"My life is not good. If only I had been born in a rich family. "

"My parents are incompetent and can't give me any help."

"My life is really miserable."

……

However, is this really the case?

In fact, no one can help you with fate, only you can control it.

Those who believe in fate will follow it.

People who don't believe in fate lead it in different directions.

In this life, do the following three things well, and your fate is up to you.

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Reading: not the only way out, but the best way out.

The film The Storm on Harvard Road tells the story of the protagonist Liz's tortuous life.

She grew up in a slum, her parents were addicted to drugs and alcohol, and her mother was schizophrenic.

Parents quarrel about drug abuse every day and use all their savings to satisfy their drug addiction.

When peers grow up carefree in the arms of their parents, Liz can't even meet the basic food and clothing.

I can only wander around the city, enduring cynicism and begging for a living.

Later, she gradually realized that reading can change her destiny, which is her only way out.

So, she studied while working, completed the four-year course in two years and tried to apply for a full scholarship.

Suffering held her back, reading saved her, and her life changed completely at the moment she entered Harvard.

As the lines in the movie say:

"I know there is a better and richer life outside, and I want to live in that world."

Maybe God is unfair. Some people are born rich, while others are born miserable.

Although we can't choose our origins, we can change our destiny.

If you want to attack life, reading is the lowest way and the fastest and most direct way to change your destiny.

Nobody cares about your background, nobody cares about your appearance,

As long as you get good grades, you have a chance to go to a good university.

Learn more, know more people and live a relatively good life.

Every ordinary person who works hard will get the best return in life.

Many friends around me are from small towns, and their families are generally even poor, but they study hard.

Go out of the country through reading, and strive to take root in the city, so that children can get a good education and parents can get good medical conditions.

Their life is not great in the eyes of ordinary people, but only they know the hardships and efforts.

It's not inspirational, it's a story of reinventing yourself; It's not a question of winning or losing, it's time to change your destiny.

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Marriage: It's really different with whom.

I went back to my hometown the other day and heard an amazing news.

Xiaomi, the daughter of neighbor Aunt Chen, was arrested for misappropriating public funds.

Xiaomi, who graduated from a prestigious school, successfully entered a public institution as an accountant after graduation.

Because of her outstanding work ability, she has been highly valued by the leaders and has been promoted several times.

Originally living a stable and happy life, Xiaomi was brought into the "big pit" of gambling by her husband.

After occasionally tasting the sweetness once or twice, the two began to gamble more and more, lost several times in succession, and borrowed usury outside.

Finally, getting deeper and deeper, she was desperate, but even at the instigation of her husband, she made up her mind about the unit. ...

Originally, I had a good hand, but I went along with the bad guys and beat them to death.

In fact, on the road of life, every road you walk, everyone you meet,

Everything you do has a subtle influence on your destiny, and the people next to you have a greater influence.

Being with people with positive energy will always instill excellent qualities and ideas into you subtly.

Being with people with negative energy will only lead to decadence and eventually ruin their lives.

Alyssa Chia, the "tragedy of giants", is like this.

The first marriage was married to a rich family, but it became a joke. I tore it up with my ex-husband when I got divorced.

She often appeared in front of the media in tears and asked her ex-husband for custody of her daughter.

I lost face, lost my youth and money, and almost cut off all the job opportunities in Alyssa Chia.

Fortunately, Alyssa Chia later met a letter of introduction that spoiled her like a child.

Alyssa Chia, nourished by love, seems to have returned to more than ten years ago.

The birth of two lovely babies not only has the value of rejuvenation, but also has a good audience relationship, and the family and career are both fruitful.

A bad hand turned over completely, and the wrong person still won back.

This marriage is like a pair of shoes. What kind of shoes you wear and what kind of road you take can determine how far you go.

Meeting the wrong person will not only make your feet bleed, but also make you fall and bleed.

And when you meet the right person, you can make great strides in the right direction.

03

Work: Hold the steering wheel of life in your own hands.

Think of the tenth anniversary party and see the most beautiful girl in our class before.

Unlike her radiant appearance a few years ago, she seems to be a different person now.

Her gaunt face, fat figure, beautiful and arrogant appearance as a student have completely disappeared from her now.

I remember when I was studying, we went to the study room to review, but she kept lying in the dormitory watching TV dramas and playing games.

We are busy with graduation practice, and she is busy with dating. In order to find the best candidate, boyfriends changed one after another;

When we were busy looking for a job, she had found the right person and began to prepare for marriage;

After taking part in the work, we stay up late and work overtime every day. She concentrates on being her full-time wife and enjoys the feeling of being "raised".

Unfortunately, such a happy married life did not last long.

Within two years, men began to dislike her becoming fat and ugly, and even complained that she failed to support him in career and economy.

She can only rely entirely on men economically, and can only humbly endure men's infidelity, abuse and unwarranted accusations, and her life is in dire straits.

What kind of life a person wants depends on his own hands.

If you want to spend the rest of your life with an excellent person, you must first shape yourself into an equally excellent person.

Su Mingyu in "Everything is Fine" overcame her own predicament in "Descendants".

Efforts have changed fate, and living high is pride;

Andy in Ode to Joy, although her family is unfortunate, she armed herself with knowledge.

Protect yourself with work income, make yourself and your loved ones live better, and don't rely on anyone;

Luo Zijun in My First Half Life had unlimited potential.

But I was deceived by my husband's lie "I support you" and finally abandoned.

In this life, any accident may happen and anyone may change his mind.

But the money earned from work won't cheat you, and the sense of security brought by work won't cheat you.

Work is the most practical way to change your destiny.

The income from work can give you the right to make your own choices.

Let yourself decide who to be with, when to have children, and so on.

Work can broaden your circle of friends and give you a chance to see more possibilities in the world.

Meet more excellent people, even the one who wants to spend the rest of his life with you.

You can even stand beside the person you love in the future.

Whether he is rich or not, you can open your hand and hug him frankly.

He has money, so you won't feel aloof; He is poor, so you won't be down and out.

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Write it at the end

Zhang Xiaoxian said:

What really changes our destiny is not our opportunity, but our attitude.

The so-called blessing is actually aimed at most people, but some people caught it and some let it go.

There is no fate in this world, only people who are unwilling to be mediocre.

No matter where you are in your life now, don't give up the opportunity to change yourself.

Even if it is only a small step forward, it is better than standing where it is now.

May you do it, don't believe in fate, and don't accept it.

May you not be trapped by time or skin.

Seize every opportunity to change your destiny and live a wonderful life.