1. The prerequisite for a person's luck is actually his ability to change himself.

2. When you have nothing more to lose, that’s when you start to gain.

3. The world doesn’t care about your self-esteem, people only see your achievements. Don't overemphasize your self-esteem until you have achieved something.

4. To change your destiny, you must first change yourself.

5. If we accept the worst, we have nothing to lose.

6. In life, I have fallen. I stood up amidst the laughter. Although the clothes were dirty, it was temporary and could be washed.

7. Giving up what you should give up is helplessness; giving up what you shouldn’t give up is incompetence; not giving up what you should give up is ignorance; not giving up what you shouldn’t give up is persistence.

8. There is no smooth road in life. When you face failure and are indecisive, when your self-confidence is shaken and you blame others, when you miss opportunities and give up on yourself, will you think: Where is my self-confidence? In fact, self-confidence is in our hearts.

9. Those who lose money lose little, those who lose health lose much, and those who lose courage lose everything.

10. You can overcome almost any fear if you are determined to do so. Because, remember, fear has nowhere to hide except in your mind. Dale Carnegie

A collection of mottos for changing yourself

1. Learn to live in the simplest way and don’t let complicated thoughts destroy the sweetness of life. Milton

2. The environment will not change, the solution is to change yourself.

3. As long as the road is right, there is no need to worry about the distance.

4. The world will give way to those who have goals and vision.

5. There are many ways to make money, but if you cannot find the seeds of making money, you will not be able to become a businessman.

6. If you can’t change this society, you have to adapt; if you can’t adapt, you have to be eliminated! This is called survival of the fittest!

7. A wise man seeks everything from himself, while a fool seeks everything from others.

8. Don’t think about creating the ocean at once, you must start with small rivers.

9. Positive thinking leads to a positive life, and negative thinking leads to a negative life.

10. When a person starts fighting from his own heart, he is a valuable person.

11. The prime years will never come again, and the morning will never come again.

12. Life does not sell round-trip tickets. Once you leave, you can never come back.

13. Tenacious perseverance and change can conquer any peak in the world.

14. Opportunity has a special affinity for the prepared mind.

15. Human life is like a rushing flood. It is difficult to stir up beautiful waves without encountering islands and reefs.

16. When you are afraid, focus on what you must do. If you are thoroughly prepared, you will not be afraid. Dale Carnegie

17. Do what you are afraid of and the fear will disappear. Ralph Waldo Emerson

18. The most terrible enemy is the lack of strong faith. Romain Rolland

19. As long as you continue to work hard and strive unremittingly, there is nothing that cannot be conquered. Seneca

20. Feeling that you can do it or that you can’t do it is actually just a matter of thought.

21. Strong faith can win the hearts of the strong and make them stronger. Bagehot

22. As long as you have a strong willpower, you will naturally have ability, intelligence and knowledge. Fyodor Dostoyevsky

23. Fame usually comes from poverty, and failure often comes from pride.

24. There are not many people who can remain unmoved, adhere to the right views, and survive the difficulties. Hugo

25. God sets many obstacles on the road just to strengthen your will.

26. Failure is the final test of perseverance. Bismarck

27. What is failure? Failure is the first step to a better place.

Philips

28. Without sowing, there is no harvest; without hard work, there is no success; without suffering, there is no glory; without setbacks, there is no glory. Payne

29. As long as the road is right, there is no need to worry about the distance.

30. The most difficult time is when success is not far away.

31. Three feet of ice cannot be frozen in one day.

33. Determined to be strong but not sharp, success is long-lasting but not quick. Zhang Xiaoxiang

34. When the sky is dark enough, the stars will shine brightly.

35. The biggest mistake in life is to constantly worry about making mistakes.

36. If a person is weak, he is his own worst enemy; if a person is brave, he is his own best friend.

37. If you want it, you will get it, all you need to do is take action.

38. If you just talk but don’t do it, everything will come to nothing; if you talk and do it again, you will succeed immediately.

39. For every disadvantageous condition, there will be a corresponding advantageous condition.

40. Diligence is the passport to success. It's better to change yourself than to complain about others. You can't change others, you can only change yourself

Introduction: Don't waste energy hoping to change others. The only thing you can do is change yourself. When you want to change others, have you ever thought that others need to change?

