A kind and beneficial word can make the listener feel warm even in the cold of three winters; On the contrary, bitter words hurt others' feelings and self-esteem, even in the summer of June, people will feel cold.
2. The strong have their own hands, don't boast to others. -"Warning of the World"
Although you are a strong man, there must be someone better than you, so don't be conceited and praise yourself in front of others.
3. Don't do it with little evil, and don't do it with little good. -Liu Beiyu's "Three Kingdoms"
Don't do anything just because it is a trivial matter; On the contrary, for some tiny. Don't stop doing a good thing that is beneficial to others just because it doesn't mean much.
If you bow to others and blame them, it is far from complaining. -The Analects of Confucius
Those who work hard and take the main responsibility for mistakes are "doing their best", forgiving others more and "lightly blaming others". In this case, they won't resent each other.
5. A gentleman's adult beauty is not an adult's evil. The villain is the opposite. -The Analects of Confucius
A gentleman always starts from the good or beneficial wishes of others, and wholeheartedly urges others to realize their good wishes and just demands, instead of looking at the world coldly. Or fear that the world will not be chaotic and will not add fuel to the fire when others fail, make mistakes or suffer. The villain is always "the evil of adults, not the beauty of adults."
6. See Si Qi Yan, see Si Qi introspection. -The Analects of Confucius
When you see someone who has an advantage over yourself in some respect, you should consult modestly, study hard, try to catch up with him and reach the same level as him. When you see that a person has some shortcomings or deficiencies, you should reflect calmly and see if you also have his shortcomings or deficiencies.
7. Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. -The Analects of Confucius
Don't impose what you don't want (pain, disaster, disaster, etc.) on others. ).
8. Do your duty and don't give in to your teacher. -The Analects of Confucius
Don't hesitate to do good things, even if the teacher is around, you should rush to do it. Later, it developed into the idiom "due diligence".
9. A gentleman talks but doesn't do it. -The Analects of Confucius
A gentleman can't talk big, but he is agile and dexterous.
10. Two people are concentric, and their profits are broken; The difference between one thought and another. -Zhouyi
Qi Xin's concerted efforts are powerful enough to break hard metals; People with one heart and one mind express their unanimous opinion, which is convincing and easy to accept.
1 1. The gentleman hides his weapon in his body and waits for the opportunity. -Zhouyi
Even if a gentleman has outstanding skills, he will not show off everywhere. But to show your talents or skills when necessary.
12. The loss is full and the income is not big. -"Shangshu"
Complacency will bring losses and disasters; Only by being modest and always aware of your own shortcomings can you benefit from it.
13. People don't know or care, aren't they gentlemen? -The Analects of Confucius
If I have achieved something that others don't understand, I will never feel angry or wronged. Isn't this also a gentleman's demeanor?
14. Keep your promise and do what you want. -The Analects of Confucius
Translation: words must be done; Once you have determined what you want to do, you should do it resolutely and boldly.
15. No meaning, no will, no entity, no me. -The Analects of Confucius
Tell the truth, don't just guess; Don't be arbitrary, willful and feasible; Flexible action, not rigid; Everything is not centered on "I", not self-righteous, and work hard with people around me to complete the task.
16. in a threesome, there must be a teacher, choose the good one and follow it, and change the bad one. -The Analects of Confucius
With three people together, there must be one person who is worth learning in some way, then he can be my teacher. I choose his advantages to study, and I will take warning from his shortcomings and deficiencies. If there are, I will correct them.
17. A gentleman seeks for himself, while a villain seeks for others. -The Analects of Confucius
A gentleman always blames himself, finding faults and problems from himself. Villains often look at others to find their own shortcomings and deficiencies.
18. an upright man is open and poised while a petty man is anxious and worried. -The Analects of Confucius
The gentleman is open-minded, honest and clean, and looks very comfortable and stable. The villain has too many inner desires and a heavy psychological burden, so he is often anxious, and his appearance and movements are also uneasy. He is often restless and emotionally unstable.
19. Don't complain, don't be kind to others. -The Analects of Confucius
When encountering setbacks and failures, never make excuses objectively and never put the blame on others. Later, it developed into the idiom "complaining about others".
20. Don't get angry. -The Analects of Confucius
Don't take it out on others when you make a mistake, and don't make it again. )
2 1. If you can't bear it, make a great plan. -The Analects of Confucius
What you shouldn't do, even if you really want to do it, is called "forbearance". If you can't bear small things and have no patience, it will affect the overall situation and ruin major events.
22. The villain's mistakes must be written. -The Analects of Confucius
A villain must cover up his mistakes.
23. If you don't change, it will be too much. -The Analects of Confucius
If you make a mistake and don't correct it, that's the real mistake.