The way to treat others is an important part of daily life in human society, and it is also an important symbol of national thinking and cultural personality. So, what are the characteristics of traditional Chinese culture’s way of treating others? What valuable lessons can we learn from this? "Advocating virtue": an important feature of Chinese people's outlook on life and behavior. Traditional Chinese culture is a "humanistic" ethical culture or "virtue culture". In Chinese culture, man is the "spirit of all things", and the reason why man is the spirit of all things is because he has morality. Virtue is regarded as the basis for distinguishing humans from animals, and it is also the embodiment of human dignity. Therefore, the Chinese people attach great importance to the "Tao" of communication between people, and the "morality" formed by following this "Tao" (referring to the subjective and self-centered norms of the behavioral subject). Confucius advocated that "a gentleman seeks the road but not food" and "a gentleman worries about the road but not poverty", and regarded knowledge, benevolence and courage as the "three virtues" to construct a system of moral norms in the Chinese cultural tradition. As an important part of Chinese traditional culture, Confucianism advocates taking moral practice as the first priority, thus forming the value orientation and cultural spirit of the Chinese nation's moral supremacy. The Chinese people's concept of life and behavior have strong virtuous characteristics, which are embodied in two aspects: on the one hand, being virtuous is the most important thing in being a human being. The Chinese people's so-called "being in the world" is first of all to "be a human being", so "being a human being" is inseparable. "Being a human being" means being in the world. The essence of "being a human being" is that human behavior must conform to the moral norms that "human beings" should have. Being a human being means disciplining oneself with morality and treating others with morality. The judgment of a person’s “immorality” is a very severe condemnation in Chinese social life. In terms of specific moral qualities, the main categories include "honesty and integrity", "open-mindedness", "open-mindedness", "self-denial and devotion to public service", "consistency between words and deeds", "loyalty and kindness", "integrity and frugality", etc. This concept of life, which takes "being a human being" as the premise and foundation of life, embodies the strong characteristics of virtue. On the other hand, interact with people and treat them with kindness. The virtuous tendency of the traditional Chinese way of life is also reflected in the emphasis on the morality of interpersonal communication, advocating that interpersonal relationships should be "righteous without considering the benefits, and pursuing the right path regardless of the merits." The most important thing in getting along with others is to be virtuous. Treat people. Its specific manifestations are: First, treat others with generosity. The Chinese nation has always regarded being kind to others as a virtue, and moral evaluations such as "tolerance and magnanimity" and "magnanimity" in daily life are the embodiment of this character. In the actual operation of interpersonal relationships, treating others with generosity includes: "Respecting the virtuous but tolerating others, praising the good but being reserved"; "Being kind to oneself but not blaming others"; "Don't treat others as you can do, and don't treat others as you can't." people". Second, give in. Chinese people have always regarded giving in as a virtue in life. Within the family, the "Kong Rong gives pear" style of courtesy is strongly advocated, and is known to all women and children; in the face of fame and fortune, the ancients praised the demeanor of "a gentleman has nothing to fight for" and the noble character of "not being greedy for treasure"; in dealing with interpersonal relationships When it comes to disputes, the sages advocated that "the path to be first is narrow, and to take a step back is to be lenient." The word "give" can resolve disputes and harmonize interpersonal relationships. Third, meet each other with sincerity. Chinese people attach great importance to "sincerity" in interpersonal communication, hence the ancient saying "treat things with sincerity". And this is an important part of "conquering people with virtue". Therefore, "being sincere and fair" can often resolve conflicts, eliminate prejudices, and communicate feelings. Fourth, keep your word and keep your promises. Its basic requirement is to "be true to your words and be resolute in your deeds." Keep your word, be consistent with your words and deeds, and pay attention to credibility. Idioms such as "A promise is worth a thousand pieces of gold" and "A promise is worth a thousand pieces", as well as Confucius' famous saying "If a person has no faith, he does not know what he can do", which vividly show the value and status of credit in the minds of the Chinese people. "Noble harmony": a distinctive feature of Chinese people's character in life. "Harmony" is an extremely important ideological category in traditional Chinese culture. Although they have philosophical implications, they are still based on the stability and coordination of society and directly affect China. People's way of thinking and concepts of life. In ancient Chinese classic discussions, the basic meaning of "harmony" is harmony. The ancients valued the harmony of the universe and nature, the harmony between man and nature, and especially the harmony between people. Confucius advocated that "harmony is the most valuable thing in the use of etiquette", and Mencius proposed that "the weather is not as good as the right place, and the right place is not as good as the people", which means harmony, peace, harmony, and social order and balance are the value goals. In terms of "valuing harmony", the Chinese regard "harmony as the most precious" as the basic principle of dealing with others, and strive to pursue interpersonal harmony, peace and harmony. "Harmony" is not only the value standard of interpersonal behavior, but also the basis of interpersonal communication. Where the goal is. Treating others with integrity, magnanimity and benevolence is for the sake of "harmony"; everyone keeping their duties and not interfering with each other, and "keeping water in the well without disturbing the river" is also for the sake of "harmony"; "harmony without difference", seeking common ground while reserving differences, and seeking a harmonious balance between opposites is a kind of harmony. "and". Generally speaking, "guihe" can effectively avoid excessive or confrontational behavior, reduce interpersonal friction and social internal friction, make Chinese people's interpersonal relationships have a strong human touch, be more stable and lasting, and have a positive function for society. However, its negative effects should be criticized. In addition, traditional Chinese culture pays attention to reality and the practical rational spirit of life, and has also given birth to the tradition of Chinese people's deep knowledge of resourcefulness. For thousands of years, there have been countless treatises and warnings about strategy, and stories about "think tanks" and wise men have been spread for a long time. This characteristic is reflected in the Chinese people's style of life, which is: treat others calmly and cautiously, make careful calculations and estimates, and use your mind. The traditional Chinese way of life was formed in traditional Chinese society and traditional culture. For thousands of years, it has been subtly embedded in the national spirit of the Chinese people, influencing the Chinese people's behavior and attitude towards life.

Today, as the Chinese people rebuild their national cultural spirit in the grand project of socialist modernization, they have reason to transform the cultural character of the traditional way of life and make it more open and modern. However, this transformation can only be a traditional way of life. Transformation rather than reinventing the wheel, because national cultural traditions will always be the root of the nation's survival and development.