I watched "Nezha" a few days ago, and it made me burst into tears several times...
1. Little Nezha has no friends, so he can only stay in the yard, The mother can only play football with him... I cried a little when I saw this. A child's nature is to play, and if you restrain him, he will definitely be sad.
2. Nezha has a strong nature. His parents don’t let him go out, and people avoid him when he goes out... No matter who is in this world, if he is isolated in a group or at work, then he must be Sad.
3. When you go out to play with children, everyone avoids him. Only one little girl is not afraid of him. Little Nezha was very happy at that time... In a group, if others avoid you, The one who stands up and understands you at this time must be your friend.
4. Nezha made friends at the beach, saved people but was wronged by the villagers... At this time, Nezha should feel aggrieved. It is really sad that he did good things but was misunderstood by others.
5. Nezha’s parents planned to celebrate her birthday and invited many people. Nezha invited his only friend, but he didn’t expect that it was his enemy... At this time, I also cried , sometimes anyone can hurt us, except our best friends
6. In order to keep Nezha safe, his father exchanged his own life for Nezha’s life, and Nezha knew it. , resolutely refused, and finally faced the disaster by himself... All parents in the world love their children. Even at any time, parents will always protect their children. This is the greatness of family love.
Of course, I think everyone was moved by that sentence: My destiny is up to me!
Accompanying, many parents, I leave my child to his grandparents, they don’t care about their children, they just work when they get home, or they don’t come home at all, they watch them all day long Without a child, the child cannot see his parents. Regarding Nezha, his parents did not give him corresponding care. They are all monster hunters, so no one will care about Nezha. The reason why Nezha is like this , because they lack the company of their parents.
Although we don’t have as short a period of three years as Nezha, who can guarantee that I don’t need my parents’ company?
Parents who force their children to be excellent but never care about their children’s inner feelings believe that those who have watched the film will not only be infected by the super-burning plot of Nezha’s life-changing story, but also be affected by Li Jing’s deep love for his son. Moved.
You must know that in past film and television works, Li Jing was a representative of patriarchy, majestic, cold, and unhuman. Like the people of Chentangguan, he even regarded Nezha, who was committing crimes everywhere, as a monster and took him as an evil spirit. He didn't know what to do. But in "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes to the World", Li Jing has been trying to eliminate other people's prejudices against Nezha. On Nezha's growth path, he played the role of a loving father, mentor, and beacon, constantly influencing Nezha with his deep love. Especially when he learned that Nezha would be punished by thunder and die when he was 3 years old, Li Jing quickly begged Master Taiyi to take him to heaven to plead for mercy, and without saying a word, he chose to sacrifice his own life for his son.
On the occasion of Nezha's third birthday, Li Jing even said, "Even if we kneel down one by one to beg, we must invite all the people in Chentangguan to come over to celebrate his son's birthday." A father's love is truly comparable to the sun and the moon.
Compared with the Dragon King of the East China Sea "next door", his love for Ao Bing seems a little rough and blunt.
The Dragon King of the East China Sea never cared about what Ao Bing wanted in his heart. He just selfishly put all his ambitions on him, gave him spiritual beads, and covered him with ten thousand dragon armor. I just want him to regain the prestige of the dragon clan and get rid of the name of demon. Ao Bing was burdened with the hope of the entire clan and was forced to embark on the road of "burying alive in Chentangguan". It was not until the duel with Nezha that he was awakened by Nezha's cry, followed his true heart, and no longer lived for his father. Now it seems that the Dragon King of the East China Sea, who worked hard to cultivate his children to become strong, is very similar to those parents in life who impose their dreams on their children? In order to continue their own ideals and glory, many parents send their children to training institutions they don’t like, help them choose a major they don’t like, find them a promising job, and even All life-long events have been arranged...
So what if the child becomes more obedient and outstanding? But that is not what he likes. He is not living a happy life. He may be living in pain and depression. Have you ever cared about him? …
Why are there such heart-wrenching tragedies as a top student at Peking University kills his mother, a 15-year-old accomplished girl commits suicide by falling from a building, and a 10-year-old child suffers from depression due to stress?
