Being a human being must be scheming.
Being a human being must be scheming. Walking in society, you cannot live without scheming. As the saying goes, you must not guard against others if you want to harm others. Mindfulness is indispensable. We can use it to guard against others but we cannot use it to harm others. Let me join you to see how to be scheming. A person must be scheming 1
A person must be scheming and do things with skill
"Scheming" is not exactly the same as "scheming", "scheming" is a kind of wisdom, a kind of Strategy, and "scheming" is a kind of calculation and a kind of mind. Being "scheming" means that in the process of dealing with others, you should pay attention to methods, strategies, and flexibility, so as to establish good interpersonal relationships, respond flexibly and tactfully to the world, and reach the other side of success with ease.
One of the schemings: be willing to forget about worries, eat well, and think openly
In life, distress and pain are inevitable. Life is short. If you are always worried about unhappiness, Then, life will be gloomy and joyful will be rare. Since suffering is inevitable, why not look at it a little bit, be content with what you have, be grateful, and be able to take it and let it go.
Scheming No. 2: Be kind to others, don’t use tricks, be open-minded and open-minded
Be more enthusiastic and less indifferent, bravely pursue the life you want, and live happily in the present. To be kind to others is to be kind to yourself, and to save face for others is to save face for yourself. As a person, you must have a sincere heart, be beautiful as an adult without taking advantage of others' dangers, treat others with integrity, live with integrity, be more considerate of others, don't always be jealous, and don't always look at people through colored glasses, and be tolerant. You can also reap the same rewards by treating others
The third scheming factor: having a sharp eye, knowing people and their hearts, and being considerate of the wise
It is inevitable in life You have to deal with all kinds of people, good people, bad people, enemies and friends. . . . . . There are countless kinds of them. However, to identify who are real friends and who are truly worthy of association, we need to practice Sun Wukong’s piercing eyes, make friends with gentlemen and stay away from villains; make friends with wise men and stay away from fools, choose the good ones and follow them, and learn to discern with a wise eye. people.
The fourth scheming: advance and retreat freely, bend and stretch to develop strategies, and be a person with spiritual energy
Life is a war. On the battlefield, you cannot just advance and not retreat. Therefore, life should also advance and retreat. Retreating is not admitting defeat or cowardice. Retreating at the right time is for better progress. Small intolerance will mess up big plans. Only by being patient with small things can you achieve big things. Be able to bend and stretch, have a certain degree of flexibility, and retract when you see fit. Leave room for maneuver whenever possible. Be relaxed and have a certain degree of aura.
The fifth scheming: Reciprocity, communication, mutual benefit
China has always regarded itself as a helper of etiquette, giving a peach, repaying a plum, reciprocity, this is what thousands of Chinese Years of tradition. "Etiquette" travels all over the world, but without "property" it is difficult to move forward. Etiquette is the stepping stone to open up interpersonal relationships. Sending goose feathers thousands of miles away is light and affectionate. Etiquette is the lubricant that brings interpersonal relationships closer. Burning incense more often when you are free, having someone help you when you are in a hurry, giving roses to others, leaving fragrance in your hands, and helping others at critical moments actually leaves you room to retreat.
The sixth scheming: Wise words are like a spring breeze, and you are proud of the world
As the saying goes: "Wise words make flowers", "A good word warms the winter for three months, and a bad word hurts a person for six months." "One tongue can distinguish more than a million teachers", which shows the great charm of language. In history, the Empress Dowager Zhao and Zhuge Liang used their words to argue against the Confucian scholars. However, there are also people in history who have caused trouble by speaking out, such as Yang Xiu. Therefore, speaking should be appropriate and tactful, depending on the occasion, and should vary from person to person and from situation to situation. Only in this way can we be calm and calm while talking and laughing, and be proud of the world.
