Gracian's famous saying

1. There is always a big difference between truth and appearance in earthly things. Only a small number of people can see the essence through the phenomenon, and most people still stay on the surface. If you are ferocious, you will be in a difficult situation even if you hold the truth. Gracian's book of wisdom

2. Mystery wins respect by its mystery. Even if you have to tell the truth, you'd better avoid telling everything. Don't let anyone see you inside and out. Gracian's book of wisdom

3. The heart follows the elite and the mouth follows the public. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

4. If your success is unexpected, you will be admired even more. Cautious silence is the essence of worldly wisdom. Open determination never gets high praise, but only leaves an excuse for others' comments. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

5. Exquisite is deeper than extensive. Don't expect to be a generalist, the truly successful people are all experts in some field. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

6. Wise people prefer others to need themselves all the time, rather than thanking themselves. It is foolish to keep others' hopes and seek wisdom and expect others' gratitude. It is one of the most important life experiences to try to keep people's desire for you and not completely satisfy it. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

7. The best way to anger others is to put others in a difficult position, but you are safe. Be good at using contradictions to make others' emotions out of control. You can let others reveal their inner secrets with a little questioning. This is the key to unlock the shackles of others' hearts. You can dig out the secrets he has painstakingly hidden by deliberately showing a dismissive attitude towards others' mysterious words. With a little sweet temptation, make these secrets slip from the tip of your tongue and fall into your carefully woven net. Silence can make others relax their vigilance and thus reveal the truth unconsciously. Pretending doubt is a master key, which can satisfy your curiosity. The same is true in learning. It is a clever plan for students to refute the teacher, which will make the teacher fall into contradiction and he has to try his best to tell the truth more thoroughly. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

8. Leaders always show that they are superior to others in all important matters. Kings like to be assisted, but they don't like to be surpassed. If you want to give advice to someone, you should show that you are only reminding him of something that he knew but accidentally forgot, rather than something that can only be understood by solving puzzles. The mystery can also be learned from the situation of the stars in the sky: although the stars are bright, they dare not be brighter than the sun. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

9. When competition and hostility live next to you, prudence will thrive. Gracian

1. Lady Luck doesn't want to carry anyone on her shoulders for a long time, and she will soon get tired. Gracian

11. One of the biggest lessons in life is to know how to refuse. The most important refusal is to refuse to do something for yourself or for others. Some activities are not very important, and only consume valuable time. The worse thing is to be busy with trivial things, which is worse than doing nothing. To be really careful, it's not enough to mind other people's business. You should also prevent others from meddling in your business. Don't have a strong sense of belonging to others, or you will make yourself not your own. You shouldn't abuse friendship, and don't ask friends for things they don't want to give. Too much is bad, especially when dealing with others. Gracian's Book of Wisdom

12. Don't talk too much about yourself, because when talking about yourself, you are either boasting or blaming yourself. The former is because of vanity, while the latter is because of inferiority, both of which will make you lose your correct judgment and make others feel unhappy. It's also unwise to talk about another person in front of one person. You will be considered to be humble flattery, or to be accused or criticized, which will put you in an awkward position. Gracian's "Book of Wisdom" Miprishvili's famous words Valerie's famous words Cai Jitong's famous words Gracian's wisdom proverbs _ Excerpts and appreciation of classic quotations 8

Don't tell others what to do

⊙ From the heart, each of us likes to direct others and not obey them.

⊙ But due to the arrangement of work, we have to have someone to order others, and some people have to obey others. The problem is that some people's orders are hard to listen to, let alone accept. Generally speaking, when we arrange others, it is better to have more interrogative sentences instead of imperative sentences, so that the other person feels that you are asking for others' opinions, and at the same time know that you are arranging him to do something, and it is best to finish it. As subordinates, they certainly like this kind and flexible command.

⊙ This method is easy for a person to correct his mistakes, maintain his personal dignity and give him a sense of self-respect, so that he will keep cooperating with you instead of betraying you. Rude orders will only lead to long-term resentment, even if they can be used to correct obvious mistakes of others.

replacing the whip with meat

⊙ Just as each of us loves our own face, we all like to be praised by others. Therefore, when you associate with people, don't forget a principle; Praise the smallest progress of others, praise every progress of others. This is a way to inspire others and win good popularity for yourself.