It’s not because parents or schools put too much pressure on them and place too many high hopes on them!
They dare not fall behind, dare not be outstanding, and dare not speak their minds.
Those unbearable burdens can only be carried alone in a self-enclosed world!
So, as a parent, can you try to be gentler and more rational on the road of "parenting"?
Can we first learn to teach from the child’s perspective?
Can we let our children follow their hearts, do what they like, and control their own lives?
I wonder if parents have ever felt this way
When I come home from get off work, exhausted, I see my children playing football in the living room, running around, taking off their shoes, wearing Put on your slippers, walk to the sofa, lie down comfortably, take out your phone, and just want to watch TV quietly or take a rest quietly. At this time, the child suddenly ran to you, picked up the football and threw it on you. For the first time, you patiently said
"Good boy! Dad is tired and wants to take a rest. I'll go first." Let's play, ha!"
The child said "Oh" and left.
Just when you calm down, a football hits your head with a "pop" sound.
Then, you got angry. You have never seen such a disobedient child. Why are your own children so naughty? I have worked hard to earn money to support you, but you can't let me take a break. ?
Maybe you beat him, maybe you yelled at him, maybe he cried, maybe he ran away from home.
Is education really that difficult?
Your child just wants you to play with him for a while, but you can’t even do such a simple request?
In "Nezha", Nezha's mother has to accompany Nezha to play shuttlecock at the risk of her own life. Doesn't she know it hurts? Doesn't she know how strong her child is? Of course she knew, but she knew even more that the child needed her company. The longer she stayed, the happier the child would be.
In contrast to his mother is Li Jing. Of course, he also loves Nezha deeply. He can trade his own life for Nezha’s life, but he ignores the most important point, which is companionship. . It was this trivial neglect that at the end of the story, Nezha was almost successfully instigated by Shen Gongbao to turn evil. It was this neglect that almost became the biggest regret at the last moment of his life.
Maybe you want to give your child a lot of things. You work hard to make money, buy him the best clothes, feed him the best food, and sign him up for many talent classes. He not only wins at the starting line, but also runs much faster than others on the road of life. You try your best to stuff a lot of things into him, but you don’t know that what he wants most is his parents, their companionship, and their understanding. They are children, and what they want most is the simplest things. .
So, when you complain that your child is disobedient and undisciplined, you may want to think about whether you have educated your child well and whether you have spent time and patience. If you don't educate and preach carefully, why should he listen to your words, just because you gave birth to him and raised him? Educating children is simple, but not that simple.
It took only 1 hour and 29 minutes for the film to exceed 100 million at the box office, setting a new record for the fastest domestic animated film to exceed 100 million in a single day. Douban scored as high as 8.7 points, while Maoyan and Taopiaopiao scored 9.7 and 9.6 respectively.
At the beginning of the movie, it tells the story of Yuanshi Tianzun refining a huge energy Hunyuan Pearl into spiritual beads and magic pills. Taiyi Zhenren was ordered to entrust the birth of the Lingzhu to Li Jing's family in Chentangguan. Unexpectedly, by some mistake, the Lingzhu and the magic pill were dropped.
Nezha, who was supposed to be the hero of the Lingzhu, became a veritable demon king. The film also officially started Nezha's transformation.
The best love parents have for their children is companionship
Because of the "magic pill", people all know that Nezha, who is born with supernatural powers, will harm the world. They are afraid of him, discriminate against him, and use stones to Smash him, no one wants to be friends with him.
Li Jing and his wife were worried that Nezha would get into trouble, so they locked him up at home and refused to let him go out. In order to eliminate the people's prejudice against Nezha, Mrs. Yin, Nezha's mother, was busy every day to eliminate demons and heal the people. She even took time to play shuttlecock with Nezha while being distracted by official matters.
Faced with Nezha's dissatisfaction, she always said, "I will play with you to the fullest next time", but Nezha never waited for that next time.
Isn’t this just like us who are usually busy and overwhelmed by various expenses such as mortgage, car loan and children’s cram school every day?
