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New blind date era: how do we sell ourselves?
As a married girl, I usually like watching blind date programs. All kinds of people tell their stories and hold hands with their happiness, from which I can learn a lot of attitudes and feelings about life.

I like watching the blind date programs hosted by Murphy, from If You Are the One to The New Age of Blind Date. Morphy's superb stage control, insight, sense of humor, and the heartfelt words of "experienced people" always remind me.

However, after watching many dating programs, I found a common problem. Whether a boy is good or not is not proportional to his opposite sex. On the contrary, it is those boys who look ordinary, but have strong communication skills and high emotional intelligence, which makes girls explode in minutes.

The reason why there is such a contrast is that it is very important for male guests to promote themselves.

In the recent "new blind date era", boys and their parents choose their partners together. Not only do boys have to be able to sell themselves, but parents also have to help sell themselves and their children, which tests the communication skills of two generations.

What's more, some families will send more eloquent elders to help.

A blind date lasts more than 20 minutes, and six families compete for a male/female guest. The family really worked hard.

In the latest program, female guest Wang Chi graduated from Chongben University. Now I am a partner of a company. I am usually a host, like fitness and have been to many countries. As soon as the female guests appeared, the lights were blown off before they reached the stage. Before the girls tell all kinds of information, the parents of the man are overjoyed.

Almost all the guests on the stage are in good condition. This kind of blind date can be described as evenly matched, and everyone is fiercely competitive with each other. Therefore, it is very important for children and families to improve themselves in blind date.

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So how do we sell ourselves? The following points are crucial.

Sincere enough

In the program, the father of a male guest talked about his son's shortcomings. For example, his self-care ability is not good, but his working ability is ok. He can't take care of people, but he is very caring. I made my son very anxious and felt cheated by his father.

But Morphy's swearing is highly credible. Parents don't want to talk about their children, but they talk about the good and the bad, which shows that parents are sincere enough and hope that the other party will consider them comprehensively.

Of course, it is not sincere to say that it is good, but for the selector, the information is more reliable, more referential and more matching.

When parents are sincere, children should also be sincere, otherwise there is nothing to do.

There was a male guest named Chao Xudong, and the girls volunteered to confess to him. He listened quietly in the glass room without making any response. My sister and mother like this girl very much and are identified as the future daughter-in-law. The boy later said to the girl, "You are looking for a husband. I think I am a son. " "Can we start with friends in the audience?"

His contradictory attitude angered Morphy, who was taught on the spot: "This is a blind date program. Now you are rejecting her in front of all the audience at the scene and all the audience in front of the TV. You have the right to refuse. If a girl has the courage to come here, there is indeed the possibility of being rejected, because this is a fair stage, but it is also a blind date program. I came here to find someone. The so-called starting from friends should be love. "

Sincerity is the foundation of a relationship. Not sincere, and will not treat each other sincerely in the future. If two people have conflicts, they can go their separate ways at once. But sincere people respect others and their own hearts, and they can take the initiative to communicate if there are contradictions in the future.

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Unify with parents' standards

There is a girl who has a good figure and looks good, but she is very concerned that she can't cook and asks her parents if she can accept it. One of the mothers said that the only requirement is that the daughter-in-law will cook in the future. When the election was reversed, the family was first passed on by the girls, although the boys liked her very much.

Taking parents on blind dates, the criteria for parents to choose the other half are different from those for their children. So all your criteria must be communicated with your parents in advance and let them help you find the right partner. If you don't communicate, you will go in the opposite direction.

Morphy said: "They can capture the corresponding information in every sentence my parents say. They should pay less attention to what I want and more attention to what they want. "

The unification of standards between children and parents also shows that family members can respect each other and communicate on an equal footing. If there are contradictions in the future, you can communicate in time to ease them.

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Economic independence, ideological independence

The guests who come on blind date are all financially independent and have similar family conditions. But not every guest is independent. The more children are well protected by their families, the less independent they are.

There is a male guest who is very handsome. All the families and girls like him because he is not only handsome, but also thoughtful. When the boy finally chose, he asked his parents two questions, "What will you do if you move to another place in the future?" "What will you do if there is a crisis in my career in the future?" All the parents answered the same question. The first problem is to let the daughter go to the boys' city, and the second problem is the support of the whole family.

It's the girl's turn to tell the boy. Fu Manlin, the female guest, surprised everyone. She didn't say that she likes male guests, just two questions, which show that she and her parents have different ideas. She said, "I can buy a house in your city, but I won't give up my career because of it." I won't let my family help you if your career is in crisis. Everyone has responsibilities and grievances to bear and should face them. "

As everyone expected, the boys chose Fu Manlin.

In the process of reading, I was thinking, if it were me, I would choose Fu Manlin. Be rational and persistent in the face of emotions, and have your own principles and bottom line. Have a certain life experience, know what you want and have a clear plan for the future. Such a woman is not only economically independent, ideologically independent, but also not tired of getting along.

Sincerity is the premise of communication. Independent thinking, strong communication skills and clear goals are the core competitiveness of individuals. Respect for others, family harmony and happiness are external conditions. Self-promotion must have core competitiveness, and external conditions are only auxiliary.

I have always felt that Excellence is one thing, and self-promotion is one thing. In our life and work, we sell ourselves everywhere. People who can sell themselves can get good opportunities even if they are not so good. Therefore, whether it is a blind date on the show or a blind date in life, we must learn to sell ourselves.

When watching the program, you can also change your original cognition and learn some "careful machines" to promote yourself. Fate is coming, don't miss it again.