I can't help thinking of a Chinese dictation the other day. It was a simple dictation, and only seven students got it all right. At that moment, I was extremely depressed and had a deep sense of frustration. I kept asking myself, "Why are so many people not working hard? Why are these people sorry for my efforts? " For this reason, I struggled for a long time and criticized students for not working hard and not being serious. There are many similar things, which always make me feel deeply tired of my job. After listening to this article, my thoughts have changed a lot.
? The author said that he went to an academic conference, and when he arrived at the hotel, his roommates had already made a mess of the room. Seeing him coming, he quickly said, "Sorry, I'll tidy up." The author was very angry and called the teacher to complain. The teacher said, "Do you think he has tried his best?" This sentence shocked the author as well as me. We feel that "he has tried his best and his quality is so low", but the teacher said that he had tried his best within his ability and quality.
"He has tried his best." When you have this idea, your heart will change greatly, that is, you will stop focusing on criticizing him and changing him, but think about what I can do. If you can help, help. If you can't help, at least don't scold him because he has tried his best. At this time, we should think about "how do I do it", instead of simply blaming that this person is too bad and this person is hopeless.
Chinese dictation is not well written. If I say that they have tried their best, then the next step is to think about how I can help them and improve their dictation quality within my ability. In this way, I will get out of the quagmire of depression and face this matter with a positive attitude, instead of giving myself too much pressure. If I think about it, things will be easy and the relationship with students will be much better. Students will study hard voluntarily and things will develop in a virtuous circle.
? At the same time, this book also corrected many of my wrong ideas. In the face of a student, we often say that although …… but …… our eyes are fixed on the shortcomings and faults of the students, not their strengths and weaknesses. What we often do is to limit and correct it. As a result, it strengthens his shortcomings and deficiencies to a certain extent, but it does not play much role in changing them. In fact, what we should do more is to discover the advantages of students, praise them and help them make their advantages bigger and stronger, so as to curb their shortcomings and deficiencies. Let our life change from good to better!
? Only by changing our mentality can our thinking, study and action, as well as our life and work be fundamentally changed. The solution to the problem is always outside the problem.
The ancients said that it is never too late to learn, which is true. Only learning can make us change ourselves, so as to change others and society!