Don’t waste time expecting others to be different

Author: Onando

The only one who changes may be you

Honesty Look at your life carefully and write down the names of the people you want to change now, the colleagues you work with, the people you live with, your family, your friends, your boss, a bank manager. Then, look back on you In your life, think about how many times you have had to multiply to figure out the total number of people you want to change since you didn’t know when.

Think about how many hours, days, weeks, and months you have spent in your life trying to change others for this purpose, only to get back only disappointment and sadness. Because no one has changed, no one has been changed as you expected. If you add up these days, it may take several years. Have you ever changed a person by spending precious time in your life?

The only one who changes may be you! Let's see what happens when we join in the fun of this popular pastime with everyone else.

Think about someone who has made you feel helpless recently. Close your eyes and recall the situation again. Feel yourself going back to that time. Recall the place you were in and all the details, and recall where you were at that time. For a moment, let yourself relive the feeling that once arose, even if you were not aware of the change at the time.

Remember the situation and notice the changes in your body: feel the tension and tightness it brought you, perhaps in your stomach, your neck and shoulders, your forehead, around your mouth and Eye. Take a look at your breathing. Is it slow and relaxed or tight and shallow?

Don’t judge yourself by what you see, just write them down. Ask yourself: Is this a pleasant feeling? Does it nourish me? Is it good for my body? Does it make me feel open or contracted, warm or cold, hard or soft? Would I want my best friend to feel the same way?

Experience that situation again and see how you are hurting yourself when you ask others to change.

You also hurt others, you embarrass them. Then the other party starts to resist. Even though they know you are right, in order to maintain their dignity and face, they will fight to the end. To ask them to give in is to assume the role of a child, to be told that you know more than they do, that you know exactly what they need or should be, and the ego will never allow that to happen.

Experience tells you that the more you try to change others, the more they resist you, which creates a vicious cycle, and then both of you feel worse.

Therefore, trying to change others is like banging your head against a wall.

Anyway, when you ask yourself, is it really my responsibility to change others? Do you respect them like this? What answer will you get?

Your mind will make very rational explanations: this is for their own good: they cannot see the adverse effects of their own problems on themselves and others: so that they can make progress, etc.

But your gut, your feeling, knows something isn't quite right. Who are you to judge others? Do you feel you are superior to others? Are you perfect yourself?

Behind the conflict is a wounded ego

Let’s look at these facts:

This person has their own unconscious reasons for being the way they are, maybe Their unconscious behavior irritates you, but that reaction is yours and comes from your unmet needs to be loved, respected, and accepted, or your unrealistic expectations.

Take a look at the list of things you want from others to make you happy. Are they all related to your own needs to be loved, accepted and respected?

They are your own needs, but you unrealistically hope that others will understand and meet them. The truth is, no one else can meet your needs, and is it really their job to meet your needs?

They have their own unconscious reasons for being the way they are, and it is not directed at us personally. You don't know their life story, how they were treated as children, what unconscious beliefs they carry with them about how to protect, defend, and avoid injury, and learn to hide their need for love behind a tough armor.

You can continue to blame them, project your unrealistic expectations on them, and expect them to be someone they are not. Or, you can apply more wisdom to the situation.

Behind the conflict with others is a wounded self.

Once you understand this, you have the opportunity to look at yourself and ask: Why am I so insistent on changing this person?

If you are honest with yourself, you will see that behind all your rationalizations, you have a wounded ego that says to others that you ignore me, do not respect me, and do not like me. , you don’t love me and you don’t accept me. Words like this.

This is a self that does not feel loved, appreciated and accepted, hidden behind our conflicts with others. If you can recognize the Self in yourself, you can also recognize it in others. And awareness is the magic elixir that solves all conflicts.

What does this mean? When we feel disrespected and disrespected, we will retaliate violently or negatively, whether directly by speaking harshly or indirectly by deliberately sabotaging. Revenge creates a vicious cycle of conflict, which often ends in failure. Packed up.

If you can understand the reasons for your reactions to others and what changes you expect them to make, then you will know what kind of responsibility you have to bear for yourself, and you will have more favorable choices. .

