"Love, don't spy on the person you love."
"Learning to admit failure is the beginning of rational life"
"Failure, thus excluding a class of men who are not worthy of love"
"Love is a poison, and we can only benefit a little."
"Love, like being a thief, needs memory, courage, fear, shame and insecurity."
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After reading Gulliver's Travels, I bought Lian Yue's new work "I Love Asking Lian Yue" in the bookstore on Sunday night-a collection of emotional question-and-answer columns published in Shanghai Weekly and Hope, from the beginning of 2003 to the end of 2005, as a sequel to "I am chicken soup". I watched it for several nights. Several titles of this book are listed above. Thanks to Southern Weekend, like Shen Hongfei, Mao Jian and others, Lian Yue is the first columnist I read and have been paying attention to. This guy, who used to be a prosecutor and a newspaper reporter, has recently been concerned by public opinion because he spared no effort to question the PX project in Xiamen in his blog. In addition, Southern People Weekly, a subsidiary of Southern Weekend, where he once worked, published an interview with Wang Xiaobo 10 (No.9, 2007). There is nothing special about this article, but Lian Yue himself refused to publish it after an interview.
/kloc-It seems a little early to say that Lian Yue is Wang Xiaobo after 0/0 years. Unless Xia Lian can put aside the column and make a similar "time trilogy". I believe that Lian Daxia has such potential, because only from his columns and several books compiled by these columns, the ideological and interesting content is really wavelet-like. In a report that Lian Yue himself did not agree to publish, he said: "In the current political commentary, he was worried about the country and the people, and his pen was sharp and hit the nail on the head. In fashion newspapers, it is bitter to talk about emotional problems with petty bourgeoisie youth in Shanghai, which makes his fans both happy and particularly disgusted. " This is very objective. It is rare to see such a lovely columnist, who has insisted on current political comments and emotional columns every week for several years, holding a big stick in one hand and a rose in the other.
I love to ask Lian Yue that book is a bit thick-besides, it has only been published for three years. Fortunately, it feels good to pick it up, and it feels like a bible when turned over-in fact, it often quotes the above stories and proverbs.
It's just someone else's words from Yu Shiming to warn the world, but it's definitely not a skill. In that case, it is enough for us to buy a famous saying from the bookstore. But these famous sayings can't solve our problems-if we have problems. Lian Yue's skill is to find and use the "truth" of love in other people's stories-sometimes just common sense, and turn his words into "quotations"!
Wise and interesting, sometimes quoting classics, sometimes mocking and teasing, sometimes sharp and humorous, and sometimes bitter. Lian's love book is full of words of wisdom about feelings, endless and outrageous. I carefully extracted these words according to my habit, making them look like textbooks. It is indeed the love bible of this era. A bean friend said that his mother asked him (her) to hide the book, which might be useful when the child grew up.
If our descendants still need to read such books, I don't know if it is lucky or unfortunate-maybe it is Lian Yue's luck.
Look at those letters inside, those experiences that confuse and distress the parties, and they will be afraid. Is love really that complicated? Always believe or just want to believe, feelings are simple. Love simply, peacefully and honestly, and be loved. Lian Yue also said: "The core structure of two people's love is that you love him and he loves you." (P266) But don't people who write letters also believe or believe? So I'm afraid this is just a wish. Reality often complicates things. So I had this kind of distress, and then I talked about it, and then I had this book. However, in spite of this, I still hope that people are not too complicated.
Fortunately, even an adult's needle-like Tai Chi pusher can make these troubles disappear. It turns out that things can also look on the bright side! In other words, even the protagonist's "sarcastic words combined with calmness", such as pouring cold water from the beginning, can alert those who are trapped by love.
Lian Yue has a clear, firm and simple sunny position on love and marriage, which is rare-especially as a man in his thirties. In Lian Yue's works, you can't see ambiguous words, you can't hear marginal encouragement, and you don't have to worry about hypocritical preaching. For example, about whether divorce will affect children's concerns, he said: "Children are just meat tickets tied by you", "I would rather be a damaged prophet than a sound slave; I would rather have a responsible, normal and warm single-parent family than a marriage hell like a concentration camp "(P3). Regarding how to strive for "happiness", he said: "There is no doubt that happy people may make wrong decisions and there is no need to be afraid. The essence of happiness is that we dare to make decisions, not just the right ones. People who never dare to make a decision will never make a wrong judgment, but will become more and more unhappy "(P39). For those who are desperate for love, he said, "Love will bring us endless troubles, so let's go up and down, because it is an indispensable element in life" (P62). Even if you are injured, you should "learn your life-saving skills, wait for the light in the dark, and know that your heartbreak will eventually pass" (p77). He told us that love is like a dream, "a sweet dream … can make us wake up sweetly the next day;" A nightmare ... when we wake up, it will only make us grow an atmosphere, as if we were left behind "(P79). Therefore, we also want to thank the failed love, "remember the good of each love, forget the bad of each love, let the benign experience accumulate and the emotional intelligence accumulate" (P 199), "The success rate of our next love is higher". Never be rude, because "every time you have an activity, there may be your potential lover among the onlookers" (P278). Be confident that "to some extent, you can be what you want to be" (P 195), such as "If a person describes his happiness as much as possible, he will become a happy person" (P320).
"Life is lonely, find an interesting person." Even if you can't find it at the moment, it's no big deal. At least there is this interesting book. And those who are also lonely at night in the city.