Although both unharmonious families and single-parent families are harmful to children, it seems that they are not better in comparison. Because the family situation is different. Let me give a small example to illustrate my point.

An unharmonious family environment will make children precocious.

this is supported by practical scientific experiments. If the family environment is not harmonious, for example, the husband and wife are constantly in conflict, make a scene at home, or dislike each other, resulting in family apathy, which will make the children mature prematurely.

Scientists never knew how to explain this problem, and later found support from the level of animal reproduction.

this is scientifically called breeding selection.

For example, some animals will give birth to a lot, that is, they are seeking for quantity in a turbulent environment. So you will see that sometimes the poorer you are, the more children you have. There are also some animals that seek quality, and their living environment is generally stable. Many people with rich families and seemingly adequate conditions are not in a hurry to have children. It's all written in the genes. The turbulent environment has stimulated the reproductive pattern in our genes. This is a scientific explanation.

children who are not harmonious in their families are more rebellious.

children can't get good emotional feedback at home, and they will seek comfort from outside. Easily rebellious, farther and farther away from parents.

An unharmonious family will affect a child's personality.

children are born to imitate. Many of his behaviors are imitations. If a family is full of complaints and quarrels, then children will take it for granted that this way can solve the problem. Will affect his emotional handling.

when I was a child, my parents often quarreled. Therefore, later, people were also irritable and not good at maintaining intimate relationships. Emotional intelligence is very low, and I have taken many detours in my life choice.

The family is not harmonious, and often in a depressed atmosphere, the child's personality will also be introverted and timid. But also affect his ability to communicate with people when he enters the society in the future.

Although the family is not harmonious, it has not affected the normal life of children.

A friend has a one-to-five-year-old son after marriage, and his parents-in-law help to take care of him. Friends go to work, and husbands are away from home all the year round. Gambling is hopeless. My friend wants a divorce, so he can't take care of the children when he goes out alone. My husband owes a lot of gambling debts and asks his parents and wife for money. In this family situation, other women would have divorced and left. But my friend didn't divorce. She said that if she divorced, the children would live separately from herself, and it would be more painful not to see them. Divorce, go out, have no fixed place, and the children's lives are not guaranteed. Anyway, my husband is not at home all the year round, out of sight, out of mind.

Think about it. Although such a family is not harmonious, the children's normal life can still be guaranteed.

as long as there is love in single-parent families, it is not necessarily bad.

Single-parent families generally refer to the absence of mother or father. For example, parents divorced, or widowed. If the parents are divorced, the children live with one of them. But you have to understand that you love children, so it is not a big problem to try to create a healthy and positive atmosphere for him.

First of all, don't refuse the other half's visit. No matter what happens between adults, negotiate well and do better in loving children. No matter what happens, the other person is the closest person to the child. Don't let the other half be missing. Visit regularly and accompany with your heart.

second: if you really can't do it. Then, try to find a father image or a mother image so that children can learn from them. Make up for the shortcomings in this regard. Or find a role model in life. Many children from single-parent families have multidimensional love from other aspects, and they also grow up healthily. Such as grandparents, parents and friends.

The most important thing for a child's living environment is to be calm and loving, and to move forward in an orderly manner within the scope that the child can control.

Single-parent families don't seem to be separated from each other, and they don't blame each other. Only a quiet and stable little life. It's much better for children than a disharmonious family. Although life may be tight or there are many difficulties. But overcoming these difficulties with children is also a positive anti-stress education.

Not all single-parent families are unfortunate.

Zhu Zhu is a lively and cheerful little girl, eight years old. My parents divorced three years ago. She lives with her mother, who is a working woman, strong and optimistic. Busy with work and taking care of her every day. Zhu Zhu feels happy with her mother every day, because her mother is more creative about life and often gives her all kinds of small surprises. She felt that following her mother was much happier than being with her father before. Before, her father and mother always quarreled, and she was afraid that they would quarrel. Now that we are apart, we don't have to be afraid of the smell of gunpowder anymore.

There seems to be nothing better in a broken marriage family. It is best to make children feel comfortable.

from the above two small cases, it seems that you can't make a choice. Because I'm not sure which one is more harmful to the child. Therefore, we can only weigh the advantages and disadvantages according to our own actual situation.

Tolstoy famously said: Happy families are similar, but unhappy families are unhappy in their own way.