⊙ Circus trains dogs. When the dog shows slight progress, he gently pats it, praises it and gives it meat to eat, as if it were a big event.

⊙ That's nothing new. For hundreds of years, most animals have been trained in the same way. I am surprised that when we are determined to change a person, why not change the dog's way, why not praise and reward him? Why don't we use meat instead of whip? Why not praise instead of blame?

⊙ Even the smallest progress, we should praise and inspire others to continue to make progress.

strengths and weaknesses

⊙ If you look at a person's strengths first, you can make him give full play to his talents and realize his value; If we look at a person's shortcomings first, his strengths and advantages will be easily covered up and ignored. Therefore, people should first look at what they can do, and should not try their best to find fault with them.

⊙ While employing people's strengths, we should also be able to accommodate their shortcomings. Shortcomings include two aspects: first, people are not good at their own quality; The second is some mistakes made by people. On the one hand, the more talented people are, the more obvious their defects are often exposed. For example, talented people are often proud of their talents; Aggressive people tend to be unconventional; Modest people tend to be timid and so on. On the other hand, mistakes and faults are inevitable. Therefore, if we can't forgive the small mistakes made by the talents, we will bury the talents and there will be almost no talents available in the world.

two kinds of eloquence talents

⊙ Some people always present facts and make sense when arguing with others, and the reason is clear and clear, which makes people convinced and cannot be refused. This kind of person has clear thinking, can grasp the essence of the problem, is quick to respond, and has a calm, unhurried and unhurried attitude, and has the tendency to explain things. Sometimes, people do things reasonably and have a good sense of proportion. This kind of person is steady and generous, accommodating and flexible, and can take on great responsibilities.

⊙ Another kind of person can also win an argument, often making others speechless, or making others leave without arguing with him. Most of these people beat each other by their sharp words. This kind of man-machine intelligence is quick, quick-witted, lively and clever, and a clever tongue can say that the mistake is right and the black is white. Although the other party knows that he is unreasonable, it can't refute him for a while. They are experts in business, diplomacy and law. However, we should pay attention to his flightiness and instability, and be careful that cleverness will be mistaken by cleverness. We should guide them to learn to calm down and work and think in a down-to-earth manner, and cultivate integrity and integrity before they can achieve great things.

the relationship between eloquence and expertise

⊙ People who are good at talking with others will immediately change the topic when they find that their views are contrary to each other, constantly explore in ingenious ways, or adopt circuitous techniques to gradually find the topic of interest to each other and slowly return to the topic.

⊙ This kind of person is full of wit, easy to get everyone's favor, firm-willed, good at thinking and observing words and senses, tries his best to realize his plan, dares to speak and do, and has the strength to persist until success. They do things with their minds and are suitable for social positions.

⊙ people who are not good at talking with others often speak in a passive position, ask and answer in a formulaic way, or say ambiguous social remarks. Once he talks about the topic he is interested in, he immediately becomes another person, gushing, talking in Kan Kan, even getting excited, and the listener can get a lot of useful things from it.

⊙ These people are passionate about life and study their interests hard, and they will become experts in a certain field. Life desire is also relatively light, suitable for research work.

⊙ People who are good at explaining the truth are often uncompromising and competent candidates.

⊙ people who are not good at explaining the truth are confused and can't grasp the key. They talk for a long time without telling the reason and the story, or they always play the side ball and miss the point. Such people are not clear-headed and confused, and it is difficult to take responsibility. It is not appropriate to delegate important affairs to them.

who can't be reused

⊙ speculators can't be reused, flatterers can't be reused.

⊙ Flattery people are convinced that if they can cater to the leadership, they will be promoted step by step. This kind of person has no talent and bad quality. First of all, he has poor ideas and weak will.

⊙ pretentious people cannot be reused.

⊙ Some people simply can't tolerate all the behaviors and ideas of others. This pretentious person looks down on everyone and thinks that only he is the most capable person in the world. They are dedicated to their work and don't need supervision from others. Their enthusiasm with a sense of mission prompted them to try to express themselves. Such people regard work as their own life, not as a means to adjust their lives. Anything or anyone that hinders their ambitions and plans will make them fly into a rage. This kind of person will only stop his struggle when he is motionless. Remember: this kind of person is extremely selfish by nature. It is the best and only solution to isolate these people one by one.

