We have two attitudes towards things in the world, one is optimistic and the other is pessimistic. Pessimists always see the gloomy side of the world, optimists always see the bright side of the world.
It's also half a glass of water. In the eyes of historians, it is half empty, but in the eyes of optimists, it is half full. We have the right to choose to be pessimists or optimists. But if you want to make your life full of sunshine and control your life, you have no choice but to be optimistic.
People who can be optimistic will have heroic songs of life; People who can be optimistic can feel the infinite beauty of the world; People who are optimistic are good at forgetting the past; People who can be optimistic have a broad mind. "A big belly can accommodate all the difficulties in the world."
If you are a pessimistic person and choose a pessimistic attitude, then you will always be depressed and miserable. Your work, your health and your heart are often gloomy and rainy. Pessimists who complain blindly always see the dark side of society. Even in the spring garden, he only saw broken branches and rubbish in the corner. Optimists see colorful flowers and flying butterflies. So in the eyes of optimists, spring is everywhere.
Optimism and pessimism are two completely different outlook on life. For example, if someone is hit by a car and his leg is broken, he will be glad that he saved his life in vain under the wheel. If he is pessimistic, he will sigh in dismay: How can he live without a leg? Pessimists often worry that the sky will fall and kill themselves; Optimists will think that even if the sky falls, there are still tall people with them.
Optimists always seem to have a sunny day ahead, and they can even turn decay into magic and create miracles in misfortune. Pessimists always seem to have rain ahead, moving forward in helplessness and encountering helplessness in progress.
If you want to be an optimistic person, you should face the situation in life with a positive attitude like the hero in the following story:
Jerry is a bartender. He is always in a good mood. When someone asked him how he was doing, he replied, "I'm very happy."
If a colleague is in a bad mood, he will tell the other side the good side of last year's experience. Every morning, I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Every time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or learn from it. I choose the latter. Life is a choice. How do you choose to face all kinds of situations? In the final analysis, how do you choose to face life? "
One day, he was stopped by three gunmen before he could close the door. The gangster shot at him and then tried to escape.
Fortunately, Jerry, lying in a pool of blood, was found by the police who arrived in time. The gangster was arrested and Jerry went to the emergency room. After more than ten hours of rescue and weeks of careful treatment, Jerry was discharged from the hospital, but there were still a few shrapnel in his body.
A few months later, one of his friends met him. A friend asked him how he was doing, and he said, "I'm very happy." Do you want to record my scars? "My friend remembered the scar and asked him what he was thinking. Jerry replied, "when I am lying on the ground, I have two choices: one is to die, and the other is to live." "I chose to live. The medical staff are very good. They told me that I would be fine. But after they pushed me into the emergency room, I read "He is a dead man" in their eyes. I know I need to do something. "
"What action did you take?" The friend asked.
Jerry said, "A nurse asked me loudly if I was allergic to anything. My immediate answer is yes. All the doctors and nurses stopped to wait for my training. I took a deep breath and shouted: bullets! " In the midst of laughter, I added: Please treat me as a living person, not a dead person. "
Jerry survived like this.
Life is a rosary made up of countless troubles. Since we can spend every day happily and painfully, why not choose happiness?
Indeed, mentality determines a person's life. Different mentality will have different life endings.
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Tolerance is a classification of beauty;
Let life be by going up one flight of stairs. Taking a step back is the capital of progress; Forgiving others is bliss, and benefiting others is the foundation of self-interest. Where the road is narrow, if everyone is scrambling and no one will let anyone push forward, then the road will become narrower and everyone will be very sad. If you stop and let others go first, then you will have a wider road to cross easily.
Polish your "edges and corners" when things go wrong, try to tolerate others, and make more concessions on trivial matters that are not a matter of principle. On the surface, it seems that you have suffered a loss, but in fact you have gained more than you have lost. Short-term tolerance brings long-term happiness and harmony, so why not?
The truth seems simple, but it is not easy to do in practice. In real life, many people often abuse their personality and "edges and corners" in trivial matters, and are too harsh on objective conditions and other people's requirements, so that they are not allowed to have any trivial matters that do not conform to their own ideas. Even ill feelings and the pollution of fly excrement should be observed with a microscope and drawn with a magnifying ruler. As a result, edges and corners hurt others and separate themselves from others. Finally, relatives and friends stay away, friends avoid, and end up alone.
Understand that clear water means no fish, while clear people mean no friends. A person must have the ability to tolerate resentment and humiliation, plus an attitude of tolerating all good, evil, morality and stupidity, in order to tolerate others.
Tolerance is an indispensable quality of human beings; The beauty of tolerance is also an indispensable ornament in life. Although human feelings are easy to repeat and the world road is rugged, as long as we can always make people three points, why worry that the world can't be warm, life can't be smooth and life can't be beautiful?