What you calculate will eventually be inseparable from cause and effect. If you give up the basics, you will regret it in the end. As a result, many people say, "If I had known this, why should I have done it at the beginning?" This is largely due to cleverness and being calculated by cleverness. Moreover, under normal circumstances, many people are calculating the people around them. As a result, the road they take is getting narrower and narrower. If they are retaliated again, they will fall into a more unbearable situation.

If you want it, you must do it

Disappointment mostly comes from wanting it, but not getting it. People who think about their prey every day but don't carry out hunting will always be in a state of disappointment.

Jack Welch once said: If you have a dream or decide to do something, then act immediately. If you just want to do nothing, you won't get anything, and you will only end up disappointed.

From this sentence, we can understand why people feel disappointed. Mostly because you thought of it, but it didn't achieve the expected effect. This contrast between reality and dream naturally caused your disappointment. When you are disappointed, have you ever thought about this question: why are you disappointed?

Maybe this question is a bit stupid. People are disappointed because their wishes and original intentions are not satisfied. Why haven't you been satisfied? I think this question is worthy of serious consideration by all disappointed people-just wanting it, but not doing it, is the root of disappointment.

one action is better than a hundred heartbeats. A hundred heartbeats without an action is a hundred disappointments. Disappointment exists in many people. When they see the winners, this emotion may be even stronger, because the ideas of these winners may have occurred to them. However, those people have succeeded and they are still unknown. This huge difference will make people deeply disappointed.

I just want to get it, but I don't take practical actions. I'm sure I can't get the ideal satisfaction, and disappointment naturally arises. When you understand the reason of disappointment, you can overcome this situation, that is, take active action, not just to get it, but also to do it.

Columbus, a famous Italian navigator, finally discovered the new continent after many difficulties and dangers. At a celebration dinner held in Spain, a nobleman proudly said, "Columbus just went west by ship, then went west, and then met a continent in the ocean." I believe that any of us will find this insignificant land as long as we keep going west by ship. Therefore, it's nothing to discover the new continent. It's just a small thing that anyone can do, and it's not worth such publicity at all. " A nearby captain sighed and said, "Speaking of this matter, I am really ashamed and disappointed. In fact, I had this idea for a long time, and I planned to sail west all the time, so there would be some new discoveries. As a result, I never had a chance to do it. What a pity! It's really disappointing! "

After listening to their conversation, Columbus said with great grace, "You are right. There are many things in this world that can really be done easily. But the key is whether you thought of it and did it. This is the key to my honor to have the king give me such a celebration dinner. " Then, he turned to the colleague who missed the opportunity: "Don't be immersed in disappointment any more. I hope this experience can also bring you enlightenment, and I hope you can succeed next time." "

From this story, we can see that just thinking without doing it is the real source of disappointment. Many wonderful ideas, if they only stay in their minds and don't put them into action, will not only have no meaning, but will have bad feelings of disappointment after others succeed, which is even more detrimental to the healthy growth of life.

Everyone may have experienced disappointment. You can calm down and carefully analyze the reasons for your disappointment. How many times have you been disappointed because you had a good idea but others beat you to it? How many times have you been disappointed because you thought ahead, but ended up dead because your actions didn't persist? Disappointment has no positive significance. We should overcome the frustration and negativity caused by disappointment and learn from this disappointment, so as to avoid disappointment for the same reason next time.

indecisive, everything will be missed

A salesman from La Salle University in the United States went to visit a real estate agent in a small town in the west and wanted to introduce the course "Marketing and Business Management" to the real estate businessman. When the salesman arrived at the real estate agent's office, he found that he was typing a letter on an old typewriter. The salesman introduced himself and then introduced the course he was selling.

The real estate dealer obviously listened with relish. However, after listening to it, I was slow to make a decision.

The salesman had to cut to the chase: "You want to take this course, don't you? "The real estate businessman replied in a listless voice," Well, I don't know if I want to attend. "He was telling the truth, because there were millions of indecisive people like him who could not make a quick decision at that time.

The salesman stood up and was ready to leave, but then what he said surprised the real estate businessman.