Faced with the child's simple request of "Mom, can you play with me for a while?", we look at the mountain of work and can only reject the child again and again with a guilty face, telling him to wait for us. Stay with him when you have time.
In order to change Nezha's spell that was destroyed by thunder three years later, his father Li Jing spent a year looking for a way to save him, even sacrificing his son's place.
Father's love is speechless. Li Jing's love for his children is great, but it is also regrettable. Because Nezha didn't want his father to exchange his life for his life, he tore off the life-exchanging talisman and fought against Tian Lei alone.
In the film, Nezha's words "The only regret in my life is that I couldn't play shuttlecock with you" made countless people cry.
Yes, we are busy like a spinning top every day, trying our best to give our children the best life. As a result, what our children long for most is just the company of their parents.
There is a description in "Intimacy":
When a child's psychological needs are not met, he will feel that he does not belong, that he is unimportant, and that he is not worthy. Being loved, these small traumas will continue to accumulate in the subconscious.
When you grow up, you will become sensitive and have low self-esteem, and you will be afraid of rejection, denial, and abandonment.
The warmth of family and the company of parents are the foundation that children should keep throughout their lives. It will warm their hearts and help them grow into healthy and happy people.
Harvard psychologist Gilbert Gilbert has a famous saying: Ten years later, you will not regret not doing one less project, but you will regret not spending one more hour with your children.
A child's childhood is only once. If the money is gone, you can make it again, but if you miss the child's growth process, it will be a lifetime.
Good children are praised for their reputation
Nezha is naughty and makes trouble all day long. Although Li Jing and his wife have a headache, they never say anything to hurt the child.
Mrs. Yin knew that Nezha seemed to be naughty, but in fact he was kind-hearted. He deliberately played pranks on the people and frightened them, but he was angry because he blamed them for being prejudiced against him.
In order to comfort their son, Li Jing and his wife lied that he was the reincarnation of the Lingzhu, and the purpose of his reincarnation was to help the people slay demons. Nezha believed it to be true and practiced the magic seriously. Later, he really saved the people from fire and water and became a hero in everyone's eyes.
In the hit movie "Galaxy Tutorial", Ma Fei's reactions were half a beat slower than others since he was a child, and he was nicknamed "Missing String" by his teachers and classmates. Ma Fei's mother also thinks that he is born stupider than others.
Even the people closest to him defined himself in this way. The remaining fire of hope in Ma Fei's heart was extinguished, and he gradually became tired of studying, had low self-esteem, broke down, and even had thoughts of committing suicide.
But Ma Haowen, his father who has been away from home for many years, firmly believes that Ma Fei is very smart. He responded to those who questioned his son: "My son is not stupid at all!" "He will be the most outstanding child in this school."
Ma Fei went from last to fifth in the exam, Ma Haowen watched When my son makes slight progress, he praises him as a genius. With his father's encouragement, Ma Fei regained his confidence and fought back from last place to become an outstanding astronaut.
Ma Fei said: "It is my father's love and trust that have changed my life to where I am today."
Olympic champion Fu Yuanhui accidentally entered swimming due to asthma. lock up. When she showed her talent in the swimming competition, Fu Yuanhui's father proudly praised his daughter, "You are the best" and "You are a genius", regardless of other people's strange looks.
Fu Yuanhui also admitted that it was her father’s unconditional trust and encouragement that gave her the courage to overcome various difficulties and obstacles.
Educator Chen Heqin said: No matter what you want your children to do, what kind of person they should be, what kind of things they should learn, what kind of knowledge they seek, and what kind of problems they should study, you must have a Magic weapon, encouragement, is to inspire and encourage.
Parents’ words determine their children’s future! If you want your children to grow in a good direction, the best way is to praise them.
When a child encounters setbacks, even contempt and hostility, his parents’ unconditional trust and encouragement are the driving force for his inner growth. It can ignite the fire in his heart, help him dispel the haze, regain his confidence, and become a child. A better version of yourself. Letting children be themselves is
the best gift parents can give their children.
Louise Hay said: Life is about finding yourself. Your only task is to go deep into your heart and learn who you are. who.
