In ancient times, there was a saying: "Look at people to ignore them", which means that when looking at people, you should look at their subconscious and casual words and deeds, which can better reflect their true inner world. As the saying goes, "No matter how cunning a fox is, there are times when it shows its tail".
for example, someone has always had a good image and is very cultured under your influence, but once he answered a phone call, he immediately turned around and swore at the person on the other end of the phone. At this time, we can see his true cultivation and character through his casual revelation.
In fact, the most effective way to ignore people is to look at the "mantra" of what the other person habitually says, because the mantra will inadvertently betray a person's heart. For example, the more hypocritical a person is, the more he likes to talk about these three "catch phrases". Let's take a look together.
1. For your own good;
It is estimated that everyone has heard the saying "I do it for your own good", but is there anyone else in this world who is really good for you except your parents? A person, taking "for your own good" as a mantra, is often a cover-up, to cover up the real purpose behind it.
for example, people who sell products often say "for your own good" and the interests of customers are paramount, but in fact they want to sell more products and make their pockets swell. The reason why they say this is just a trick and strategy of "bypassing" and "emotional preconceptions".
In fact, our ancestors have long warned us that "those who make promises lightly will have few letters; Those who are praised in front of them will be wrong in their backs, that is, those who promise others easily will have little integrity; Those who praise others to their face must be speaking ill of them behind their backs. Therefore, the more beautiful words are, the more we don't believe them.
between male and female friends, even between good friends and best friends, one party often says "for your own good" to the other, which only shows his superiority and how smart he is, so as to control the other party's thoughts.
People are equal. You can give constructive suggestions to others, but you can't stand on a high moral level and say "for your own good" and then put others in a dilemma. If others listen to you, they will be grateful to you in the future and owe you one; If others don't listen to your advice, you will blame them for being ungrateful and stubborn.
So, those so-called "for your own good" words are often insincere and just well wrapped. They do this just to make people lose sight of their real purpose, and then confuse or manipulate each other. The more hypocritical a person is, the more he likes to talk about the phrase "for your own good".
2. I don't care about money;
the importance of money is self-evident to everyone. Some people have concluded that "money is not everything, but you can't do anything without money", which is also very reasonable. For an adult, the amount of money you make is a measure of your value; How much money you have in your hand is a guarantee of whether you have a sense of security in your heart.
a saint is also a member of ordinary people, and he needs to eat fireworks from the world, and he can't do without spending money. Therefore, even Confucius emphasized that "a gentleman loves money and takes it wisely". Only when you have the ability to earn more money can you do more meaningful things, give more charity and help more poor people.
Between gentlemen and villains, there is another kind of people-"hypocrites", who have a good reputation, often emphasize "I don't love money" to others, and secretly rack their brains for personal gain, and are extremely eager for more money. It's not shameful to love money. It's shameful to say "I don't care about money" on the surface, but to be extremely eager inside, and even to do something deviant.
In life, if someone often shows you a disdainful attitude towards money and talks about "I don't care about money", it shows that this person is actually extremely hypocritical. Because according to the principle of psychology, the more a person lacks, the more he likes to show off. By the same token, the more a person cares about money, the more he shouts "I don't care about money" all day long, thus achieving the purpose of confusing everyone.
3. Good brothers and good buddies;
In today's society, there is a bit of social interaction. Everyone has hundreds of people in his address book, but few sincere friends. When you feel confused and want to talk to someone, you find that no one can be found. As a result of the flood of social intercourse, there is more hypocrisy in making friends, and more interests.
When you meet a stranger, no matter what the other person does, call him "someone"; After eating a meal, they call each other brothers and bite a "good brother and good buddy". But the next time we meet, maybe even strangers are worse, because they have too many brothers and sisters to count.
therefore, when we associate with people, we must never listen to others' words of befriending, and don't take those hypocritical words of "good brothers and good buddies" seriously, because once we take them seriously, you will lose. True friendship needs to go through some things, especially the hardships of * * *, and there is no emotional foundation. When you start, you are good brothers and good buddies. This situation must be false.
There is a song called "My Good Brother". When listening to this song for the first time, people get goose bumps all over. I always feel that this song is fake, because the lyrics emphasize "good brother" sentence by sentence, and the friendship between brothers is so deep. Look at the eyes of the two singers in duet. They don't have any feelings at all, but they have to show the feeling of life and death and * * *. I really don't know what to say.
True good brothers, if they have true feelings, don't use too many words, and don't emphasize "good brothers and good buddies" again and again. Instead, they have each other in their hearts, and even if they don't talk, they are sympathetic and feel happy with each other. True feelings can't be expressed simply by two sentences of "good brothers and good buddies". On the contrary, the more emphasis is placed on good brothers and good buddies, the more hypocritical they appear.
Conclusion: Guiguzi has a famous saying, "The mouth is the gateway to the heart. The heart is the Lord of God. Intention, desire, consideration and ingenuity all come in and out through the portal. " Idioms can more or less express a person's true thoughts, especially when some of them are said more often, they will appear insincere and become a trick to cover people's eyes.
True hypocrites often talk about the above three "catch phrases"-for your own good, I don't care about money, and I am a good brother and a good buddy. We might as well check ourselves and see if there are such friends around us. If there are, we should be vigilant.
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