Guan Juer's personality seems simple, but in fact it is complicated. About her love with Xie Tong, there are many details worthy of scrutiny.

On the surface, she is clever and obedient, but in fact, she has more ideas in her heart. Xie Tong once described her like this.

The love between her and Xie Tong is not so much that he loves Xie Tong, but that she is looking for her true self and feeling recognized.

Love, sometimes like a mirror, reflects the true self, the self you never knew.

The love between Guan Juer and Xie Tong is typical.

0 1 What was missing in the past cannot be found in a new relationship.

Guan Juer thinks that he looks ordinary and attributes the key factor of attracting the opposite sex to face value.

Even if someone pursues her, she thinks that others are only suitable for being a good wife and mother because of her smart appearance, not her personal charm.

Especially in the process of blind date with the rich second generation, the original blind date with Guan Yuer fell in love with Qu Xiaoyu at first sight at the blind date dinner, but she continued to pursue Guan Yuer against her true wishes because she was a good girl that her parents liked.

This incident was a great blow to Guaner, who was immersed in self-doubt for a long time.

Even though she likes Dr. Zhao very much, she never dares to show herself, because she feels inferior and less attractive than Xiaoqu.

She even began to seek to change her dry and boring image, such as belly dancing and changing into more attractive clothes, just to make herself look more feminine.

Everything she does is to make herself no longer ordinary and ignored by men.

Although Guan Juer has never been in love before, she feels that she has no sense of existence among the limited number of boys who have had emotional intersections with her.

So once a person affirms her existence value and personal charm, she will be deeply involved.

And this person is Xie Tong.

When I first started with Xie Tong, Guan Juer asked him if he liked her or just because she was more suitable for marriage.

Self-existence and self-identity are things that Guan Juer lacked in her previous emotional experience and even in the first half of her life.

So she tried to find her sense of self-identity through her feelings with Xie Tong.

So she proudly mentioned to her sisters many times:

Guess what? In the end, some people like me, not because I have a good temper, not because I am suitable for being a good wife and mother, but because I like me, which is particularly important to me.

Guan Guan took a fancy to this, so it was especially good when Xie Tong told her that you don't have to be like others, which made her lose herself for a while.

San Mao once said: "Life is too short to be wasted, and all freedom should be pursued. How others talk and treat me is so insignificant. "

I can't understand this. In her past, she always cared too much about other people's opinions. Her parents and friends around her seldom live according to their own wishes.

Past failures or bad feelings should be completely thrown away. Regardless of other people's eyes, it is the best respect for each other to face the next relationship with your true best self.

Obviously, Guan Guan did not fully understand this truth.

Love is like a mirror, reflecting the true self.

I don't know if you have noticed that Guan Yu has quietly changed since he and Xie Tong got together.

For example, Guan Juer, who never dared to talk back to her parents before, now openly talks back to her parents.

For example, on my birthday, I went to the river with Xie Tong to stay up late to watch the sunrise.

If you carefully peel off Guan Ju 'er's heart, you will find that this rebellious Guan Ju 'er is her truest appearance.

Of course, there are also her deliberate actions. She wants to change the impression that she is dull, obedient and boring.

She wants to be a thoughtful and independent person like Qu Xiaoyu and Andy.

The appearance of Xie Tong reflects the true self of Guan Guan to some extent.

It wasn't long before Xie Tonggang knew Guan Juer, and it was clear that she was a clever and obedient person on the surface, but in fact she was a thoughtful person at heart.

For example, Guan Guan has repeatedly created a lot of inspiration for Xie Tong in music, and rekindled hope for Xie Tong's gloomy life.

On the train, Xie Tong said to Guan Guan: You look like a boring good student, but in fact you are quite thoughtful.

Guan Guan was surprised: Really? But no one has ever said that about me.

Jane Eyre, a female writer, said: "We should always bravely spit on a world and firmly hold a river and lake."

Besides living in the expectation of others, it is more important to find your own position and what live high wants.

