This famous saying, which was originally circulated only in Hollywood, is all the rage in almost all fields. In the dictionary, the definition of personal relationship is "interpersonal context formed through interpersonal relationship", which is just a network of interpersonal relationships. Connections is not a simple guanxi, the former is a relatively neutral word, and the latter is Chinglish with the meaning of entering through the back door. From this perspective, nepotism is not a personal relationship. Therefore, the story repeatedly quoted by those network experts: Bill Gates signed a contract with IBM with his mother's resources on the board of directors just after he debuted, and made his first bucket of gold. In fact, it has nothing to do with the quality of network management. Because contacts are made the day after tomorrow, and sons are born by themselves! ~ ~ o(& gt； _ & lt)o ~~

I think proper network management will bring you at least five benefits:

The so-called well-informed people are often experts in network management. If they get accurate information in advance, they will undoubtedly get real money in the mall. In the workplace, accurate and exclusive information will also enable them to seize the favorable position and take the lead.

Opportunities here refer to the positive opportunities and challenges provided by "helping the nobles" in their career development. From promotion to risk warning, to training places and interview qualifications, their lives may change (or remain unchanged).

Get direct material and economic help because of personal relationship. This kind of situation is rare, or it is originally provided by extremely close family relationships, or short-term assistance with a small amount of help, but it is also possible to get timely and effective support at critical moments, such as short-term loans for business, borrowing cars and houses in life, and so on.

Mentors provide personal growth guidance and advice, which is a good way to broaden your horizons and grow rapidly (such as any Yong Cheng); The boss (or senior in the workplace) takes the initiative to introduce and set an example, which is an accelerator for him to get started quickly and integrate into the circle.

Sometimes, connections are really like money. Money can make money, and well-managed contacts can expand communication, thus obtaining wider and higher-end contacts. Knowing a boss can make more bosses, know a director and know more directors. . . Of course, this is only theoretical and requires premises (which will be discussed later)

Personally, personal relationships really need to be managed well, but no matter how many skills you have, you must first conduct them under the guidance of principles. I have five principles:

Sincerity is the first priority of interpersonal communication. For people with lower social status and qualifications than you, only by being honest with each other can you get a sincere response, and you can't be condescending and arrogant. This attitude is a big taboo for network management. Similarly, for high-end contacts, they are all prodigies. If you have ulterior motives and want to get something from them, I'm afraid it's easy to see through.

Being kind to others and keeping company with neighbors is the best mode of interpersonal harmony. A friendly attitude can be preconceived and ease the atmosphere. For the non-promotion industry, if you enter the stranger society now, it will give people a good first impression to keep a kind smile first. However, we should also pay attention to harmony without difference, sharing weal and woe, especially in work interaction. Colleagues can't just live in harmony, be a good person, and finally all the problems must be borne by themselves. In foreign work, we should not indulge others' unreasonable demands because of harmony, and then violate the work ethics or abandon the principle, and finally lose the meaning of work cooperation.

If you want to have a good network, it is one thing to manage with your heart, but if you can achieve high-end enough to build a professional elite personal brand, then many network resources will continue to take the initiative to find themselves.

The essence of positive output is to convey your value to others. It is difficult for a person who is unwilling to help others to get help from others. A person who doesn't want to be used by others, how can he easily use others to achieve his goal? Actively exporting your own value, including sharing and being kind to others at work, sharing and communicating in life and sharing and communicating in hobbies, can send positive energy to others, thus giving people roses and leaving fragrance in their hands.

If you are like a star and try to radiate light and heat around you, planets will naturally gather to form brilliant galaxies. Multi-dimensional output, first, emphasizes that output can not be simply output and upward or downward communication, but also includes communication on the network, communication between neighbors and even communication in the living area. Secondly, there are many ways to emphasize communication, whether it's a greeting card from the office, a phone call from a friend I haven't seen for years, participation in community and network activities, or a car club or a book club, there will be a pleasant surprise!