"I've decided to say something to you that you don't like to hear, but it may be very helpful to you. Look at the office where you work first. The floor is horribly dirty and the walls are covered with dust. The typewriter you are using now seems to be the one used by Mr. Noah on the ark during the flood. Your clothes are dirty and torn, and the beard on your face is not clean. Your eyes tell me that you have been defeated.

"Now, I'll tell you why you failed. That's because you are indecisive and have no ability to make a decision. Throughout your life, you have always formed a habit: avoiding responsibility and being unable to make a decision. Missed today, even if you want to do something, you can't do it ...

"My criticism may have hurt you, but I hope it can touch you. Now I tell you with a man-to-man attitude, I think you are very intelligent, and I'm sure you are very capable. Unfortunately, you have formed a habit that makes you fail, but you can stand up again. I can give you a hand, as long as you are willing to forgive what I just said. You don't belong in this town. This place is not suitable for real estate business. Hurry up and find yourself a new suit, even if you borrow money from someone, buy it, and then come with me to St. Louis. I will introduce a real estate businessman to you, who can give you a chance to make a lot of money and also teach you the matters needing attention in this industry; You can use it when investing in the future. Would you like to come with me? "

three years later, the real estate businessman who got rid of the weakness of indecision opened a big company with 6 salesmen and became one of the most successful real estate businessmen in St. Louis.

If you are not satisfied, you won't be happy

We often read some absurd farce in newspapers and magazines, such as the following one: A company claims that every time you go shopping in their company, you can get a reward of 1 yuan after two months for every 1 yuan you spend. For example, 2 yuan money clothes, the company pricing 1 yuan. Although the price is a little high, I will return it to you in two months, 1 yuan, and you will get a dress for nothing ... Many people have heard of such good things and come to the door one after another. At that time, the company's business is very prosperous. At first, everyone got some sweetness, but after half a year, the boss of the company fled privately, and the money was like a meat bun hitting a dog forever.

anyone with a little brain can see through such a thing. It's just a poor trick of a liar. But sadly, there are so many people who believe in it. In the end, of course, I was deceived and ended up with a sad result of breaking the money and regretting. Some people are deceived because of the word "greed". "Greed" makes them "blind to the trap set by swindlers", and as a result, they lose money and lose face. This lesson must be learned, greed is not enough.

In the commercial society, everyone has basic material needs, and also needs money. As the saying goes, "Money is not everything, but you can't do anything without it." But people can't let their own desires go unchecked, and they can't "swallow the elephant when the heart is not enough."

When people have greed, they will not only "turn their wisdom into ignorance", but also "turn their strength into softness", making them lose their backbone and become weak and humble. Greed will also make you "turn kindness into enmity" for your relatives and friends, and you will become cruel and mean. For example, brothers fight for property and fight like hell: friends who started businesses together fight endless lawsuits for equity .....-originally pure individuals become filthy. So ... "Greed" is "the first thing that can be shameful", just like flies chasing the stink and dung beetles chasing the dung. People who have greed will be mixed with ugliness.

According to research, scientists have found through experiments that pigs have extremely poor memory. Some pigs are beaten several times in two days and don't forget to eat. Gluttony and lack of memory are the reasons why pigs only remember to eat but not to fight. Newspapers often see people cheating money with the trick of "picking up wallets" and "flipping cards". I thought it would make many people take warning through media communication, but in fact such things happen frequently and repeatedly. What makes people laugh and cry is that the deceived people often have heard of this trick, but they still can't help themselves. The root cause is nothing more than a word "greed" that makes it "stupid." Japanese people

The ancients took greed as their treasure, so they were able to surpass the world and leave their good name. There is a story that a man got a piece of jade and gave it to Confucius. Confucius is not subject to it. The person who offered the jade said that the jade craftsman had seen it and said it was a treasure, so I dared to give it to you. Confucius said, I take greed as my treasure, and you take jade as your treasure. If you give it to me, we will both lose our treasures. Why don't you and I both keep our own treasures? In history, there are many people like Confucius who "treasure not greed". During the Song Dynasty, there was a famous upright official named Kou Zhun, who once recommended a man named Zhang Yu as an official. Once, Kou Zhun passed by jiangling county, who was appointed as the county magistrate by Zhang Yu, and Zhang Yu was hospitable and reported to Xie En. Late at night, Zhang Yu came to visit Kou Zhun. When he saw that there was no one in the room, he immediately took out ten catties of gold from his arms, saying it was a reward for his cultivation. Kou Zhun resigned at once, saying, "I recommended you before because of your talent. But it's wrong of you to do this today. " Zhang Yu said, "It's dark anyway, and no one knows it. Please accept it." Kou Zhun primly said, "Heaven knows, earth knows, you know, I know, how can it be said that no one knows?" Zhang Yu had to put away the gold and apologize.

