The gentleman is not urgent" comes from "The Analects of Confucius"

"The gentleman is not urgent", a gentleman has a normal and peaceful heart. When a person slowly understands and agrees with something, and knows all about it, he will become more tolerant. Even when a person knows what he can do, he will relax and calm down.

A life that is upright, peaceful, and not urgent is the direction in which we can practice—gentle and firm.

Behind the gentle firmness, it means that you can look at problems more macroscopically, experience the state of life more microscopically, and stand on the outside while joining the inside at any time.

You are not eager to move up from a low level to a high level, you are not eager to hope that others will accept your point of view, and you are not eager to hope that your child will become a person who is smarter than yourself, has emotional intelligence, can resist temptation, and can make money