Driven by vanity, many people will do something blindly and impulsively regardless of their own reality, or they may have some terrible motives, which will do great harm to others and society. So pay attention to your mental health and try to get rid of vanity.
How did vanity come from? Is it desire or self-esteem? In fact, vanity is related to people's needs. People need security, care, love, respect, belonging and more self-worth. All needs should be met to some extent, but it should be noted that these needs should be based on themselves and reality. If you have more needs than your present situation and self-esteem, you will have vanity. So, how can we get rid of this psychological trouble?
study on one's own
Know how to control your desires. People's desires are endless. No matter what you do, you can never fill this black hole of desire. It is very important to learn to control your desires. Before you want something, give yourself three minutes and ask yourself, "Do I really need it?" "Do I want it because someone owns it?" "Is it really useful to me?" If the answer is no, we should restrain our desire not to think about it.
having self-respect
Some people, for their vanity, would rather exchange things that are important to them. For example, some girls sell their bodies for material satisfaction because of vanity, which is very disrespectful to themselves. If a person wants others to respect you, he must first respect himself. If he doesn't respect himself, he will only make people look down on you. Which is more important, such a result or the material satisfaction you get? The answer is self-evident. Self-esteem is very important if you don't want to lose your personality under the interference of the outside world and vanity.
Lofty ideal
We should set up a lofty ideal, persist in accomplishing it with our own strength, and regard it as the cause and motivation of life. As long as a person sets such a goal, he can fight for his ideal wholeheartedly and will not be influenced by external interference. But this ideal must be based on reality and have some self-knowledge before it can be realized through hard work. Don't make your ideal unrealistic or even impossible, it's easy to go astray.
Overcome external interference
There are all kinds of temptations in this world, and a little carelessness will lead to a strong sense of imbalance and vanity. And because of vanity, I will do many bad things. Therefore, the best way to maintain peace of mind is to exclude external interference and not be tempted by something. Don't care too much about public opinion. Many times, the influence of public opinion and the superior conditions of others will lead to psychological imbalance to a great extent, which will lead to vanity. Only by being confident and self-reliant and not influenced by these public opinions can we correct our thinking and have a noble personality.