"Ode to Joy 2" was aired, and it was much more popular than the ill-fated "White Deer Plain". ("White Deer Plain" is my favorite novel, I will save it for the next article.)

On Mother's Day a few days ago, the circle of friends was flooded with maternal love, showing off maternal love and gratitude. But I want to say that if you meet Fan Sheng’s American mother. That's really not a favor, that's an enemy and creditor who has been chasing after his soul for eighteen lifetimes!

What’s scary is that there are not a few American-style mothers. They are entrenched and lurking in most low-income families. What’s even scarier is that because of their daughters’ submissiveness, they will never be aware of their own problems. , throughout his life, he was ignorant and vicious.

Fan Shengmei’s own conditions are not bad, she is smart enough, and she is motivated enough and hard-working enough. However, because they cannot get rid of the influence and shackles of their original family, they have struggled all their lives to crawl in the shadow of class and wealth, and strive for success. , unable to adapt.

Is it the solidification of class that leads to the tragedies of girls like Fan Shengmei? No, in any social environment, at any time, there are people who stand out based on their own abilities. The root cause of her tragedy was the greedy, selfish, and quagmire-like native family. Their endless exploitation and oppression made her unable to achieve her goals no matter how hard she tried.

And she is a good Chinese daughter. Due to the pressure of family ties and ethics, she dare not completely break with them.

Fan Shengmei finally decided to be with Wang Baichuan. He is not that rich, but they have real feelings! This was a welcome result, but Wang Baichuan's mother objected and pointed it out.

Like Fan Shengmei, she has a father who is bedridden all year round, a mother who is extremely patriarchal, a pair of weird brothers and sisters who only know how to take, and a nephew who is waiting for food. It is clear that Fan Shengmei needs to go through Marry to improve the situation of your family. And her family is not kind.

Who dares to offend such a family full of intractable diseases? It is not a family that loves so much that heaven and earth are in harmony. It is not a family that is rich and has no care for money at all. I also have my family and friends relationships to manage, okay?

Having said that, how could a truly wealthy family easily fall in love with Fan Shengmei’s background and family background? If I don’t care about anything else, at least I want you to have a clean family background!

Can you blame Wang Baichuan’s mother for being realistic? No, what she said is true. I still very much agree with Jane Austen’s theory about marriage and love, and they must be well-matched. These are really good words and wise words.

The so-called "well-matched" does not refer to the complete equivalence in life, experience, and wealth, but to the basically equivalent growth environment, neither humble nor arrogant. I happen to know what you are familiar with, and I know what you like. It just so happens that I don’t hate it. If you don’t have a relatively similar family background and experience, you should at least have similar views and be able to talk together.

In romance novels, the scene where a domineering president/prince falls in love with a silly, sweet and ordinary girl usually only has four words: "not ending well" in reality. If good luck can end well, it must be because this man/woman is really outstanding enough to shine, one in a hundred, and strong enough to get rid of the influence of her original family. Even if such a girl does not marry into a wealthy family, she will definitely be Is it good to be a dragon or a phoenix among people?

And what about girls like Fan Shengmei! Without extraordinary opportunities and talents, and still subject to the influence of the family of origin, and only thinking of getting married once and for all to change one's situation, disappointment, suffering, and loss are inevitable.

It’s not that I don’t feel sorry for Fan Shengmei, but it’s because I feel sorry for girls like Fan Shengmei that I want to say that true filial piety is not about blind obedience, nor about sacrificing yourself to comply with your parents’ unreasonable demands and endless exploitation. remember! You are a human being, not a tool.

You have your thoughts and your life. Do you want to indulge your parents' ignorance and greed until they die? Do you want your children to repeat this kind of life like you and continue to endure this kind of discrimination, exploitation and oppression?

Absolutely not! Say no to this kind of parents! Stop paralyzing yourself in the name of love and filial piety.

They don’t love you, they love themselves more. You won't die without such parents and relatives, they will still complain in their own world. There is really no need for you to die with them.

For girls like Fan Shengmei, God has given them a good skin and made them unwilling to be ordinary people, but it has not given them enough courage, knowledge, talent and brains.

It is very sad to have a heart as high as the sky and a life as thin as paper. What is even more tragic is that they have to use their remaining youth to support their families like gadflies.

I have always firmly believed that any act of kidnapping others with love and morality is a hidden crime. Even if the relationship is deeply karmic, such as between parents, children, or family members, there is no absolute obligation or responsibility. In everything, one should know how to do things according to one's ability and to do things in moderation.

There are many Chinese-style parents whose mentality is immature and unhealthy. They got married and became parents when they were young, but they never thought about how to be a competent parent and how to get along with their children. , give them a correct and warm environment for growth. They only know how to blindly ask for demands, and they themselves are still willful, ignorant, and lacking in love.

Remember.

Except for necessary support, you have no responsibility or obligation to satisfy your greedy parents, to assume and continue their ridiculous dreams. You should be yourself! When you are capable enough, you can, in turn, guide and educate them so that they can become better people.

Don’t think this is wrong.

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