We seem young, but in fact we have already been surrounded by unavoidable heavy pressure and mediated.
Oscar Wilde once said, I don't want to make a living, I want to live.
But now we have to make a living, not a life.
at the age of 3, we are old and young, and there is more than one family behind us.
In the workplace, there is pressure from the top, and listening to the command of the old qualifications, we have to guard against being overtaken by young people everywhere.
We dare not spend money at will or invest in our own happiness. Every hard-earned penny has its mission.
Life has become the last thing we dare to think about at present.
So worry and anxiety become a daily life. Slowly, in the imprisonment we set ourselves, we become our most annoying appearance day by day.
you have helped many others, but only lost yourself.
However, it is not easy for people to come to this world. Are you really willing to go through your life like this?
In fact, there is no crisis in middle age, but you just set limits on your life. Sometimes you can see more possibilities of life just from another angle.
Today, Mi Zhi has selected five good books for you, hoping to help you find yourself full of enthusiasm and hope, and start the journey of reshaping your life smoothly.
The Moon and Sixpence
Douban score: 8.8
Someone once said, "You told me that life is more than just the present, but until now, I haven't seen poetry and distance."
In fact, poetry and distance are always there, but you dare not take the steps of pursuing.
This is a story about dreams and pursuits, in which everyone can find his own shadow.
How many times have we dared not even forgotten to look at the beautiful and distant moon in order to hold on to the vulgar but indispensable sixpence in our hands?
Life is long but fleeting. Some people are content with the triviality of daily necessities, while others pursue their ideals alone.
Charles, the hero of the story, is a desperate dreamer: "There are sixpence everywhere, but he looks up and sees the moon".
There are deep metaphors behind his stories, which may be extreme, but they happen in every corner of the world.
He will shock your numb heart and remind you of the most precious thing in your heart, called "dream".
He will show you another possibility of life. If you don't love the life I live, you will live the life I love.
He will also tell you that the most important thing in life is the eternal present.
Every day is the first day of the rest of your life. Age, family and work should never be the reason to limit your pursuit in life.
Strange Life
Douban score: 8.3
This is a wonderful biography about the magical Soviet "slash youth" Lyubyshev, how to use a magical time management skill to lead his life out of others' five lives and ten lives.
After reading it, you will be amazed at the fruitful results achieved by Lyubyshev's 56-year-old habit:
He is not only a biologist, an expert in the history of science, but also a philosopher and writer. His research achievements and works span many disciplines, including more than 7 books, including analytical mathematics, taxonomy, entomology and other fields;
As an entomologist, just looking at his research on the classification of ground fleas, I * * * made thirteen thousand ground fleas, each of which had to be identified, measured, sliced and made into specimens, and the collected materials were five times more than those of the animal research institute.
He has written more than 5 copies of various papers and monographs, which is equivalent to nearly 13, typed manuscripts. Even for a professional writer, this is a huge number.
He is the director of the teaching and research section and the head of the research institute. He also wrote memoirs and recalled many scientists ...
You might say that he must have done so many things at the expense of his family and health.
But in fact, he has a regular work and rest, sleeps for 1 hours every day, and has regular sports activities such as walking and swimming.
He is also keen on spiritual entertainment, and enjoys going to the theatre, movies, concerts and exhibitions.
how can he do so many things? !
Everyone has 24 hours a day, and the time is equal, and everyone is no exception. But every day goes by, the use effect of these 24 hours is very different.
There is a famous saying that the real great man and strange man is not because he knows the truth that others don't know, but because he has done the truth that everyone knows to the extreme that no one can do.
So, how to use a simple time management gadget to the extreme and live a strange life like Ljubichev? In this book, you will find the answer you want.
Self-control
Douban score: 8.3
Self-control, also known as willpower, is people's ability to control their attention, emotions and desires.
doesn't it sound difficult? Let's take a look at the following scene:
I decided to lose weight, but I was invited by my friends. After struggling for 3 seconds, I silently made a good wish to "lose weight after eating this meal" and then ate it without any burden;
I couldn't resist the delicious food, so I decided to find another way. I decisively paid for the expensive fitness card, but I only went there two or three times, and I didn't even remember the coach's appearance.
I planned to go to bed early and get up early to form a good routine, but as soon as I got into bed, I couldn't help but take out my mobile phone and played until two o'clock in the morning under the comfort of "I just want to see who has something to see me".