The seventh idea: be brave in innovation, cultivate determination, and everything depends on human efforts
The times are developing, society is progressing, the wheel of history is making great strides forward in a vigorous way, and the big waves wash away the weak. In the arena of life, only by being ambitious, forging ahead, surpassing oneself, and constantly innovating can we continue to make progress and succeed. If a person has no ambition, he will have hope. If he has ambition, he will have motivation. People can make things happen, and God can make things happen. If you put your ideals into action, you will be successful in life.
The eighth scheming: be patient in dealing with the world, be able to handle life with ease, and live with wealth and wisdom
Things in the world are ever-changing, life is like a drama, and people’s hearts are unpredictable. As a person, you must learn to hide your secrets and learn the philosophy of confusion. Be more defensive and have more ways to deal with them. When the water is clear, there will be no fish, and when people are careful, there will be no disciples. Keep a proper distance from others, don’t care about everything, endure it when you need to, and bow your head when you need to, behave with wisdom, and achieve the glory of life.
Use stones from other mountains to attack jade, and learn from other people’s experiences to achieve your own success. Being a human being requires scheming 2
1. Expose small flaws appropriately to fulfill others’ competitive ambitions. Everyone has a competitive spirit. If you can satisfy other people's competitive spirit and develop a good impression of you, then what's the harm in exposing some minor flaws that are insignificant and do not harm the overall situation? Although this is just a small "scheming", it has a big effect and will make others like you more, thereby gaining good interpersonal relationships.
2. Don’t get into trouble easily and try not to offend others. Anyone who enters into right and wrong is right and wrong. It is better not to provoke right and wrong easily. There is a lot of trouble behind right and wrong, and you are likely to offend others because of it. To be a human being, you still need to have this basic level of intelligence and scheming.
3. Use softness to overcome strength, mice and cats can also become good friends. It seems impossible for a mouse and a cat to make friends, but it is possible if they have the same interests. Sometimes the mouse's "scheming" really makes the cat admire it. In other words, when you are in a weak position, you must have the fortitude and scheming to overcome strength with softness.
4. White lies make people grateful. Lies are naturally shameful, but white lies are sometimes better and more acceptable than telling the truth. At certain times in life, we are likely to tell some "good lies". At this time, our starting point is kindness and beauty, and we are thinking about others. It is as popular as being honest and trustworthy; on the contrary, if we still Choosing to tell the truth is a sign of heartlessness and lack of scheming.
5. Suffering a loss is a blessing, so why not suffer a small loss. We must strive for some benefits that we should strive for, but sometimes it is not a bad idea to suffer a small loss and let others take advantage. Remember, there are times in life that must come, but there are times in life that don’t force you. If you have to force everything and don't want to suffer a little loss, then you may not get what you want, but it will make people hate you.
6. Good medicine does not have to be bitter. Needless to say, being direct and giving criticism and suggestions to others is very unflattering, especially when you are facing a leader. Since ancient times, those who have given advice have been those who lead slowly, those who are positive and contrary, and those who are correct and correct. If you say criticisms and unpleasant words in a more pleasant way, then you can gain benefits whether you are interacting with leaders or ordinary people. If you like it, you can not only show your high opinion, but also be easy to accept.
7. It is truly good when all sides are well-equipped. If you want to be invincible in life and make friends, it is best to have such a kind of strategy and scheming, that is: do not rely on any party obviously, so as not to see the other party suffer misfortune when one is proud, or to gain power when the other party At that time, he himself was also severely hit.
8. Don’t offend villains, and don’t draw a clear line with them. As the saying goes, "It's hard to raise a villain." Although we don't necessarily want to make the "villain" like him, we must not offend him easily, at least on the surface. If we treat villains with hatred and draw clear boundaries with them, we will become the targets of villains.
9. When people are under the eaves, it is best to lower their heads. Ninety-eight out of ten unsatisfactory things in life occur. In life, we will inevitably encounter difficulties, rely on others, and live by the eyes of others. At this time, we must be able to endure it, keep our heads low, and don't act out of emotion. This is the manifestation of a deep city. .