Start by giving yourself more respect and appreciation, because, if you truly appreciate and accept yourself, is it possible that other people's reactions to you will still affect you? Do you still need to rely so much on others' compliance with you to affirm yourself? Think deeply about this.

If you realize that it is your inner unconsciousness that causes you to react to others and desire to be recognized, accepted and loved, then you will have a power within you to stop this self-struggle. You realize that your wounded self's revenge was childish and ridiculous, and it's a relief to realize that you let it go! This understanding also humbles you and brings you back to yourself, body and mind as one.

Returning to yourself also gives you the opportunity to see how people are guided by their own unconscious. What kind of life and what kind of experiences formed how they were treated when they were children; what kind of beliefs they carry with them about themselves not being good enough and their strong desire for love.

By connecting with your own desire and pain for acceptance, you can connect with the other person's desire and pain for acceptance, and this opens the way to a whole new quality of communication.

Only by changing yourself can you change others

1. Maybe God allows you to meet many wrong people before you meet the right person, so when all this happens, you should be grateful.

2. If betrayal is a kind of courage, then accepting betrayal requires a greater kind of courage. The former only requires enough bravery, or it may be just an impulse, while the latter tests the degree of tolerance. It is by no means as simple as impulse, and all it takes is time.

3. Live fish will swim against the current, while dead fish will drift with the current.

4. If a person is not infected by bad habits, happiness is close.

5. Those who do not respect themselves will be humiliated. Those who do not take care of themselves will bring disaster. Those who are not complacent will benefit. He who is not self-sufficient is knowledgeable.

6. Don’t waste your life on something you will definitely regret.

7. You may be just one person in this world, but to some people, you mean the world.

8. Knowing cause and effect means knowing progress and retreat. If you know the Dharma, you will gain happiness.

9. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself, and changing yourself can you change others. Change your own sentences. Change your own famous sayings.

Change your own sentences:

1. Changing yourself requires a persistent mentality. It’s not that if I change a little bit today, I will change again tomorrow. Going back, I made a little progress this month, and started to be lazy again next month. If this is the case, you will never change yourself, and you will always stay in the same place and stop moving forward.

2. Changing yourself does not mean losing yourself, giving up the principles of life, and changing your own advantages. Only by getting rid of the bad things about yourself can you leave better things behind. Only by knowing what remains unchanged can you find out what needs to be changed about yourself.

3. Change yourself and face everything with a positive attitude. Only then can you find breakthroughs in difficulties and find better ways to improve and develop yourself.

4. Change! Change! Why should you change? Because you are dissatisfied with the status quo, because you have an ambition and a dream that cannot match the current environment!

5. When you know When you are confused, you are not pitiful. It is when you don't know how to be confused that you are the most pitiful.

6. When you are happy, you have to think that this happiness is not eternal. When you are in pain, you have to think that this pain is not eternal.

7. Face your inner conflicts and stains honestly, and don’t deceive yourself.

8. People who often think that others are paying attention to you, or hope that others will pay attention to you, will have a more troubled life.

9. Don’t mix arrogance with your wisdom; don’t let your humility lack wisdom.

10. Don’t waste your life on something you will definitely regret.

11. Life is inherently colorful, and the face of life changes from moment to moment. There are even chameleons in nature. All of this tells us the importance of learning to change ourselves. It also tells us that only by changing ourselves can we better adapt to this colorful society.

12. Only by knowing yourself, surrendering yourself, and changing yourself can you change others.

13. People cannot be perfect, but they can pursue perfection and get close to perfection. Let us smile at life, let us learn to change ourselves, and be worthy of the greatness and beauty of life!

14. Jealousy of others will not add any benefits to ourselves; jealousy of others will not add any benefits to ourselves; May diminish the achievements of others.

15. Don’t be dissatisfied with others all the time. You should always review yourself. If you are dissatisfied with others, you will suffer yourself.

16. People, the biggest enemy is always themselves. If you overcome your own shortcomings, you will be a complete winner!

17. Many times, when we are surrounded by When the world and the environment around us are not satisfactory, many people often adopt a confrontational or passive attitude towards it, which can only lead to further loss and decline.

