Trial-and-error method is a common method to solve problems and acquire knowledge, that is, to try various possible answers systematically or randomly according to existing experience.
Used in children, it is to let children do it themselves and get in touch with new things. Although the result is not perfect and may be flawed, it allows them to explore and verify the fruits of labor in the process of continuous trying, so as to achieve the purpose of self-adjustment and rapid growth.
Shen Yifei, an associate professor at Fudan University who specializes in "family studies" and "women's studies", said: "Children's growth is spiral. Only by constantly trying and making mistakes will they know how to move forward."
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Trial and error is the only way for children to grow up. Growth means constantly knowing yourself, and having a clearer understanding of yourself through trial and error again and again.
Remember the story of the pony crossing the river? The pony crossed the river. Uncle Niu told him that the water was not deep, and the little squirrel told him that the water was deep. Pony doesn't know who to listen to. Later, he tried to get into the water and found out. Oh, this river is not as deep as Uncle Niu said, nor as shallow as Little Squirrel said. Some things, how do you know until you try?
The Stork, the best animated short film at the 89th Academy Awards, tells a story that makes children try and make mistakes.
The mother snipe is foraging at the seaside, and the little snipe is waiting by. Suddenly, the mother found delicious food, and the little snipe opened its mouth, waiting for her mother to feed it. Unexpectedly, her mother pushed it to the seaside and let it find food by itself.
The little snipe who came to the seaside for the first time was very excited, but was fanned aside by the sudden waves. He hurried back to his nest, scared and at a loss.
But later, with the encouragement of her mother, the little snipe overcame her inner fear, not only saw different scenery in the waves, but also made unexpected discoveries.
Is this very similar to our life?
If parents protect them too well, they will only turn children with unlimited potential into giant babies.
Many times, we are slow and clumsy in looking after children and make many mistakes.
I really want to intervene.
But as everyone knows, children need to hit the wall in person in order to truly master the skills of survival.
We always want to tell our children everything we know so that they don't have to waste time trying.
In fact, whether your life experience is a shortcut or not, even if it is, it is a skill that children need to hit the wall again and again to master.
Looking back on ourselves, when did we take the words of our elders seriously when we were young?
Don't you realize how right your elders are after hitting the wall again and again?
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Professor Li Meijin once said: Adult's criminal behavior can be traced back to his childhood, and children's problems are all caused by adults.
When a child makes a mistake, the attitude of parents determines the child's life path.
When parents are grumpy, scolding and obsessed with mistakes, children learn to lie, hide, evade their responsibilities and even go in the wrong direction; Parents allow their children to make mistakes and accept their mistakes, and children will face them positively and will not make the same mistakes again.