1, parents discipline their children condescendingly. Speaking is always an imperative tone. I asked you to do this and I asked you to do that. Children have little chance to express their opinions. Over time, children get used to this attitude of their parents and live humbly.

2. When parents discipline their children, they often hurt people with ugly words. Parents themselves don't think this is strict and strict love for their children. Some parents often say, why are you so stupid? I still don't understand after saying it several times. Some parents said that if you can't do it, you can't do it. There is no way.

3. Comparing other people's children with their own children, it is always that other people's children are stronger, but their own children are not.

Some parents said, look, people can already ride bicycles. After teaching you so many times, you still dare not ride. That's stupid. Some parents said, look, they are all in the art class, and their paintings are displayed in the window. How could it be without you? Spend the same money, you just can't learn, and you can't do anything but eat.

4, often cry with children. This toy cannot be bought. People have money, but we have no money. "The teacher wants money again. Our family is no match for others. They are rich in running companies. Our family depends on wages and has no money. "

In the above situations, it is easy for children to feel inferior.

My parents say the first three are ok, so I just need to pay attention. The fourth question. Life at home is difficult. Do you have to fight with children to get fat? This is unnecessary. Poverty means poverty, so we can tell our children frankly that our family's economic situation is not good.

But more importantly, tell your children that it is because of the poor conditions at home that you need to work harder. Use your efforts to change the poverty situation. Take poverty as the driving force of children's efforts.

A child who feels inferior from childhood is also a kind of inferiority when he grows up.

We know that inferiority and self-confidence are relative. Only by relying on self-confidence can people do everything well. Self-confidence is the source of everything, whether it's studying from an early age, going to a higher school or working in a company.

The source of children's inferiority complex In short, children's inferiority complex comes from negative evaluation. The more negative children suffer, the more they feel inferior.

Do children's inferiority complex mostly come from their parents? Parents are the people who have lived with their children for the longest time and have the greatest influence. Parents' education directly affects children's personality development. Therefore, children's inferiority or self-confidence depends on the influence of parents on their children, whether it is family, society or other negative influences on their children. If parents are around, the chances of children forming inferiority complex will be much smaller. On the contrary, if parents not only don't guide their children, but criticize them with the crowd, children will form.

How to prevent children from becoming inferior? If you have different opinions, please leave a comment. Thank you.

To put it simply, the inferiority of younger children mostly comes from the negative discipline and evaluation of people around them (not limited to parents), and the inferiority of older children mostly comes from the differences in self, family environment and economic conditions after comparing with others.

Young children will not feel inferior because others have fun toys. Most of them just want to play with them, but they gradually feel inferior because of their parents' evaluation of him, the evaluation of people around them, and the evaluation of him when they overhear adults talking, which is often called "labeling". Therefore, young parents are advised to:

1. Adhere to positive discipline. Say less "don't do whatever you want" and tell him "what should you do";

2. Make positive comments on children's behavior. Don't lose your temper when the child breaks the cup. At this time, the child must be very scared. Why not try "Do you want some water?" Drinking water is really a good habit, but your hands are a little small now and you can't hold the cup. Call mom anytime next time you want to drink water, okay? "

3. Praise specific behaviors. "You are so clever" is better than "you are experienced in verbal calculation". It will definitely be better to practice again. " "You look beautiful" is better than "It's really polite for you to say hello to your aunt".

Older children, please ask parents to give their children correct values. Adler psychology believes that the inferiority complex that puzzles us is not an "objective fact" but a "subjective explanation". In other words, inferiority complex is given by our own subjectivity, whether it comes from individuals or others.

Regarding their appearance, height and weight, parents help to change what can be changed, accept what cannot be changed, and help children find a positive perspective;

Regarding the family environment, parents have the responsibility to provide a good atmosphere for their children's growth, but if they really can't continue their marriage, please be honest with their children and don't become enemies, otherwise the children will think that they are not doing well enough;

With regard to economic conditions, there are about 600 million people in China with a monthly income of 1 1,000 yuan. According to the 28 th Law, 20% of them control 80% of the wealth of society, and 80% control 20% of the wealth of society. But as far as the gap between the rich and the poor is concerned, only 10% may control 90% of the wealth of society. Reflected in the monthly salary, most people are lower than the social average wage, only a few people earn more than the social average wage, and the excess is still relatively large. Therefore, most of them are not really rich. Rather than envy others, it is better to straighten out the concept of wealth and see what you have.

Yes, my son also has some inferiority complex. I thought about it. I should ask him in an imperative tone at ordinary times, but I didn't really listen to his voice. In addition, his father is strict with him, which makes him have no confidence in himself outside. This definitely requires parents to reflect on themselves and make changes, because children can still be scared by their parents' majesty or intimidation education in primary school, so they are forced to listen. However, once in middle school, the coming of rebellious period may make the relationship between children and parents gradually tense. At that stage, parents are out of control because of their inner agitation, and what's more, they will make excessive behavior, leading to an irreparable situation! So be sure to listen to your child's voice and communicate with him from his standpoint. Parents should be friends with their children, not let them be controlled by you like puppets. Children are independent individuals, and parents only need to accompany them to guide their children to grow up healthily without too much intervention.

Yes, when a child comes to this world, it is his parents who have the most contact. His parents often praise and encourage him. Parents have good feelings and children are confident and strong.

Yes! The child was deeply confused with his parents as soon as he was born! Parents give their children care and love! Encourage! Let the children feel deeply! Children's inferiority comes from their parents! Parents are role models for children!

Children's inferiority comes not only from their parents and their friends, but also from the social environment. For example, the founder of Google in the United States was born in the Soviet Union and immigrated to the United States, and the technological fantasy cow Musk was born in South Africa and immigrated to the United States. The above two great success stories suggest that it doesn't matter where we were born, what matters is where we were educated and where we started our business! Inferiority is definitely influenced by the environment.