1. When talking to people, you must wait for them to finish.

Interrupting others can easily lead to unnecessary misunderstandings and contradictions. The ancients said, "A wise man thinks before he speaks, and a fool thinks before he speaks." Smart people don't talk secretly, but listen before thinking, and then express their opinions. This is not only a manifestation of high emotional intelligence, but also a kind of accomplishment.

2. Learn to say "Thank you", "Sorry", "You're welcome" and "Never mind".

People get along with each other in the end, not by face value, but by character. Language civilization is a person's best "educational business card". People who often say "thank you" are more affectionate and grateful. And the sentence "it doesn't matter" is more tolerant and open-minded to "turn the war into a jade." Respect is mutual. You respect others, and others will respect you.

When others laugh at themselves, you should hold them instead of stepping on them.

Many people like to use "self-mockery" to solve difficulties. The subtext behind it is "to refute me and praise me by the way", not to make you laugh. Learning to respond to others' self-mockery with an encouraging word can not only harmonize the atmosphere, but also warm people's hearts.

4. Order generously at the dinner table, don't say "whatever"

The details of ordering food can best reflect a person's personality. If you hesitate and say "casually", you are easy-going on the surface, but in fact you give people a feeling that you have no opinion, no position or even are unwilling to participate. Remember a social principle: never keep silent when you need to make a choice. Generous people are more comfortable without shirking or refusing.

Don't play with your mobile phone all the time at the party.

Group activities are attended by everyone. If you keep playing with your mobile phone, it will make people feel that you are "socializing" forcibly, and it will also make others feel careless and embarrassed. Put down your mobile phone, communicate more, listen more and participate more, which is polite.

6. Never exchange secrets with friends.

When you tell a secret to another person, it shows that you are in a passive position in interpersonal communication. Friendship bought by secrets can only be built on secrets. Once the secret is no longer a secret, friendship will inevitably break down. Trying to exchange secrets for friendship can only lead to one lesson.

7. Always lift a finger, don't stand on tiptoe to help.

Do what you can to help others, don't be bloated and obese, and be brave in trying. This can't help you, and you won't get the gratitude of others. Instead, you will fall behind and complain. Being nice to you often will make people feel your sincerity and enthusiasm. Mastering proper limit will make your contribution more valuable.

8. Don't let yourself be a negative energy source.

People's negative emotions are like a black hole, absorbing the energy of people around them. No matter how good the relationship is, it will become "weakened" because it keeps sending you energy. Complaining about your own pain, grievances and misfortunes will only increase the pressure on others, but will not really solve the problem. Be a peaceful and positive person, and more people will be willing to approach you.

9, try to chat with others, don't flatter yourself.

When talking with people, don't go on endlessly, and always take the lead in the conversation. An important communication principle in interpersonal communication: let others become the protagonist of the conversation. Learning to make excuses for others is the best strategy to release goodwill and win it.

10, simple and clear refusal is better than euphemism.

People should have a clear self-boundary in their communication. If you don't want to agree to the other party's request, you must simply and neatly refuse. Never use a vague attitude to find some euphemisms, which will delay others and consume yourself.

1 1, don't make decisions for others.

Everyone is independent, even if they are close, many things are not convenient to intervene. This is the boundary and tacit understanding between friends. You can give care and advice, but don't make decisions for others casually, so as not to cause unnecessary trouble to each other.

12. Keep your distance from your friends.

Everyone has his own circle of friends, protected and doesn't want to be violated by others. Therefore, there is a hidden rule in interpersonal communication: you must keep your distance from your friends. Otherwise, a person's possessiveness is aroused, and the boat of friendship will turn over.

13, it is impolite to break the joy of others.

When others share their joy with you happily, you must follow their emotions. Instead of pouring cold water, it will make people feel embarrassed. Speak carefully and understand others. Such talents are the most worthy of deep friendship.

14, reply to other people's messages in time.

The way to see a person clearly is to see the big and know the small. "Timely reply" is actually a small but important detail in interpersonal communication. A simple "received" and "good", or an expression, a series of punctuation marks. In fact, in less than a few seconds, it can make people feel your sincerity and reliability.

15, don't show off ability, but don't hide strength.

The foundation of a person's life is nothing more than two things: being a low-key person and doing high-profile things. Truly capable people don't show off their abilities, but they don't hide their own strength. You can be unknown and unknown, but you can also be brave and fearless. As the saying goes: nothing happens, nothing comes without fear.

16. Be vigilant when showing exaggerated goodwill to others.

There is a saying that I quite agree with: "There is no sudden goodness in this world, only other purposes and needs." It sounds a little gloomy, but it is really a warning light in interpersonal communication. If something goes wrong, there must be a demon, and there may be a shell under the sugar coating. Learn to observe and think, and protect your own interests and safety.

17, remember that human nature has an AB side.

There is no absolute good or bad in human nature. In a peaceful situation, the human nature you see may be good. Once there is a conflict of interest, the undercurrent hidden under the calm sea will make you feel at a loss. Pay more attention to everything, understand the goodness of human nature, and know more about the evil of human nature. Afraid of things.

18, it's slower to talk to people and faster to break up with people.

In interpersonal relationships, the most difficult thing to control is distance, and the most difficult thing to master is timing. Make friends with others, don't get to know each other too quickly, it is your protection to see each other clearly. You don't have to be too persistent to break up with others. Forgiving a person who has no bottom line is irresponsible to himself.

19, be polite.

Long-term feelings, like mountains and valleys, know each other as one. You voted for Mu Tao, and I repay Qiong Yao. Remember the goodness of others, remember the goodness of others, and cultivate your own virtue. A person who knows how to be grateful and repay kindness will win the sincerity of others.

20, appropriate "trouble" others

Compared with helping others, when you disturb others, you will make others feel needed. This psychological satisfaction will make them more willing to help you. The connection between people is precisely caused by mutual troubles. Making yourself "troublesome" will be more popular.

2 1, interpersonal communication is "informal" and should not be too sensitive.

Have you ever had such an experience: a look, an action, a word, others began to think, and even insomnia? I keep repeating it in my head. Does he have a problem with me? Did something happen? It will only add a lot of trouble. In fact, you don't have to be too sensitive when dealing with people. Slowness is sometimes a virtue. Learning to be "informal" will also make people around you feel relaxed and reduce a lot of trouble.

22. True temperament is more popular than careful calculation.

When dealing with interpersonal relationships, many people like to make careful arrangements and step by step. But in fact, these visible little thoughts will not win the favor of others. On the contrary, people who live their individuality and dare to be themselves are often more popular. Although there are hundreds of rules in interpersonal communication, the core principle is that you should enjoy the happiness brought by interpersonal relationship. Instead of suppressing yourself and wronged yourself everywhere. Live a true temperament and live comfortably, which is the real social master.

Harvey mckay once said: "Building interpersonal relationships is a process of digging wells, paying a little sweat and getting a steady stream of wealth." We constantly grow and mature in interpersonal communication, enrich ourselves and enrich our lives. At a certain age, I found that the best rule of interpersonal relationship is to make others comfortable and make myself comfortable.