18. To change yourself is to change your own shortcomings. To change yourself is to change your backward side! Facing the future life, we must have the courage to work hard to change ourselves, and we must also have the determination to work hard to change ourselves. Without these, our life will always be a dynamic life!

19. Don’t deliberately misinterpret other people’s good intentions, you should think about the good things.

20. Don’t deliberately guess what others think. If you don’t have the wisdom and experience to make the right judgment, you will usually make mistakes.

21. Any complaints are useless and will only make your situation worse. Try to change yourself, and you will feel that fresh blood has been injected into your body, and there will be more new ones. Discover!

22. If we want to change our lives, we must first change ourselves. To change ourselves, we must first understand ourselves correctly and dare to deny ourselves.

23. Always remind yourself, constantly change yourself, adjust yourself, and face everything with a positive attitude. Only in this way can you continue to improve yourself in a happy life, seize opportunities, and show yourself. , develop yourself.

24. Too many people have developed the habit of finding fault with others and using their own strengths to compare with others' weaknesses. This kind of mental anesthesia can only make themselves more decadent, only retreating instead of moving forward. If we can seriously learn from the strengths of others, we are making progress and changing ourselves.

25. A person who often looks at the shortcomings of others is not good enough himself because he has no time to review himself.

26. Maybe everyone will learn to change slowly, grow slowly, and then let go of all pride and stubbornness after experiencing certain changes.

27. Learn to change yourself, because you are not perfect yet, there are still many shortcomings that need to be corrected, and there are still many bad habits that need to be corrected.

28. Learn to change yourself, because you still have an undiscovered self.

29. Each of us has advantages, more or less, deep or shallow, but they will all be revealed inadvertently. We can only consolidate deeply by moving towards our shining point of departure. That may surprise even you!

30. In order to make life better, we have been changing the world, but sometimes what needs to be changed more is ourselves and our hearts.

31. The best way for a person to gain a foothold in this world and survive in society is to constantly learn and change oneself.

32. Never waste a minute of your time thinking about anyone you don’t like.

33. As long as we work hard to change ourselves, we will have no regrets in life!

34. Only if we change ourselves well, our life will become better and better. If things go smoothly, the road will become wider and wider.

Quotes about changing yourself:

Conquering your own mind is greater than conquering a city.

If a person does not have the desire to transcend circumstances, he will not be able to accomplish anything great.

You must make friends with people of good moral principles, and do not make friends with unjust friends. Drink quiet tea, don't be greedy for colorful wine. Open the door of convenience and the mouth of right and wrong.

The same bottle, why do you put poison? The same mentality, why are you full of troubles?

The world will not change for me, let alone let myself wait. !

If you lose your money, you lose very little; if you lose your friends, you lose a lot; if you lose your courage, you lose everything.

It is better to be poor and happy than to be rich and worry.

If you bravely try to change adversity when it comes, you may make history; if you dare not change, you may become history.

Being able to say but not do is not true wisdom.

Facing reality is called bravery, accepting reality is called calmness, and adapting to reality is called transcendence.

Living for one day is a blessing and should be cherished. When I cried that I had no shoes to wear, I noticed that there were people who had no feet.

Listen more carefully to what others have to say, and don’t rush to express your own opinions.

The more time you have to pay attention to others, the less time you have to reflect on yourself. Do you understand?

A house with many doors creates wind, and talking too much is a disaster in life.

We will always think that something is wonderful if we can’t get it. That’s because you know too little about him and don’t have time to spend time with him. One day, when you understand deeply, you will find that it is not as beautiful as you imagined.

A person’s mind will be narrow if he has many desires, and broad if he has few desires.

The greatest sin in life is self-deception. The most pitiable trait in life is inferiority. The greatest bankruptcy in life is despair. There is no need to ask for merit when doing things, as long as there are no faults, it is merit. There is no need to be virtuous in order to be a human being. It is virtue to have no resentment.

The greatest enemy in life is yourself. The greatest failure in life is arrogance. The greatest folly in life is deception.

Peace is luck, contentment is blessing, a pure heart is salary, and few desires is longevity.