What is harmony? Harmony is not simply accommodating two things, nor forgiving others' mistakes, but a model of harmonious coexistence; Harmony is not to tolerate unhappiness in life, nor to tolerate life going on like this, but to develop into a harmonious relationship between you and the unhappiness in your life; Harmony is not to integrate two unrelated things into a whole, nor to classify differences into consistency, but to complement and promote each other.
Only by combining rigidity with softness can we shape a harmonious self.
In this era of rapid development, fierce competition and "great pressure", people's hearts need to be hardened. Being strong is a firm belief. When you decide to do something, you won't shake your faith because of the influence of external factors. Just a spirit of going forward, just like the heroic spirit of men in War of Resistance against Japanese Aggression on the battlefield, the strong rise of China women's volleyball team after sleeping in the world for so long.
Shelley once said, "If you cherish your feather too much and don't hurt it a little, then you will lose two wings and never fly in the air again." Who are you vulnerable to if you don't work hard? No one will give you a hand, give you a sympathetic look at most, and then leave silently. Therefore, your heart must be hardened. The only person you can always rely on is yourself. No one will notice your vulnerability. Don't expose your vulnerability easily.
But everyone has a soft side.
"Every conscience has a switch somewhere", which is waiting to be touched. Perhaps softness is the softness of autumn in Ba Jin's Soft Moonlight Covers Everything. Softness is the foundation of our life. We are easy-going and don't care much about everything, because too much research will disturb and weaken our thoughts.
"You never know if those people who are laughing are a broken heart. Do those who are asleep cry or laugh in their dreams? " Softness is a side of a person's heart that is hard to notice. No matter how hard a person is, he will have a soft side, and there must be a powerful inner force supporting him. When a person is hard for a long time, softness will be revealed inadvertently, which is also good After all, a person's personality is dual. You still have the right to cry, you still have the power to bring happiness to others, you still have the ability to touch yourself, and you still have the tenderness to appreciate the beautiful scenery of the four seasons ... As Hemingway said, "A person can be destroyed, but not defeated." Life and meaning can be reconstructed, and it is entirely possible to be more desirable than before.
At the same time, a harmonious self needs the doctrine of the mean in addition to their complementarity.
Mu Xin said, "A light sentence is a kind of happiness, and a vague foresight is a kind of happiness." However, you should only be gentle and faint, and if you go too far, you will lose yourself.
"Life can't be as good as you think, but it won't be as bad as you think. People are fragile and strong beyond imagination. Sometimes you may be so fragile that you burst into tears in one sentence, and sometimes you find yourself walking a long way with your teeth clenched. " As hard as soft.
Finally, send Mu Xin's Once Slow.