No one's life will be smooth sailing. When we can't get what we want, our hearts will be full of regrets, but we don't know that life will be happier with some regrets.
Everyone has regrets to fill, and everyone will find their own world in the process full of regrets and make it shine.
Life has no draft, life is not perfect, and life is full of regrets. This is the real life.
In the program Hello Life, Zhu Xun said tearfully: The biggest regret in life is that he didn't let his father go home for the last time.
Zhu Xun said that his father wanted to go home before he died, and even sat on the bed with a tube after his death. But if her father's pipe is unplugged, he may leave in a few hours, and he may not be able to go home. For this reason, she could not agree to her father's request to unplug the pipe and would not let him go home.
Three days later, my father left forever, leaving with regret that he didn't go home. Zhu Xun was very sad, desperate and helpless.
Life is like this. People who miss love fail to fulfill their wishes, and often dwell on the impossible and unfinished emotions. As we all know, people's abilities are limited. Yes, everyone can't do things and make mistakes. We can't tire ourselves and drag others down because of the disappointments in life.
Life is a process of growing up in imperfection. Accepting the imperfection of reality and recognizing who you really are is the most mature performance of a person.
There is a video on Weibo, in which the husband dies and the wife is asked to speak at her husband's funeral. I thought it would be a sad video, but it looks different. My wife said with emotion:
Today, I'm not going to praise my husband here, and I'm not going to say anything nice about him, because everyone has said a lot and listened a lot. Today, I want to share with you something that may make you feel uncomfortable.
He snores as loudly as a car engine, and then he will continue to make continuous exhaust pipe sound effects. Sometimes because the sound is too loud, even he himself will wake up from his dream and be surprised to ask why it is so loud.
But after his illness worsened, these voices became a comfort, reminding me that he was still alive, and now … I can't hear these voices before going to bed any more.
Life is like this. What we remember most in our common life is that these little imperfect things have condensed into perfection in our hearts.
Ji Xianlin, a master of literature, said: Everyone wants a perfect life. However, there is no perfect life at all times and in all countries, so I think that imperfection is life.
All mistakes, regrets and pains, whether they can be made up or forgiven, have become the reality that personnel changes must face.
Everyone has some unfinished business. No one likes to leave regrets in life, but it is inevitable that regrets will become the theme of life.
Everything can't be smooth in life. It is precisely because the moon is round and sunny that we can see the different forms of the moon. It is precisely because of these regrets that we can meet the people and things now. Sometimes, regret means another kind of perfection.
Lin Yutang told you more than once that life is beautiful and moving not because of perfection and Anshun, but because of imperfection and twists and turns.
Master and apprentice meet to see the lotus, but the time is not right. When they came to the lotus pond, it was already late autumn, and there was no colorful prosperity at all. Only the lotus leaves in the pond turned yellow and the flowers withered.
The apprentice sighed with emotion: "The years are ruthless, and the late autumn is cold. Aren't you sad? " Wait until next year to see the lotus! "
Master was very satisfied and said, "I have seen the magnificent scenery of the pool, and my heart is full of joy."
Disciples were puzzled: "Where is the prosperity?"
Master also said, "Isn't it a splendid sight that the lotus leaves are thin and the lotus roots are fat?"
In the same pond, the apprentice saw the lotus leaf wither and the lotus fell on the water, and his heart was desolate. Master saw the complete lotus root and the fat lotus root hidden under the water.
It is a natural law that the autumn wind is cold and the plants are withered. Don't stay on the surface of the broken, but see the inner richness, which is a keen insight into the essence of things.
Instead of clinging to what you see in front of you and worrying about what you are suffering from, you should see the beauty hidden in the depths of things through appearances, so that you can see your heart clearly, return to nature without being fascinated by foreign things and see your true self.
Shortcomings can be deep accumulation, which can be transformed into the motivation to pursue perfection.
Perfection is ideal, imperfection is reality, and the full accumulation between ideal and reality will inevitably enrich life and move towards the other side of happiness.
Defects are not terrible, as long as the smile is right, it is the most beautiful!
In people's eyes, "flower Xie" is a kind of regret, and it is precisely because of it that people expect "flowers to bloom"; "Lack of the moon" is a pity, and it is precisely because of the "lack of the moon" that people expect the "full moon".
All the flowers are full moons, and all the separation and reunion fill all the shortcomings of human beings. It creates beauty again and again, making people feel comfortable and no longer regretful!
We should eliminate the pain of failure, shake hands with shortcomings, and turn it into beauty and perfection.
There is no need to pursue perfection, because life is beautiful because of defects.
As the legend of Wukong said, "No creation in the world will be perfect, but sometimes defects will be more beautiful."
Socrates, a great scholar in ancient Greece, said: "Life is an unrepeatable choice. Facing the irreversible life, we can only do three things: make a solemn choice and try not to leave regrets; If you regret it, face it rationally and then strive for change; If you can't change it, accept it bravely, don't regret it and move on. "
When Beethoven wandered in the world of music, he enjoyed the happiness brought by music. There is something wrong with his ears. After that, his hearing declined day by day, which eventually led to deafness.
Deafness hit him hard. He can no longer hear his favorite music and can no longer create music. However, Beethoven was very persistent in music. He practiced listening with bone conduction, and even though he was deaf, he still created great masterpieces.
Beethoven's defects are fatal, but he took his fate into his own hands, regarded the lack of shock as a gift, worked hard to pursue his ideals, brought the meaning of life to the extreme, and became a great musician.
Beethoven could still compose great music when he was deaf. I have to say, this is not perfect!
Bai once said: "Defect is an important part of perfection, and imperfection is life.
Everyone's fate is very different, but the goodness of this world lies in that we can all make full use of life in our own way.
I once read a story that a tailor accidentally burned a hole in a high-end skirt. In order to recover the loss, he cut many holes around the skirt with superb skills and decorated it with Phnom Penh, named it "phoenix tail skirt", but after it was put on the shelves, it was in short supply.
The original regret, because of wisdom, did not complain and did not give up, turned into another better ending, so that regret is no longer a regret, but another beauty of one thing.
Remember Shen Congwen's words: "Get up when you fall, and be ungrateful when you hit a pit". Isn't life a journey full of regrets?
Regret gives birth to people's inspiration, enlightens people's hearts and stimulates people's pursuit. Regret is not only a kind of nostalgia, but also a kind of suffering; More often, regret is an internal force that leads you to another more complete life and creates extraordinary value; It is also because of regret that life has a charm worth waiting for and remembering.
Facing the regret of life, we should learn to forgive and let go, and manage our own beautiful life in liberation and detachment.