I don't know if you have found that the label "talking" is really a compliment, whether in the workplace or in daily life.
"What a talker!" This sentence is a compliment no matter where it is placed.
Are you envious? Most of these people who can talk are also people who can do things. They can be said to be watertight, and all aspects of their work can be considered. They really want to be them.
Because the more you grow up, the more you can see your own shortcomings. Talking is easy to offend people, and you can't talk. Sometimes you can feel these points from the silence of others. Sometimes you will regret what you said. When you find these things, you really wish you could stop talking at first, but how is that possible, right?
Ma Weiwei, the "Queen of Golden Sentences", concluded that speaking well is a skill that can't be learned in college, but it is a compulsory course in life.
then what Find your own resources to study, read books, watch TED and listen to audio. Conscious study is always easier than some bloody experience you have gained.
Today, I would like to recommend six selected books to you, which are also the six books that big bosses (Cai Kangyong, Luo Zhenyu, Ma Dong and Yu) have said are good. They can make you talk and communicate with people properly, practice speaking with you, and make communication and expression a necessary survival skill for you to walk in rivers and lakes.
Like you, I'm on my way to have a good talk.
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Cai Kangyong's speech style 1.2.
Cai Kangyong's words in "Kangxi Comes" and "Seven Pa Shuo" give people a very thoughtful and comfortable feeling. The golden sentences of the old strange man in Xiao S's "Bitch Mouth" and "Seven Ba Shuo" have been circulated on the Internet so far, but you can always get the words back and even save the scene.
Cai Kangyong's way of speaking
Kevin Tsai
These two books of Mr Cai Kangyong can be read as entry-level reference books, because they are illustrated by Taskey. No, these two books use 80 short stories to integrate speaking skills into special life scenes. For example:
How to say "no" is not so offensive?
How to talk properly? How to speak is more popular?
What should two people say when they meet for the first time?
What if I don't want to be bossed around?
I even teach you the core cheats of coquetry. You think girls can be coquettish and boys can have it. Do you really want to see it?
Teacher Cai Kangyong's "The Way of Speaking" can teach you to turn talking into a very pleasant thing, and mom no longer has to worry that you can't speak.
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Good point!
Look, talk well and make you a good person!
This is a book recommended by Teacher Ma Dong and Teacher Luo Zhenyu. "Speak Well" also has audio, so it's not bad to go to class if you find reading troublesome.
Good point!
Ma Weiwei, Huang Zhizhong and Zhou Xuanyi.
Produced by: Ma Dong
This book is the essence of sorting out and packaging what Ma Weiwei and Huang Zhizhong have learned all their lives. Communication, persuasion, negotiation, speech and debate constitute their "five-dimensional rhetoric", which allows you to "speak well" in any scene and pay attention to the key points, any scene. What a wonderful world without chatting!
How to refuse to borrow money with dignity? How to successfully ask for leave?
How to query news in the workplace without being obscene?
Is there a correct way to lose your temper?
There are even skills to buy food and bargain.
Lively enough and wonderful enough. Different from other communication books, this book will tell you where you are wrong first, and then give you skills. The so-called mistakes can be corrected, and this book gives the routine like this.
Many people sometimes may not know where they are wrong. This book will tell you the knowledge points.
Compared with those formal communication skills, this book is interesting, informative and full of surprises. I want to review "The Story of Qipa" again.
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Non-violent communication
Many people don't know about violent communication, but you must have hurt others with the sword of language in your life, or been poked by others' words.
Non-violent communication
Marshall Luxembourg [America]
This book refreshes my cognition and violent communication. It is easy to get along with close people, but why should I put up with your verbal violence if I am close to you, not even my parents?
So how to avoid violent communication?
Four elements of nonviolent communication mode: observation, feeling, need and request.
If you want to speak well, you must first be able to observe or feel the feelings of yourself or others. Then, when communicating, try to express your feelings and needs objectively. Don't communicate to vent your emotions, but distinguish what you really want to express.
This book also allows me to accept criticism from others with complete physical and mental pleasure.
The book says that criticism often implies expectations, and criticism of others actually indirectly expresses his unmet needs. So after reading this book, I believe you can understand that it is really good for others to criticize you.
It is said that reading this book can reduce 90% tears in life.
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The Bible of Communication
It is said that listening, speaking, reading and writing have all-round communication skills.
I will definitely put this book on my desk. It is definitely a must-have super reference book in the workplace. Push hard! If the wall is cracked, it is recommended!
The Bible of Communication
Nicky Stanton
Not communication skills, but business communication skills. Its "listening, speaking, reading and writing" covers all possible speech scenes in the workplace, from telephone calls, business interviews, job interviews and team communication to presiding over meetings, giving speeches, and even writing business letters and work reports.
And the skills of listening and speaking. Looking for dry goods, I can't find any parallel imports. You can understand the boss and what the boss is saying, and you can make your thoughts clear. What are you afraid of in the workplace?
Recommend it to you who just left school, and also to you who have communication problems in the workplace.
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Learn to ask questions
This book is recommended at the end, because it is a bit brain-burning.
Learn to ask questions
Neil brown [England]
The advantage of this book is that it can stimulate your critical thinking and let you form your own opinions more rationally.
Generally speaking, the depth of thinking determines the depth of your oral expression. You can't communicate and express, largely because your brain hasn't thought and thought clearly.
This book is to change your thinking, have a sharper perception of language expression, words and information in words, and let you feel uncertain, vague and ambiguous words in sentences like a small radar, and even see the stories behind them.
To master this book, you need to do mental gymnastics with your brain, which is the ultimate brain burning. I still think my critical thinking is superficial, but after reading this book for a hundred times, its significance is self-evident. Come on!
Teacher Cai Kangyong said that oral English can be practiced.
Maybe the process of practicing is a little reluctant and hard, but it will never be harder than dieting to lose weight, and the effect will last. You don't have to worry about getting fat back like dieting to lose weight.
Therefore, this knowledge should be used more, so as not to be seen in vain.