to create the greatest value in life.

(1) Think twice before acting

There is a famous saying by Indian yoga master Swami Kripalvanandji about complaints in "A World Without Complaints":

If you complain If it can help to solve the problem, then there is no problem in saying it; if it cannot, or even has the opposite effect, then it is better to keep it in your heart and find a place where no one is around to vent it out.

Facts have proved that most complaints cannot have a positive promotion effect.

(2) Attention Shift

In "The World Without Complaining", the author mentioned a "feat" he performed: sending "No Complaining Bracelets" to others "It is hoped that through this bracelet, the recipient's attention will be diverted, and they will no longer be immersed in complaints, but will devote their energy to this feat, and then pass on the positive mentality generated to other people. Create a chain effect.

Of course, we don’t have to stick to the bracelet method. We can use various methods to turn around and release our complaining mentality. For example, traveling, feeling the vastness of the world while traveling, can also open your mind and stop being persistent; for example, developing your own hobbies or certain skills can kill two birds with one stone. Even if you fall asleep and forget all your worries when you wake up, it is better than being awake and immersed in complaining, hurting others and yourself.

(3) The effect of trying not to complain

When you can’t help but be negative and want to complain, you might as well try to use a positive method to deal with it first to see what kind of effect it will have. Scientific research shows that people's hearts are always biased toward positive energy. If the result of not complaining can make people feel sunshine and happiness, then people's negative emotions will be weakened, and they will gradually move from darkness to light. This can also create a snowball effect.

Finally, imagine what would happen if one percent of the world didn't complain?

Author Will Bob gave his answer: There will be no more wars in this world, people will be more gentle and polite, there will be no difference in color, no more hatred, and there will be more Laughter.

In my opinion, if there is really one percent, then the world at that time must be completely different from what we see today, and it would be warmer and more harmonious.

What do you think?