Marriage is the grave of love. Who said that? Where did it come from?
The winner is contemptible, and the loser regrets it. People's psychological changes after marriage will inevitably make some people feel that "marriage is the grave of love." Marriage has three dimensions: before marriage, after marriage and outside marriage. We can all give a psychological perspective to the phenomenon that "marriage is the grave of love".
Premarital psychology: "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" is a famous saying. Psychology after marriage: "Passion fades, true colors are revealed" can be described as a realistic portrayal. Extramarital psychology: "How many pain points and tears do home flowers have?" .
Premarital psychology often leads many people to enter the marriage hall without completing the trilogy of love. Although the wedding is high-end and high-end, although the vows are eternal, in the face of a marriage certificate that seems to be valid for life, because there is no minimum performance period, "a gentleman's words are hard to catch up" often becomes "a gentleman's joke, and a villain can catch up."
Extramarital affairs psychology can easily lead to extramarital affairs. Some experts believe that extramarital affairs are the main cause of marital misfortune. In fact, it is also possible that an unhappy marriage led to an extramarital affair, but you didn't notice it in time. You may or may not know the psychology after marriage.
How to understand that marriage is the grave of love
Before marriage, the feeling of missing Sanqiu was in full swing. I'll never find it after I get married. Instead, it is tea made of rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar, which is as plain as boiled water and has no vitality and passion. Especially those wives whose husbands feel the same way after marriage are even more terrible. They asked helplessly: Why is love so hard to last? Is marriage really the grave of love? We talked about this.
Has love disappeared? Dong Yonggang: I don't think love has disappeared. The vigorous love before marriage will be transformed into a kind of affection after marriage. Love has different forms and ways of existence. In essence, love will not disappear.
Li Zheng: When you love each other, love means loving and containing everything about each other. This is abstract love. After you get married, this kind of love is no longer verbal love, but real love, which is reflected in your support for your partner's career, your concern for your life and your understanding of his feelings.
This kind of love is from the abstract to the concrete, which needs both sides to experience together. My love for my husband shows his support for his studies. Currently studying as a postdoctoral fellow. I am very happy to see him studying hard. We share this happiness together. Quarrel is the lubricant of marriage. After the quarrel, the two got to know each other better and their feelings deepened.