Threats are probably the most common and most effective method used by parents

I count 1, 2, 3. If you don’t obey me, I won’t want you anymore!

You won’t be allowed to sleep until you finish your meal today!

If you don’t put away your toys, I won’t buy you new toys again...·

The threat is conditional Love always affects children's sense of security.

If a child does something either to obey his parents or to please his parents, then he will never be able to live out his true self.

Threats are even more useless if they come across a rebellious child. There is a story about a mother educating her little daughter LL: One day she was teaching her 3-year-old daughter to practice the piano. LL was unwilling to do as she said and got angry while banging the keys hard. In order to make her daughter obedient, the mother threatened her and said: "You Look at how cold it is with the snow outside and if you keep screaming and don't do as I say, I will throw you outside!"

3-year-old LL glanced at her mother, opened the door and walked out. No coat on.

This trick is usually very effective for the eldest daughter, but the mother did not expect the younger daughter to be so "rebellious".

Although it was snowing outside, my daughter remained unmoved. Soon it was her turn to beg her daughter to come in, but LL shook his head disdainfully and said he would not come in.

In order not to freeze the child, the mother finally had to please her daughter with hot chocolate and cake, begging her to come in....

Whether it was for a child who had a tendency to give in, or Empty threats are not good for a child with a rebellious spirit.

Even if the goal is achieved, it will cause indelible harm to the child and cause spiritual alienation between parents and children.

Children’s growth is a slow and complicated process. The more anxious you are, the worse the results will be.

Instead of threatening, it is better to try to arouse children's curiosity, mobilize their internal drive, and let them actively develop good habits.

Parenting is a practice. What you raise is your children, and what you cultivate is yourself.

Parents are the mirror of their children, and 90% of their children’s problems are our problems.

As a famous saying goes: "Every moment you see your children, you see yourself. When you educate your children, you are also educating yourself and testing your own personality."

When we hurt our children with our actions or words, we actually miss the opportunity for our own growth.

Gentleness and respect are the correct way to educate children, and they are also the only way for us to cultivate ourselves.