Yu Hua once said:

"Nothing is more convincing than time, because time can change everything without notifying us."

Indeed , in the face of time, our so-called persistence is often vulnerable. You never know how it will change you.

Maybe I used to dislike vegetables, bitter beer, boring books, or even people I hated, but then one day I fell in love with them out of nowhere.

Sometimes we do it voluntarily, but more often than not, we have to go against who we are.

Time is passing and we are all changing.

In the past few years since graduation, I have a very intuitive feeling at every class reunion. That means who has gained weight and whose face has a few more wrinkles, including myself of course.

Perhaps life is too busy and no one notices the passage of time, but time has left its mark on everyone's faces.

Have you noticed:

"The children around you start to call you uncle/aunt; your parents start to discuss things with you and look at your face; when the weather gets cold, you consciously wear clothes Wear long trousers; popular stars are getting younger and younger; when friends get together, they start talking about house prices and car prices, and life is getting stressful...

I think this is the time to give Our reminder is that time is moving forward mercilessly, and it’s time for us to learn to grow up and mature.

When I meet old friends I haven’t seen for many years, I often have two impressions: one. The other person has grown a lot over the years, and I often admire these people and learn from them;

The other is that I haven’t seen each other for many years and the other person has not changed at all.

For example, when I was a child, I was a gangster who didn’t like studying, and now I have become an old man who doesn’t like working. I used to speak ill-chosen and irresponsible, and this is still the case now. When I was a child, I was rude and disrespectful to my elders and others. Da Ye...

In this regard, I can only say that the eight-year-old does not understand propriety because he is young, and it is excusable; the eighteen-year-old does not understand propriety, and he does not have enough experience to understand you. , is still immature; but for those who are twenty-eight or even older and still don’t know how to behave, I don’t know whether to be grateful that you have had smooth sailing over the years, or to lament that you have not grown up.

In fact, it is a good thing to keep your original intention, but people. You cannot always hide in the ivory tower, you must learn to grow.

Every age has its own identity and responsibilities. It does not mean that everything will fall into place naturally when you reach this age. You want your mental age to reach this point.

It doesn’t have to be that your mental age surpasses your appearance, but you must at least be worthy of the things you have experienced over the years and the wrinkles on your face.

After all, no matter you change, time is passing. Behind the growth of appearance, there should also be the growth of corresponding responsibility, instead of taking lack of sense and quality as fun, and taking lack of responsibility as a matter of course.

When I first graduated, I was very independent. I couldn’t do housework or cook, and I couldn’t stay by myself for a moment.

At that time, I couldn’t even imagine what it would be like. How could I live without my family and friends around me?

Until later, because everyone was very busy, I slowly learned to solve things by myself; because takeout was expensive and unhealthy, I learned to cook for myself. ; In order to continue to improve myself and adapt to my work, I learned to be alone and continue to learn.

Then I realized that many things that we thought were impossible before were due to the accumulation of time and the pressure of life. , will eventually become possible. At this moment, we will find that many things are not as difficult as we imagined.

And many times we think we can’t do it, but it’s not that we really can’t do it, we just don’t dare. I am used to being taken care of, so I cannot leave my comfort zone and take the first step.

Gide has a famous saying:

"We must bear the greatest possibility in human nature."

Whether we dare or not, time will let us take the responsibility.

We used to cry freely when we were sad, waiting for people to comfort us. Now, when we are sad, we can only hold back the tears and comfort ourselves alone. In the past, we ignored things we didn’t like, but now, If you don't like things, you can only accept them with a smile.

Life is like a dandelion. It seems to be free, but in fact it is involuntary. Time is silent, but it can change many things; time is ruthless, but it urges us to grow.

Indeed, if you can be sincere and willful, who would be willing to pretend to be strong; if you have someone to comfort you when you are sad, who would be willing to bear the hardships; if you have someone to rely on when you are tired, who would be willing to suffer hard; if you are fragile, There are always people to encourage you, but who wants to bear the burden alone?

It’s just that things are unpredictable and people’s hearts are complicated. Many times, we have to change, become independent and fearless.

Marquez said:

"People don't change on their own. You change because there are some hurdles that you can't pass without passing through. After you pass them, you will find that you have changed."

Therefore, we can only learn to change, learn to accept, learn to face, and learn to grow. Only in this way can we not be hurt or eliminated by time.

However, no matter how you change, you must keep protecting yourself as your original intention, do not lose your way, and you can always usher in the dawn.

In the past, we may have felt that after experiencing some huge hurt, we could not survive it; after losing someone, we felt that we would never love again.

But there are often many things that I thought I would never get over, but now I can say them with a smile, and I even feel that I was a little stupid back then.

Then we will understand that nothing in the world is eternal, not only time, but also pain.

Tagore said:

"Our love gives us the opportunity to precipitate memories, but it is no match for time."

No matter how profound the memory is, it will also be lost in time. Medium light. No matter how deep the pain is, it will be filled with time. In life, we have loved and left memories, but time will eventually take away everything.

If not, it may not have been long enough.

If the time is long enough, then the problem is not the time itself, nor the event itself, but the problem with you who refuses to let go.

People are not afraid of being hurt, because pain can remind you that you are truly alive and can make you stronger. But what I'm afraid of is that after the pain, I will tie myself to the pain and stop moving forward.

But whether a person's memories are good or painful, if you are immersed in them, they will not be so real after all.

If people don’t help themselves, others will be helpless. Time can change many things, but it takes away all the things you are familiar with and cannot change your stubbornness.

People have to learn to let go. Everyone is moving forward with time, and only by moving forward can we encounter more beautiful scenery.

Of course you can still choose to love certain people and things, but a few years ago I loved you, only you, and persistently just wanted to be with you. After a few years, it can be transformed into I still love you, but without the persistence to be together. No matter what the outcome is, I can still move forward alone.

People change, from childish to mature, from simple to complex, from outspoken to cautious, from careless to always on guard,

Experienced joy, anger, sorrow, and tasted bitter, spicy, sour, and sweet.

Life has smoothed our edges and changed our mentality.

After all, nothing in this world remains static. If you don’t change, you won’t be able to keep up with the times; if you don’t change, you will be hurt by others.

However, no matter how you change, you must remember that change is for a greater degree of stability.

For example, growing up is to mature and take on more responsibilities; being strong is to resist risks and ensure that you can survive better; knowing about accidents is not to please anyone, but to prevent social pitfalls. Pitfalls...

Then, no matter how fast time passes, we can protect ourselves from being hurt or deceived. Life can be more fulfilling and exciting, with no regrets.