Jane Nock said in procrastination psychology that procrastination is not a problem of time management or morality, but a complex psychological problem.

From a psychological point of view, paying too much attention to one's temporary emotions is a sign of not knowing how to delay satisfaction, just as a child wants a toy and has to get it immediately, which will greatly weaken his self-control.

Many things in life won't tell you when it will end. If you miss it, you will miss it.

TED has a talk on procrastination. The speaker Tim Urban believes that procrastination can be divided into two types, one is due date, and the influence of procrastination will be limited to a certain period of time. But there is also a kind of delay, and there is no deadline.

This kind of long-term delay is less noticeable and less talked about. It tortures people silently and is the root of most long-term depression and regret.

Some time ago, The Scholar became an instant hit, and many people were attracted by Dong Qing, a circle full of temperament and poetry. I didn't know that no matter how busy she was for so many years, she kept the habit of reading an hour before going to bed, and electronic devices such as mobile phones were never brought into the bedroom.

She once said: "I always believe that all the books I have read will not be read in vain, and it will always help me to perform better in some future occasion."

There is a concept in behavioral economics called "future discount", which means that when there is a lot of time left before a thing is completed, it doesn't seem as important as it actually is.

Many things have no immediate effect. These things have no deadline from the beginning, until you devote yourself wholeheartedly, you will get a little better and see a little progress.

And many of us are only willing to do quick things, not important things for the future.

Even if you know to do something that seems ineffective at once, you can reach the peak of your life in 10 years, and you will delay and eventually won't be the person you want to be.

You can observe yourself first. What are you doing in your spare time except at work?

Do nothing and don't judge. Just self-observation, and record it.

Look at yourself. How do you spend 24 hours a day?

Do the work first, then talk.

You can gain a lot of ability by reading. I don't have this ability now, not because I can't have it, but because I haven't had time to study.

I also started studying recently. Frankly speaking, I don't have a particularly good method, but I have a small learning method. I don't know whether it suits you or not. You can ask this question, which shows that you know the importance of reading. It also shows that you really want to read, but you just lack some motivation, so it is useless to tell you the importance of reading, just like others tell me that smoking is harmful to your health.

Well, to get to the point, there is a fundamental reason why I started studying recently, that is, because I became a father, and then I thought, what kind of person do I want my children to become in the future? First of all, I want to be an example myself, because children are the epitome of parents to a great extent, so my first way is to find a goal; You must imagine a picture in your mind, which is the kind of happy picture that this goal brings you. This will be a good motivation. Sometimes I can't stand it, I miss my son, and then I will calm down.

The second way is to choose your favorite books, regardless of what books they are, such as martial arts novels, science fiction novels, love novels and so on. As long as it allows you to read, you should. Don't think it's a waste of time. First of all, it is very important to cultivate reading habits. Some people are eager for success, and they gnaw at those difficult books from the beginning, but the result is that they can't chew on them at all and are full of boredom. 1: cultivate a good impression of books. For example, many of us like to watch mobile phones. Even if the content on the mobile phone is not very interesting, we still can't help but watch it. This is the importance of a good impression. You can change a picture in your mind through the words you see. This is an ability. There is a technical term for this, but I can't remember it clearly.