Nine times out of ten, if you can't cultivate an invulnerable heart to all kinds of poisons, you can't walk through life unhurriedly and unscathed. There is an old saying that the most basic principle of being a man is "don't make trouble" and "don't be afraid of things".

In other words, you should be modest enough and have courage. The so-called "a gentleman is cautious about independence" and the so-called "not afraid of disaster" is the truth.

Therefore, when you have both a bodhisattva's heart and thunder means, you can get along with the world safely and fall in love with it fairly, then you can be considered a qualified good person.

Not afraid of things.

"People don't attack me, I don't attack. If people attack me, I will attack. "

In life, we often meet some "good people" who dare not speak out in the face of things, even if they are wronged and bullied by others. They always feel that "more things are not as good as less things." In the eyes of others, what embarrassing scenes you encounter are nothing, obviously not your own fault, and being scolded under your nose is just a laugh.

Never have illusions about human nature. If you have patience, you will never let others be grateful. A patient without principles will only encourage others' wrong behavior.

Don't forget to make way for the bad guys, that is, to make things worse for yourself. Therefore, when quarreling, don't be vague and argue according to reason. This is the greatest respect for fairness.

Just like Wei in "Yan Xi Palace": "Born with a quick temper, he is not easy to provoke". Wei entered the Forbidden City for the first time and was chosen as the maid of honor in the embroidery workshop.

Wei was praised by the general manager because of his outstanding performance in the embroidery examination of many maids, which triggered the admiration of maids for his beauty and exquisiteness.

Before going to bed, Jinxiu picked up the teapot and splashed water on Wei's quilt to demonstrate.

The maid-in-waiting advised Wei Ailuo to be patient. Unexpectedly, Wei Ailuo turned around and brought back a bucket of water, which not only spilled water on Jinxiu, but also wetted the quilts of several maids.

She forced Jinxiu to apologize to herself on the spot and told everyone that she was not easy to mess with. Wei Yingluo said to the auspiciousness of being afraid of things: "If people want to be kind, they must know how to protect themselves."

Anyone who is incompetent is trampled on. Survival of the fittest is not only the survival law of nature, but also applicable to human society.

If you can't keep your vested interests well, don't complain that this society is too cruel, because the strong never care about good or bad, but only look for how much they gain.

Therefore, smart people will "blacken" in repeated attempts, no longer sacrifice themselves, and will not pay silently, but will stand up straight and be themselves.

After all, if you want to be immune, you have to be unstoppable, weak, and your struggle is impossible.

Nothing, no trouble.

"You can forgive evil in heaven, but you can't live if you do evil yourself."

In real life, everyone has hard days, and living is never as simple as we thought. After we have tasted the hardships of life, we should understand that a person's duty lies in doing something, that is, being cautious.

After all, disaster comes from the mouth, and a person who always makes trouble will get himself into trouble one day.

I read a news before that at the bus stop in front of a residential area in Shanghai, a young woman broke the rules and order while waiting for the bus and cut in line unscrupulously.

At this time, an uncle around her kindly reminded her to abide by public order.

Hearing this, the woman not only refused to change, but also hit her husband and uncle. After the fight, her anger disappeared.

However, the uncle was beaten into a compression fracture of the lumbar spine and was admitted to the hospital. Her husband was also taken away by the police.

If life wants to be smooth sailing, it is necessary to make less trouble and divide the accounts, so as to be safe.

Adults who don't make trouble are educated and polite. No matter who you are, you should know how to bow your head and not make trouble without reason.

Because in the past, I have quarreled and suffered, and I understand more and more the difficulty and importance of being a man.

So when people reach middle age, they should learn to be human with their tails between their legs.

A person's character often lies in his attitude towards things.

Everyone who lives in this world will inevitably have to deal with all kinds of things. People often sit at home and things come from all directions. How to deal with these things is the art of being a man. If you are timid, hide when things come and make trouble everywhere. Then your ending must be a tragedy. After all, "the poor must have something to hate."

If you don't make trouble, and you are not afraid of things, and you can be an indomitable spirit, then you will definitely come to the end, not afraid of the storms of life, and smile.

Therefore, people should learn to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages, put their spirit on their bodies, be honest but not excessive, and protect their lives with a tough attitude.

Source: a heartfelt statement