Translation: Zigong asked: "Is there one word that I can stick to throughout my life?" Confucius said: "That is probably the word 'forgiveness'! Don't force things on others that you don't like." "

This sentence comes from "The Analects of Confucius: Wei Linggong" recorded by Confucius's disciples and his disciples during the Spring and Autumn Period. Confucius regarded "the way of loyalty and forgiveness" as a criterion for dealing with relationships between others. , no matter whether you want it or not, you cannot impose it on others.

What you give to others depends on their own willingness, and cannot be imposed on others based on our standards. This is also a feature of Confucian ethics, which can eliminate others' resentment towards oneself, ease interpersonal relationships, and stabilize the social order at that time. ?

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Confucius also mentioned the principle of loyalty and forgiveness in Zhonggong Wenren in "The Analects of Confucius·Yan Yuan". Confucius said: "When you go out, you are like meeting a distinguished guest, and when you treat your people, you are like receiving a great sacrifice. Don't do to others what you don't want others to do to you. There is no resentment in the country, and no resentment at home." Zhong Gong said: "Although Yong is not sensitive, he asks for things like this. "

In the Spring and Autumn Period, Confucius' student Zhong Gong asked Confucius how to behave in a humane way. Confucius immediately replied: "You should treat others seriously, don't impose things you don't like on others, and don't complain whether in government or in public." Zhong Gong thanked him: "Although I am slow, I will remember your words."

The benevolence explained by Confucius centers on "loving others", and the behavior of loving others includes treating others with forgiveness. He emphasized that people should treat others with forgiveness and should promote "the way of forgiveness". Personality is equal among people. In addition to paying attention to one's own existence, one must also pay attention to the existence and feelings of others, that is, to have others in one's heart.

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