Once off the customs, she was used to obedience, but she never dared to show her true self, so she always left a rigid and unassuming impression.

Among them, there is a reason why my mother has been strict in discipline, and it is also largely related to the reason why Guan is not confident enough to express herself boldly.

Therefore, it is better to say that Guan Guan found his true courage through Xie Tong than to care about Xie Tong.

It's futile to deny your love.

I was strictly disciplined by my parents since I was a child. On the surface, I am obedient, but in fact, I have been suppressing my rebellious thoughts.

Because no one should be born to live as their parents expect, one day, he will grow up, break through the cage and live in the way he likes.

Guan Yu's rebellion only came later than others.

I don't know how much love Guan Juer and Xie Tong have, but at least, to a great extent, I am looking for a sense of self-worth.

When talking to others about Xie Tong and her relationship with Xie Tong, she mentioned the most:

Finally, there is a person who no longer pursues me because I am only suitable for marriage, but is with me, but really likes me just because of me.

Guan Juer obviously lacks confidence in himself. She felt that she could not be recognized by others. She doesn't believe that anyone will fall in love with her because of her uniqueness.

So once Xie Tong appears, Guan Guan will hold on tightly.

She wanted to be with him regardless of the opposition of her family and all the sisters on the 22nd floor.

Can be carefully analyzed, does she really love Xie Tong? What does she love about Xie Tong?

Although Xie Tong is brilliant, he has a terrible past. He dropped out of high school for fighting, went to juvie, and his ex-girlfriend committed suicide because of him. Even after drinking a glass of wine, he can fight with others.

When he mentioned that his ex-girlfriend committed suicide because of herself, Xie Tong didn't feel guilty at all, but threw the pot to his ex-girlfriend.

It takes two to tango. The death of his girlfriend is not only an excessive dependence on his ex-girlfriend, but also a neglect of himself.

Perhaps, as Guan Guan said, the unreliable past happened in that year can be said to be young and ignorant, but the fact of drinking and fighting clearly shows his instability.

What's more, when something went wrong, his girlfriend found someone to borrow money to pay for it, and helped him have an accident, but afterwards she didn't say thank you, let alone pay back the money.

Is such an unreliable Xie Tong really worth Guan Guan's liking?

As Kong said, the musician Xie Tong can't stop the custom.

But Guan Guan can't see these, but only remembers Xie Tong's recognition of her.

Besides Xie Tong, is there no one better and more suitable for you to admire her from the heart?

I do not think this is necessarily the case.

The road ahead is still very long. When Guan Guan has experienced the polishing of life and workplace, she will inevitably pick herself up again and realize that she is not invisible. One day, she will understand how naive the love between her and Xie Tong is.

At the end of the second movie, I just told Xie Tong that he had gone to the United States to perform and study and was shut up at home. The love between Guan Guan and Xie Tong started in a hurry, and there will be many obstacles in the future.

I didn't read the original book of the third book, but I think it's hard for Guan Juer to maintain this relationship with her enthusiasm.

When one day she recognized herself clearly and began to accept and appreciate herself, Xie Tong was just one of many men who appreciated her, but it may not be completely suitable for her.

This relationship is destined to come to the end.

Love often teaches a person to grow. In the love between Guan Guan and Xie Tong, I believe Guan Guan can see her true self through Xie Tong and let her learn to be brave. Through Xie Tong's appreciation, we can also see her most charming place.

Sophia loren, a famous Italian movie star, is a famous beauty, but when she first entered the business, she was accused of not being beautiful enough, saying that her nose was too long and her hips were too big.

The director suggested that she trim it a little, but Roland said, "Although I am not perfect, these imperfections add up to me, which is the unique me."

Accepting your true colors is your unique self.

If Guan Guan can learn to accept his true self again in this relationship, then this love is still successful.

At least, she was brave for herself once.

She is no longer a humble passer-by in the eyes of others. She can also shine like Qu Xiaoyu, Andy and Fan.

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Today's topic: Do you agree that Guan Juer and Xie Tong are together?