Mencius has a famous saying: "The most important thing for people to know each other is to know each other, and the most important thing for people to know each other is to know their hearts."

In a person's life, everyone will meet many different people. People, these people may be light or heavy in our lives. Some are sincere and some are false.

People who have reached middle age have experienced the baptism of society, have rich experience, and know more and more people around them. However, at this time, many people will lament that they have so many acquaintances, but they still have few true friends.

In fact, it is very necessary for middle-aged people to be good at handling their own circle of friends. Some people should let go when it's time to let go. Don't let some unworthy people affect your quality of life.

Mr. Lu Xun once said: "It is enough to have a close friend in life."

Therefore, middle-aged people must understand that making friends with real friends is the rule of high-quality friendship. And for those who are not worth paying, there is no need to waste energy anymore, it is meaningless.

There is a famous saying in "The Collection of Xunzhizhai": "A gentleman is as light as water, and his love becomes truer with time. A small man's mouth is like honey, and in a blink of an eye he is like an enemy."

The friendship between gentlemen, Care about heart-to-heart communication, and sincerity means true love. On the contrary, those who do not communicate with each other sincerely, always calculate and use interests to achieve their own goals, such people can never be friends.

Some people may be friendly to you on the surface, and their words are better than their songs, but when they turn around, they will try their best to plot against you. This kind of person has no moral character and is no different from a villain.

Therefore, middle-aged people should know that no matter what the reason for their interactions, they should not become friends with such people, so as not to affect their lives and work.

I remember, there was a man in the company who seemed to get along with everyone, spoke nicely, and felt very approachable. However, after getting along for a long time, I realized that this person likes to criticize others behind their backs and often makes people stumbling.

People in the company who had been harassed by him overtly or covertly were very angry, but they could not do anything to him. In the end, the only option was to cut off contact with him. If we couldn't afford to offend him, we couldn't afford to hide.

Therefore, for such people, don't waste time and energy anymore. After all, life is not easy for middle-aged people. While living a good life, it is important not to let unworthy people affect your quality of life.

Confucius said: When making friends, keep your word.

In this world, sincerity is one of the most important qualities. People who are sincere to others must also be kind at heart.

Between friends, the most important thing is sincerity, the most important thing is heart-to-heart communication, and the most important thing is keeping your word. Otherwise, if he is not sincere and is a habitual liar, is there any need to make friends with such a person? No!

A person who has no integrity and does not keep his word is not worth dealing with. You will never be able to understand whether what he says is true or what he says is false.

I met a colleague a few years ago. He liked to brag in front of others, saying how great he was and how much money he made.

When I first heard him talk like this, I thought he was really a great person, and everyone regarded him as a boss-level person. However, gradually everyone discovered that although he boasted that he was so powerful, why was he still doing the hardest work with a salary of four to five thousand like us ordinary people?

The answer is self-evident. He is not who he says he is at all. He is just a liar and loves to show off.

When you reach middle age, you should slowly stay away from people who like to lie and brag about themselves.

Making friends requires sincerity. If we don’t even have basic integrity, what else is worth spending our energy on?

Friends should treat each other with sincerity so that they can get along comfortably and influence each other to move forward in the best direction together.

There is a famous saying in "Baopuzi·Communication": "Friends should not be careless."

A true friend has no worries and worries. It is those who care about everything that turn relationships into trouble.

In life, many people are like this. They get red-faced over trivial matters and resort to all kinds of means for petty gains. Anyone who meets such a person will be upset and it will affect their life and mood.

It should be said that most people who care about everything will not be grateful.

If you do too many things for him, he will take it for granted and show no gratitude to you at all. What's more, if you don't help him, he will blame you and always impose some of their ideas on you, as if what you do to them is what you should do.

Such people cannot be friends at all, it is meaningless and not worth it.

Being grateful has always been a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation. Isn’t there an old saying that a drop of kindness should be repaid by a spring?

Unfortunately, people who care about this will never understand.

If people blindly ask for things but never give anything, care about everything and are ungrateful, they will definitely not have a single friend in the end.

I remember a pair of best friends, one of whom insisted on bringing breakfast to the other for more than a year. Later, because she had a boyfriend, she stopped bringing breakfast to her best friend. The other party criticized her and asked her, why didn't she bring breakfast?

There are many such examples in life. Many people wishfully get help from others and feel at ease. If you don't help them, it will be your fault. This is really speechless.

Therefore, middle-aged people should know that there is no future in making friends with a person who is not grateful, because the other person only cares about what he gets and does not care about what you have given.

In short, when a person reaches middle age, there are some things that need to be put aside. When it is time to leave, leave it alone, and when it is time to leave, leave it. There is nothing to commemorate. Why bother if you waste your energy and time for someone who is not worthy and affect your quality of life.

Gu Xia once wrote: "If I change my heart for yours, we will know each other deeply and remember each other deeply."

True friends are sincere friends and treat each other candidly, heart to heart. The fit is not mixed with any impurities.

Therefore, if you know how to choose and improve the quality of your circle of friends, you will find that your circle is better and more beautiful.

As the circle around you gets better and better, life gets better and better, and life gets better and better. In fact, this is also a state of life.