First, don't consider giving benefits and don't forget to be grateful.
Second, leave room for everything and be proud of it.
Third, people are happy, not jealous; People should not be happy when they are in trouble.
Fourth, it is not really good to want to be seen by others, and it is a great evil to be afraid of being known by others.
Fifth, when you see color, you want to report it to your wife and daughter; Hide resentment with arrows in the back, delaying future generations.
Six, get up at dawn, sweep the courtyard, clean inside and outside.
Seven, whether it is fainting or resting, close the door, you must obey the rules.
Eight, a porridge and a meal, when thinking is hard-won, half a silk and half a wisp, persistent thinking is difficult.
Nine, it is advisable to plan ahead and dig wells without thirst.
Ten, since the proposal must be checked, Ke Yan can't stay.
11. The utensils are clean and tidy, the tiles are better than gold and jade, the diet is fine, and the garden dishes are more delicious.
Twelve, don't run fancy houses, don't seek fertile land, and be prostitutes and thieves.
Thirteen, the maid is beautiful and charming, not the blessing of the boudoir, the servant should not be handsome, and the wife should not wear heavy makeup.
Fourteen, although the ancestors are far away, the sacrifices must be sincere, and the children and grandchildren are stupid and must read the classics.
Fifteen, the body is simple, and the training must be correct.
Sixteen, don't be greedy for unexpected wealth, don't drink too much wine.
17. Deal by the shoulder, don't take advantage, and be warm when you see poor neighbors.
At the age of eighteen, I got married, didn't enjoy it for a long time, and my ethics were always good. I died.
Nineteen, brothers and uncles, should be divided into more embellish widowed, regardless of age, inside and outside, should be severely punished.
Twenty, listen to a woman, be a good flesh and blood, be a husband, value money, cherish parents, and not be a son.
Extended reading
Zhu Zi's Motto of Managing the Family is a model of family moral education, which urges us to manage the family diligently, live in harmony in the neighborhood, attach importance to education, be kind to others, read sage books and protect our lives. After reading it, I feel that the content is rich and unpretentious, but the words are meticulous. From the aspects of work and rest, diet, hospitality, utensils, making friends, etc., this paper contains the concepts of thrift, respect, tolerance, filial piety and timely listening to the sky, and embodies the virtues of giving benefits, not being jealous, being patient and thinking twice. The inculcation in this article tells us how to behave in the code of conduct and make all aspects of life clear. Doing this can make a person better, a family better and a society more harmonious.
Everyone pursues happiness, which means everyone feels unhappy. So, why do you feel unhappy? Nothing more than being impetuous, making things superficial, not seeing the root cause and the depths, that is, not doing business. Sage education especially emphasizes "service-oriented" in learning, and gentlemen take this as the first. This is cultivation. As parents and teachers, to educate children is simply to do a good job of self-education. As the old ancestors said, if you want to "do business", you must start from yourself. As montague once said, "If we pursue happiness, there is no problem. In fact, what we are pursuing is to be happier than others. " Yes, a small word "ratio" makes countless scales unbalanced and makes countless hearts tired.
In recent years, I have only stayed on the surface, only knowing that I have read the books of sages, and there is no "proof of faith". At best, I just believe that saint education has many benefits. However, if you don't deeply understand the classic teachings, let alone follow them in the future, you will have no "proof", no feeling, improve your realm and wisdom, and even enter the realm of sages. Therefore, we are still impetuous. Without peace, we can't be wise and look at things shallowly. Looking back now, I am surprised at my obsession. Yes! We are so happy with things that harm others and ourselves! How silly! How to pursue tranquility, wisdom and happiness?
First of all, we should understand the classic teachings and correct our learning attitude. In the past, our mode of thinking was wrong. Everything is to ask for and control others' desires from the outside. The greedy idea is too strong to let go, so it will only increase our troubles. Yes, the right and wrong things are all in your own thoughts, all in yourself, not others. However, when we do things, we think most about what happened to others, but seldom look back at what happened to ourselves, so that we are angry and unhappy. In fact, people should look down on themselves, be less self-centered and be more empathetic, so that they can be happy. How big your heart is, you will be more happy; The more you tolerate, the more you get. British writer Thackeray also said: "Life is a mirror. You laugh, and it laughs. " If you cry, it will cry. "yes! Happiness is a day, so is bitterness. Why not have a happy day? It's all you, no one else. I understand now that China culture is internal learning, and internal learning is an internal effort, not asking others and blaming others from the outside. So ask inward first. " Taiwanese businessmen's induction also says "be yourself". If you really do it well, it will naturally affect people around you, rather than asking for it. Let the people around you think that you are learning well.
Secondly, learn from your knowledge and practice. You should have the attitude of learning one sentence and doing another. I have read and recited some classics. I can only say that he is just knowledge. We just read it and recite it. There is no way to combine knowledge with practice, and we can't benefit ourselves. As the Disciple Rules said, "Learning literature without practice is flashy. "I only pursue reading those classics, just for entertainment. Therefore, starting from today, we should form an attitude, learn a word, and we will do it at once, and strive to achieve the unity of knowledge and action through action. Really enjoy the changes and happiness brought by classics.
Finally, "learn from your ambition." Let me get up at dawn. Sweep the court. Clean inside and outside. "Start doing, learn to be a man. I often hear, "If you don't sweep a house, how can you sweep the world?"? "Now I really understand that a person does not know how to be self-disciplined, and he does not know how to be responsible, responsible and grateful.
As we all know, whether learning is beneficial or not depends on the degree of practice. There is a saying that "reading is expensive in changing temperament", because after reading and understanding, you will do it, and when you do it, your mood will change. When the mood changes, the temperament changes. I hope to change my temperament through my own practice and enjoy listening to my parents, the elderly and the classics.
Finally, as a teacher, what is the core of education? "Teach, be good and save the losers" are the two most important axes of education: be good and save the losers. All good virtues should be implanted in students' hearts, which will become their attitude towards others.
You can be happy by doing things, and you can be happy by acting, practicing and changing.