"Magic Pill" Nezha is destined to be the embodiment of evil in the eyes of the world. But Li Jing said to Nezha, "Don't care about other people's opinions, you just need to be yourself!" Failure to accept fate is Nezha's fate. "
Li Jing's words were an important reason that influenced Nezha to change his destiny and become a hero of salvation.
"Lingzhu" Prince Ao Bing originally represented kindness and justice However, he was destined to be a demon when he was born, and he also shouldered the hope of turning the entire Dragon clan into serfs and singing songs, but he had no choice but to go astray and flood the Chentang River.
It was Nezha who said " "My destiny is up to me and I cannot control it" made Ao Bing understand that the worldly perspective is the destiny that imprisons oneself. As long as you don't accept your destiny, you can break the worldly concept and be yourself.
Just like the movie "Forrest Gump" In the novel, Forrest Gump is an imbecile with low intelligence and wears braces on his legs. His classmates mock him as a fool, exclude him, and insult him.
Although Forrest Gump's mother is an extremely ordinary person. She is a woman, but she never restrains A-Gump from her own and other people's opinions. She said firmly to A-Gump, "You are just like everyone else" and "You are not a fool, only those who do stupid things are fools." > Before her death, her mother lay on the hospital bed and said, "I am destined to be your mother, and I will try my best to do it well. I believe you can change your destiny."
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This great mother used freedom and love to create Forrest Gump’s extraordinary life, so Forrest Gump can live his life in the way he likes!
Education expert Yin Jianli Said: A truly high-level education is to allow children to be themselves, to become free people, to be what they originally expect and like.
In the process of children's growth, parents give their children the best. The gift is to help tear off the labels on children, guide them in a positive and optimistic direction, give them confidence, and encourage them not to care about other people's opinions, stick to their original aspirations, and be brave enough to be themselves.
I hope everyone. Parents can nourish their children with love and trust, so that their children can have a free, independent and healthy personality and develop a broader life.
Be yourself
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If prejudice is a big mountain,
then strive to be a strong person,
and conquer it!
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Movie Theme Song
There is no doubt that this summer was exploded by a domestic animation.
"Nezha" "The Devil Comes into the World", with its magnificent production, super combustible scenes, hilarious jokes, and tear-jerking pain points, has become popular all over the Internet and has received a great reputation. It has exceeded 1.2 billion in box office in just 5 days after its release. Record.
We re-understood Nezha, who grew up stubbornly in rebellion, and we also redefined Li Jing, who became soft in majesty.
We saw the unyielding character. The world treats us kindly, but we also find the self who refuses to accept fate and fights against the world.
We are stung by "the prejudice of the human heart is a big mountain", and we are also stung by the idea that "my destiny is up to me and I cannot help it." "God" moved me.
During the movie watching, many people laughed heartlessly, and then burst into tears uncontrollably.
I To sum up, the reason why "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes to the World" made the whole Internet cry is because it hit the pain points of three types of people just right!
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An adult who has always been misunderstood but always wants to win once
In the film, Nezha was born with the name of "Devil Boy" and was imprisoned, despised and misunderstood. In everyone's eyes
In the cruel reality, he had to wrap himself up tightly, pretending not to care, pretending to be carefree, pretending to be indifferent, and humming:
"I am a little monster, carefree and at ease; I kill without blinking an eye, and eat without salt"...
At the same time, deep in his heart, there is still a fire burning, which is to prove to the world For once, he is not a monster! Nor is he a demon!
He cultivates his character and learns magic from his master, Taiyi Zhenren, in order to be able to kill demons and destroy others for himself like his parents. An inherent label.
Unexpectedly, after he came out, he heroically rescued the little girl from Haiyaksha, but the villagers insisted that he was the monster who stole the little girl.
People's prejudices are indeed a big mountain, and you can't move it if you want.
But Nezha is arrogant by nature, and he does not succumb to this mountain. He wants to change his own destiny and refuses to accept his fate. , is Nezha's fate!
Then there is the heroic Nezha who broke through the thunder and death in the final battle of Chentangguan.