At present, many contact managers classify contacts in such detail that some cases may be multi-attribute or intertwined, which makes people unable to start, thus leading to the collapse of the contact management system; However, some network managers do the opposite: simply divide the network into two categories (or three categories) that are useful to me and temporarily useless. Too simple division may be called concise and effective, but the disadvantage is that too utilitarian division will develop too utilitarian network management methods in the subconscious, thus violating my network management principles, which is not my dish. In fact, the classification of my personal contacts is quite complicated: it is mainly divided into several circles: family contacts, classmates and comrades-in-arms, colleagues, growth, professional circles, hobbies and other businesses. If there is overlap between them, the classification is determined by the main attribute. For example, I and a primary school classmate are colleagues at the same time, so he and I are mainly colleagues, so they are classified as colleagues.

The core of network management still lies in management, but at the same time, it is necessary to adopt appropriate methods and grasp the correct direction, so as to better and more effectively realize advanced network management and give full play to its value.

While the iron is hot, you need to be hard. If you can become an expert in a certain field and a leader in an industry, then you are the key node of personal network, and naturally it is easy to weave a personal network circle with yourself as the core. Without saying anything, peaches and plums are left to their own devices. They can glow and give off heat, and someone comes to keep warm in winter nights. Instead of digging up contacts for the high-end care of the upper level, it is better to practice your internal strength first. When you can gain a firm foothold, you may have inadvertently gathered around a lot of people you could only look up to in the past.

In principle, it has been said before that being honest with others is the first principle. At the same time, it is also said here that being honest with people is a means of network management, which makes people feel your sincerity. It's hard to be honest with others. I'm definitely not the kind of person who says I'm a sincere person all day and then does nothing. That's really lazy. Be honest with others, be equal to others without affectation, be sincere to others without flattery, and be true to others without hypocrisy. Take stock of yourself, can you do it?

No pains, no gains is common sense, and it is a very common law to return the favor. Even newcomers with the lowest position and nothing must follow this rule. So, if you don't feel anything, what can you give?

The catenary is the same as the sulcus of the brain. The more you use it, the smoother it will be. If you don't contact frequently, the path will gradually become a dead end and the network will be broken. How can I keep in touch, especially those who don't often contact or meet new friends?

If you want to attack it first, you must use sharp tools first. Appropriate software or tools can often make your personal network management system run more smoothly. What tools or software do you use to establish and improve your personal network management system? This is indeed a matter of opinion:

Undoubtedly, this is the most traditional network management system, which is simple and reliable. It will not become an information island because of the loss of mobile phone caused by computer crash, but its shortcomings can not be underestimated, and it is difficult to update and inconvenient to modify. If you lose it or encounter an inconvenient occasion, it will make people crazy. This method was often used occasionally by leading colleagues in the 1950s and 1960s.

Most people are used to using mobile phone address book as the core tool of personal network management. Quick contact, portability and easy switching are the core, not to mention the convenient cloud synchronization of android and os systems. Even if it is not a smart cottage, you can transfer the contact information by copying the contact to the sim card. It's just that the shortcomings are obvious The biggest problem is that this method is mainly aimed at mobile phone contacts themselves, and many friends who don't have mobile phones are easily overlooked.

In her blog post "What have I done with Evernote over the years (V)-Personal Management", Miss Shen mentioned that using Evernote to manage personal contacts is a very powerful personal contact management tool. Installing this software in your smartphone will make it very convenient to manage your personal contacts, and you can also take photos to record the key moments of their first meeting to deepen your memory. (See Miss Shen's blog post for details. )

Many software specially used for network management, such as Hongyan Network Management and Jiameng Personal Assistant, are also favored by business people. Because of specialty, it is excellent. According to Datura's network management theory, this special network management software helps them manage their own networks systematically, which is very good and powerful, but I am still skeptical about the compatibility, ease of use and cross-platform of domestic software, so I have never used it or seen anyone around me use it. Relatively high-end.

Personally, I mainly manage my personal contacts through qq series products combined with Evernote and mobile phone calendar, supporting cloud synchronization and notes, and even circles will not merge automatically to distinguish outside circles. The disadvantage is that it is a bit cumbersome and needs to be further improved.

Network management is a systematic project, but it still needs to be built on its own strong foundation. A spider without a web may be a wandering wolf poisonous spider, and it may not necessarily be unable to prey on insects, but a spider without a web must be broken. . . . . .