Poor support and rich support do not refer to material things, but to children's spiritual "poor support" and "rich support" Raising a son in poverty is an investment in a boy's life; Raising a daughter is an investment in cultural literacy, and the pursuit of both is to cultivate children's self-confidence, self-reliance and wisdom.
First, the real meaning of "poor" boys
For a boy, whether he grows up or matures, he needs to be self-reliant, take on more responsibilities and make unremitting self-struggle. It can be said that the process of a man's success is a process of constantly challenging himself and striving hard.
Therefore, it is more important for a real "poor" boy to hone and exercise his will, quality, character and mentality through his personal feelings about "poverty" and "bitterness".
Let boys learn to live independently. Many parents take children as the center and do everything for their children, but let their children develop the habit of "clothes reach out and food comes to their mouths". Such a boy will be untenable in society in the future. Therefore, it is the right way to cultivate children's habit of self-reliance from an early age and teach them to do what they can independently, such as sweeping the floor, dressing and cooking.
Let the boy suffer a little injustice properly. A boy must have a strong character, and he can become stronger if he is properly wronged. When children do something wrong, parents can criticize and punish them appropriately, even if their sons suffer more grievances, it is also a way of upbringing.
Let boys learn to take responsibility. Parents need to cultivate their children's sense of responsibility from an early age and let him know that he is responsible for what he does. And in the process of taking responsibility, gradually cultivate a sense of responsibility for the family and the future, so that you will become an indomitable man in the future.
Second, the true meaning of girls' "money"
The most important thing for girls to be "rich" is to cultivate their temperament and character, broaden their children's horizons and increase their knowledge. Girls raised with "money" will know more about what they want and what they really pursue because they are well-informed and independent.
Girls should see the world more. Parents should take girls out more and see more occasions. Because only by broadening your horizons will you really grow. A girl who has seen the world, she can respect others' three views, have her own ideas, please others and even please herself. It is not easy to get carried away by material things and glitz when you grow up, which reduces the risk of being cheated by malicious people.
Praise girls more. Parents can always encourage their daughters, for example, when she gets good grades, she can't be stingy with her praise; You can always praise her beauty. Only with constant encouragement from family members can children be more confident. When they grow up, they can realize their dreams by themselves instead of relying on others.
Learn to observe your daughter. Some girls are introverted and don't tell their parents about themselves easily. For such a situation, parents should learn to observe their daughter, especially when she is helpless when she encounters problems.
Of course, although it is necessary to "raise children in poverty and raise women in wealth", in daily life, parents should not be too materially different from their two children, and children should not feel that their parents are eccentric, so they bear a grudge against their parents. Therefore, in this respect, parents must treat them equally, which is conducive to the healthy growth of their children.