1, everything has two sides, so we should treat it dialectically! What is freedom? If we choose the freedom we think, are we giving up other freedoms? Generally speaking, the choice of any road means giving up on other roads! What's more, when we make choices, we are limited by ourselves. Choosing the freedom we think is not necessarily true freedom, nor is it necessarily ideal freedom. Because the road to freedom is not unique, one will lose the other, which is a necessity of free choice, and there is no possibility of taking care of it at the same time!
2. If you choose freedom, does your realistic environment allow you to do so? In other words, do you have a material basis for doing this? If your own actual conditions do not allow you to gain or make such freedom, will you feel pain! A very simple example is that many people may not want to go to work, and they are not free to go to work to a certain extent. Then we can arrange our own affairs freely. How many people can do this? Maybe individual landlords in Beijing, Shenzhen and other places can do this! But will they be happy and free when they suddenly come to such a situation one day? Actually, not necessarily. Many people will find themselves idle and have nothing to kill time after leisure. Probably just idle! Is this the freedom we want? Obviously not, so some of them choose to drive a taxi, and some choose to clean the building, so that they can truly feel that they are really alive. As for whether they are free, that is second!
To some extent, freedom of choice itself may be a mistake! Why do you say that? We are all ordinary people, how can we know whether the freedom we choose is true freedom or false freedom? If we make the wrong choice, it will inevitably drag us into the mire of non-freedom. For example, the choice of university major, the choice of first employment and the choice of life partner. Since we have chosen, we must pay the price for our choice, bear the "fruit" brought by the choice itself, and bear our own responsibility for the choice we have made. So think about our origins, our gender, this kind of non-freedom, and what is the difference between freedom in essence! Because of such a thing, we have no choice but to accept it silently and then seek change on this basis. The original "cause" and "effect" have nothing to do with us, so we won't have the opportunity to bear the pain of choice. Choice itself is an opportunity and freedom, which is destined to bring us not only the good side, but also the bad side that we need to bear.
Since the pursuit of choice and freedom will bring us "bad consequences" and pain, can we not choose? But waiting for us to be arranged and chosen! Obviously, this is not enough! So how do we deal with such a paradox? Freedom of choice itself brings us pain and happiness, but all kinds of experiences on the road after choice will bring happiness and freedom. Why don't we use these to make up for the unhappiness and freedom? We can't give up the pursuit of freedom because of pain.
In short, we should treat free choice objectively and dialectically, and treat the pain and happiness brought by choice objectively. I hope that in the long years of free choice, we can become wise, feel the bitterness and joy of life with our hearts, and live with our hearts.