I went home last week. Because there were not enough people to do it, the family called a temporary worker-Aunt Wang to help.

Aunt Wang and I were the only two people left at that time, and no one else happened to be at the scene. To be honest, Aunt Wang and I don't know each other. It's a bit awkward for the two of us to be alone. We don't talk to each other and only do things seriously. After a while, Aunt Wang broke the awkward atmosphere, but she raised a more embarrassing privacy question.

She asked: Little sister, are you 21 years old?

I got stuck when I heard it. Regarding "How old I am, I'm a little fuzzy. I only remember that I was born on 9*". But I roughly guessed what she was thinking, and I didn't want to answer her.

I smiled slightly and said: I... uh... I don't know...

When Aunt Wang heard this, she reacted quickly and said: You don't know? You don't want to tell me?

I am a straightforward person. When I heard it at that time, I thought of Master Miejie's famous saying: "Humph, you don't know whether to say something or not, so what else can you say!"

Then I said it casually (I smiled ): You all know that I don’t want to tell you, so why are you still struggling with this issue. "Aren't you asking for trouble?" (Out of politeness, I dare not say the latter sentence, and of course I don't know how to translate this sentence in Hokkien)

After hearing this, Aunt Wang said persistently: Don't be afraid, I have three children myself (the implication is that I am not interested in you)

The day passed in the blink of an eye, and at dinner time, my mother said, "I don't have a tutor." My mother said: Aunt Wang said she asked you how old you were and you told her not to tell her. Only people without tutors would give such rude answers.

Then he added: Aunt Wang said she would introduce someone to you.

I was a little unhappy when I heard this, and thought to myself: Damn it, you actually filed a complaint secretly! He also said that he doesn’t mind his own business, so why would he introduce someone to me?

I was washing the dishes after dinner and thought about it again. When an elder asks you a private question, even though you don't want to answer directly, you can just say "Hey, I don't know, I won't tell you." It seems a bit rude.

If this matter were changed After Cheng Red's experience, she will probably handle it more appropriately than me.

So how should you respond when an elder asks about your privacy? You don't want to answer directly, but you don't want to refuse directly. What should I say at this time when my friendship is hurt?

In Jin Yong's novel "The Legend of Heaven and the Dragon Slayer", Zhao Min invites Zhang Wuji, Yang Xiao, King Yin Tian, ??and King Wei Bat to dinner at Luliu Shangzhuang. , Yang Xiao, King Yin, and King Wei Bat are all Zhao Min's elders. Although Zhang Wuji is younger, he is also older than Zhao Min, so this is a dinner where the younger generation invites a group of elders to eat.

Zhang Wuji saw it. Zhao Min took Yitian Sword and asked: Girl, how did you get this sword?

Zhao Min did not answer the question but said: My little sister and you met for the first time, and you all stared at me from beginning to end. I don’t know the reason for holding this sword. Can you tell me?

Zhang Wuji said honestly: To be honest with you, this sword belongs to Master Miejie. Many brothers in our sect have died in it. Under this sword. I myself have been stabbed through the chest by this sword. Many people in the martial arts community were present at that time.

Zhao Min looked at Zhang Wuji with a half-smile: Leader Zhang, Your martial arts skills are very impressive. I once heard that you used the Great Shift of the Universe to snatch this sword from Master Miejie. How could you still be injured by this sword? I also heard that you used this sword to injure Master Zhang. The person turned out to be Liang, a girl with mediocre martial arts from the Emei sect.

Zhang Wuji's face immediately turned red when he heard it, and he thought to himself: "How did she know so clearly?" Then he said honestly: At that time. The opponent's sword came so suddenly that I missed it before I could react.

Zhao Min laughed and said, "That girl must be too beautiful, isn't she?"

Zhang Wuji said with a smile. My face turned red.

This description was very interesting. It was supposed to be a lot of elders questioning Zhao Min about the ins and outs of the Eight Diagrams Yitian Sword.

The witty Zhao Min. Obviously knowing the other party's tactics, she didn't answer the question, but she didn't change the subject abruptly and said: "Oh my God, this food is delicious." (This kind of answer will tell others that you are changing the subject. Treat others as stupid).

Instead, she changed the angle of the topic of Yitian Sword from one end to the other, letting Zhang Wuji tell many stories about Yitian Sword, and also took the opportunity to mock Zhang Wuji once. Zhang Wuji is so stupid that he falls into the opponent's trap again and again.

Back to the story I told at the beginning.

In fact, most people in life. They are all self-centered, and they don't want to ask about your privacy. Who cares about you so much? You think too much. Especially this kind of middle-aged and elderly people, she is eager to talk about all her daily life. Let me tell you something trivial.

At this time, you should consciously treat the other person as the protagonist and yourself as the supporting role. If others are happy, you will not be embarrassed. You can take over the topic and continue talking about it from a different angle. Like Zhao Min.

Going back to the question above, I think maybe I can answer it this way:

Hey, 20-year-old sister, you see, the physical fitness of these young people in their 20s is not as good as yours. . Look at you wearing short sleeves and still sweating. I, a young man, wore three pieces, a jacket, a sweater, and a coat, and I was still shivering from the cold. You exercise regularly, right? You're in such good health that you still wear short-sleeves in the middle of winter?

She will probably talk about herself.

If she continues to ask, "How old are you?"

I think I will say: "I'm curious why you care so much about this question, yes. It’s not what happened to you.

The above is my answer. I think my answer is not good enough, and I feel that I have changed the topic. So if it is you, how can you change the angle without changing the topic? "Sister, how old are you?" What about this question? Please leave a message with your answer to share it with me.