⊙ those who are on the safe side cannot be reused.

⊙ Their main shortcoming is that they have lost their enthusiasm, just want to get a comfortable position, and it is impossible to compete with others.

⊙ vanity can't be reused.

⊙ Vanity-type people long to be confidants of the rich and famous.

⊙ Don't use too many theories.

⊙ Such people may become good scholars, but they are by no means efficient subordinates.

⊙ people who are not good at communication use it less.

⊙ The most important thing to be a person is integrity, but the living habits are different. People who are good at communication, even if they have some shortcomings, are often more likely to exert their affinity. Being methodical is not a disadvantage, but it may not be beneficial to doing things. Gracian Wisdom Proverbs _ Excerpts and Appreciation of Classic Quotations 5

Gracian Wisdom Proverbs _ Excerpts and Appreciation of Classic Quotations 5

Giving people titles

⊙ lofty titles and medals representing honor is often a valuable way to stimulate and maintain the self-esteem of subordinates.

Flattery should hit the nail on the head

⊙ Flattering someone who is not confident but very interested will often achieve unexpected results.

⊙ Indirect compliments and behind-the-scenes compliments are often more effective than direct compliments.

The boundary of praise

⊙ Praising others can only be tolerated within a certain boundary, that is, a person still believes that some of what he has heard can be done by himself. Once beyond this limit, people will be suspicious and disgusted.

Praise subordinates

⊙ Praise subordinates is a stimulant to stimulate their hard work.

⊙ Encourage subordinates when they fail, which will make them more loyal to themselves.

⊙ We should also keep in mind such an important commandment: a very small number of people will get carried away under the praise of others, so that they will fall to pieces in front of honor. Pay attention to this kind of people.

impress the audience

⊙ It is better to impress the audience by telling stories and metaphors sincerely than by using boring facts or scientific principles.

hide and brag

⊙ To win the trust of others, especially subordinates, you should hide your fears and doubts. Especially in an emergency, we should show absolute confidence and calmness.

⊙ In fierce competition or battle, boasting about your own strength can often achieve miraculous results. However, the premise is that you are good at hiding yourself. Only when you have this condition can you use this trick.

humor is a lubricant

⊙ humor can attract people's welcome and make all differences equal. Solemn, learned and strong personality, all can't resist charming humor.

⊙ People with a sense of humor will not be rejected, and topics with a sense of humor will not give people pressure.

⊙ Humor is an arrow to the enemy and a fire to ugliness.

⊙ A soft tongue can break bones.

get angry properly and don't forget the aftermath

⊙ Everyone will get angry, which is easy. But it is not easy to express anger to the right people in the right way, at the right time and for the right purpose.

⊙ Great leaders are all fighters. They are proficient in all strategies, such as stabbing in the back, cynicism, punching and dancing. They know that every useful person should act in self-defense when necessary, and he must stand up and fight, not only to maintain his inferiority, but also to make people dare not underestimate.

⊙ Leaders sometimes get angry at work, and their anger is enough to show the majesty and power of leaders and create an awesome demeanor and image for subordinates. It should be said that it is often better to be angry with subordinates who are hard to eat but not soft to eat, than to be bitter and say a thousand words.

⊙ A seasoned and experienced leader, on the one hand, dares to get angry and anger, on the other hand, has the ability to deal with the aftermath; It can be stormy, windy and drizzling. Of course, although there is a reason to be angry and arrogant, it will hurt people and even do bad things. Leaders should be cautious about this.

⊙ The aftermath also reflects the characteristics of combining light with shade. The so-called clarity means that leaders come to the door to talk, explain and even apologize in person. As long as they can make the other party face, they will generally reconcile. The so-called darkness means that when you are too angry with a person with a small capacity and it is not easy to recover by simple interview, in this case, you can use the method of beating around the bush or borrowing the east wind. For example, on other occasions, you deliberately speak well of him to a third party and say some self-reproach words appropriately, so that this kind of aftermath language can be indirectly introduced to his ears, and it is easier to impress him and make him be influenced.

The greatest misfortune is to lose the ability to love

⊙ In order to get rid of the enemy, a horse has to run fast on its own. Its misfortune is not that it will not be like a rooster.