"greed" and "not greed" are not a person's judgment of right and wrong about a problem, but are closely related to a person's self-cultivation. Most people value interests, while people with clean and noble conduct value their own reputation. It is a famous saying in the Spring and Autumn Annals that "advance without losing honesty, retreat without losing business". A gentleman loves money and should take it properly. In addition, people should have a higher pursuit than seeking wealth in their life. A world tycoon once said that you can't wear two shirts at the same time. Excessive material enjoyment is meaningless. We should pursue the perfection of personality, not greed, because greed brings only selfishness, malice, meanness, fraud, treachery and so on.

some people want more things because of greed, but the result is like a blind bear breaking corn and losing everything they have now.

everyone knows how to weigh the pros and cons, and the two benefits are the greatest, and the two evils are the least. The reason is simple, needless to say, the question is, is your weighing standard correct? Is the "big profit" you take really big? If you only take "more money and less money" as the only criterion, you may have overlooked something more important.

A professional manager is hired to take up a new post, although the position is very high, but it is an industry he doesn't know much about. The other party's monthly salary is tens of thousands, but he took the initiative to reduce it to 9 thousand. Some people say that he is stupid. He replied: "If I get tens of thousands of monthly salary, I will have impressive achievements. Once I don't do well, I will leave myself." I automatically reduce the price to reflect my modesty and politeness. If I don't do it well, the situation is not so serious. If I do it well, my monthly salary will certainly return to that level. So in the long run, it is worthwhile for me to automatically reduce my salary. "

another person got a work bonus, and a colleague wanted to buy a gift. Of course, it was inconvenient to refuse, so he asked the other person to choose. As a result, the other person chose a very expensive gift, which almost made him unable to pay the bill. This incident made him have a knot with his colleague, and he secretly vowed that he would never get along with him again!

judging from these two stories, the key lies in "don't take nothing, don't eat nothing" and "greed"! As everyone knows, there is someone behind the interests you want. Your "greed" not only harms his interests, but also makes him disgusted with your "greed". If you only want "five cents", he will have a better impression and evaluation of you, and thus continue his relationship with you. What about "greed" This kind of opportunity is probably only once! Once you give this impression, it will not affect your career, but it will be bad for your image. Mouth is really important for people to walk in society.

In fact, the so-called "fool" is just a strategy of "catching big fish with a long line", which is many times better than those who are short-sighted. Alas, modern society is full of the following phenomena: interpersonal relationships are used up once, and business is earned once! I think I'm smart to do this, but in fact I'm killing the goose that lays the golden egg and cutting my own path!

When looking at the big problem, we must take a long view and broaden our horizons. Don't fight for a small profit in front of us. In the end, we will only "pick the sesame seeds and lose the watermelon".

people who are clever often suffer big losses.

people who love to be clever and take advantage often suffer big losses.

There is a joke:

When the conductor checked in, he found that a Scottish adult used a child ticket, but the Scots refused to make up the rest of the ticket. So the ticket inspector picked up the passenger's suitcase and threw it outside the car.

at this moment, the train is crossing the bridge. "You are crazy!" The Scots shouted. "You can not pass with my ticket, and drowned my brother! "

Although it is a joke, the explanation is not ridiculous. Being clever and taking advantage of small things is often a trap of success, which will only make you lose your personality.

some stores stipulate that one commodity is bought at the original price, and the second one is bought at the preferential price. Some people buy one before buying the second one, each with a receipt, and then return one of them at the original price, thus achieving the purpose of buying one and enjoying the preferential price.

Do these people think they are smart and smarter than others? Being a man has no basic principles, only considers immediate interests, and thinks that others are more stupid than him. Such a short-sighted person will not succeed.

It's better to be down-to-earth in life. Don't be clever, or you'll only lift a rock.