I made up my mind to put down my mobile phone for further study, so I bought a cabinet of books. At last, I didn't read a few pages, and the dust didn't fall.
Before the Double Eleven, tell yourself never to hoard goods, just buy what you need, and then chop your hands on impulse! As a result, when I pushed the shopping cart to pull the courier, I found that I was a thousand-handed Guanyin.
this is the normal state of our life, and we have to admit that it is not easy to control ourselves successfully.
have you ever been confused by poor self-control?
what is the difference between ordinary people and people with strong self-control? Can self-control be improved through training? How to improve it?
You know, only when we know the origin of the problem can we solve it effectively.
This book has sold millions of copies since its listing, firmly occupying the top spot in Amazon's "EQ and Emotion" category.
The author, Professor Kelly, is an acclaimed psychologist at Stanford University. Her courses are the most popular psychology courses in Stanford University, and people who have participated in the courses say that they can "change their lives".
for the time being, whether this course or this book can really change your life, but good self-control can really bring you brand-new changes.
You can continue to struggle with procrastination, lazy cancer, hoarding and small flesh around your waist by brute force. Of course, you can also start with this book and live the life you have long wanted.
Energy Management
Douban score: 7.7
Through the above books, you have found your initial heart, learned time management and effectively controlled yourself. However, in this internet plus era, we are busy racing against time every day, but we can't resist mental fatigue and break through the limits of our bodies.
People are not machines, and everyone's energy is limited, so they need rest and recovery before they can go back and forth and be used by us.
have you ever experienced that a tense nerve suddenly broke, and when you were working hard against the clock, you couldn't help but get sick like a mountain, and finally watched the opportunity slip away?
have you ever experienced that in the repetitive work day after day, you are not passionate, but you can't lift your energy when you want to improve, and you are exhausted physically and mentally, and your concentration drops sharply?
Have you ever felt that you should be kind and patient to your children and considerate and tolerant to your lover, but you are upset because of busyness and fatigue, and finally turn them into a vent channel, regretting but becoming numb?
The total amount of time per day is constant and we can't change it, but we can change the efficiency per unit time by adjusting the energy reserve and quality.
Energy Management is a super best seller in The New York Times. After reading it, you will understand that it is not the lack of time, but the energy management needs to be optimized. Recognizing this will give you the power to subvert your previous lifestyle.
The author starts from the four dimensions of physical fitness, emotion, thinking and will, and analyzes a large number of life examples to fully explain how this magical "full-hearted energy management training system" will keep you enthusiastic and energetic in life and work, and achieve satisfactory performance.
following the energy management system, you will be able to mobilize the four energy sources of physical strength, emotion, thinking and will at will, and improve them like training muscles, establish an efficient and perfect energy management habit system, and run your own rhythm through your life and work.
You only need to make some simple changes: for example, adjust your routine and diet, learn to accept and adjust your emotions, practice concentration and optimism, define your life goals, face up to and embrace yourself, manage the rhythm of work, rest and exercise, and gain a brand-new and positive life experience by establishing the power of positive ritual habits.
The Earning Mom
Douban score: 7.5
This is a wealth freedom guide tailored for modern women.
The author of this book, Crystal, is a best-selling author, speaker, founder of a mom's money-saving blog and mother of three children.
She stays at home full-time because of her physical condition, but she is unwilling to indulge in daily necessities. Only with a high school education, she tried every means to make money, made many efforts and attempts, finally realized financial freedom and started charity.
whether you are a professional woman who is juggling family and work, or a stay-at-home mom who is worried about work, whether you want to contribute to the family's financial situation, or whether you want to take care of your dignity and dreams while you are busy, you will be inspired in this book.
The book records a large number of real cases of stay-at-home mothers starting businesses, and you will see how many ordinary people have successfully achieved the Jedi counterattack from scratch without funds, resources and connections.
Crystal also shared a lot of practical tips and valuable experiences in the book, which helped you to open the limitations of your thinking and find your own position from the perspectives of money, career planning, specific action guidance and so on, thus starting your own curve overtaking journey.
Best of all, the author also provides great suggestions on how to balance family life and career development in the process of starting a business or starting a sideline, and how to complete the positive influence on children by example and example in this process.
It is not so much a guide book to guide women to make money and start businesses as a golden key to enlighten their thinking. No one's success can be completely replicated, but the thinking behind success is the same. As long as the correct values are established and the appropriate methods are mastered, the financial freedom of ordinary people can no longer be an unreachable dream.