When the Dragon King's son Ao Bing. When he had succumbed to his fate, the semi-demon Nezha grew six arms, transformed into a red lotus, and started an earth-shattering battle with his own destiny.
In the end, he used the words "What's wrong with your spiritual pearl?" "I've become a human being with every magic pill" influenced Ao Bing, allowing the originally kind-hearted Ao Bing to find his original intention, and the two of them together saved the people of Chentangguan.
That moment , everyone strode closer to him, and with nods and kneels of thanks, they took back all the prejudices and contempt they had towards Nezha.
In life, have we ever been hurt by stereotypes and troubled by colored glasses like Nezha?
If you are very beautiful but get promoted very quickly, your colleagues will say, "What's so great about it, just a vase";
If you fall in love with a same-sex lover, you will be criticized. Others say, "There's something wrong, such a handsome man is actually gay";
If you obviously have a decent job but insist on setting up a street vendor, people around you will say, "You have read all the books in vain. Do something worthless"...
All kinds of incomprehensible voices or ill-intentioned suggestions are like a barbed knife, going straight into your heart.
At a certain moment, maybe you have thought about compromising, giving up, or complying with other people's wishes.
But more often, you feel:
In this life, you must live for yourself once, and you must win once to show others!
As long as you work hard, as long as you are cruel, as long as you dare to say no, everything will become what you like.
Why not be a strong person and conquer all prejudices!
You can cheat all the way and become stronger and stronger, crushing those rumors with your strength;
You can spend your whole life with someone of the same sex, telling others that love has nothing to do with gender;
You can go from being a street vendor to a small business owner opening shops everywhere, letting people who don’t understand you see your light...
The world is your own. Amidst the criticism and doubts, it is still possible to find a transparent and clear path.
Whether this path is right or wrong, whether it goes smoothly or not, you have the final say.
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A naughty child who is not perfect but wants to be affirmed
If we are not perfect from birth, how should we live in peace with the world?
In Nezha, I saw too much inequality, lack of kindness, and disharmony between people and the outside world.
He was born as a "magic pill". I was almost killed by my parents in pain.
His life was saved, but he was locked up in the compound and was not allowed to leave the house. After finally finding a way to escape, he was shunned by the villagers as if they were monsters.
When he found a little sister to play shuttlecock with, the smile on his face was so bright. Unexpectedly, the little sister was taken away by her family not long after. In their opinion, Nezha is just a devil. How can they let their children play with him?
The malice from the world made him lonely and manic, with low self-esteem and arrogance. His resistance with force and demonic nature deepened the villagers' fear and disgust of him.
It wasn't until the battle with Haiyaksha that he finally met someone who was willing to approach him sincerely and play shuttlecock with him - Ao Bing. The two of them became each other's only friends in life.
From then on, Nezha began to become playful, cute and soft.
He was once so violent that he would go to the beach, make a face, and personally invite Ao Bing to his third birthday party. And coquettishly asked the other party to come over.
It can be seen how important this friend is to him.
This shows how much he longs for the approval of others.
It can be seen that his cold appearance hides a fragile and warm heart.
Tears almost flowed out of my eyes when I saw this. Looking at the little niece sitting next to her, she also began to burst into tears.
I can feel that the ten-year-old girl must have seen her own shadow in Nezha.
She was born prematurely and suffered a lot in the hospital as soon as she was born. When I was in school, due to my short stature and introverted personality, I never had many friends and was often bullied by my classmates.
In such an environment, she had no intention of studying and often failed in exams. Her parents thought she was a disobedient naughty child; her classmates thought she was a social outcast; her teacher commented that she was not serious in class.
In fact, she wants to be a "three good students" more than anyone else, and he desires the recognition of others more than anyone else.
After watching the movie, I asked her tentatively: Baby, I saw you crying. You must have learned something from Nezha, right?
Unexpectedly, she secretly wiped away the tears and retorted to me: No way, I didn’t cry! I think the movie is very good!
The way she pretends to be calm is really like Nezha, who pretends to be strong.
What’s more similar is that she also has a only good friend who makes her laugh, listens to her thoughts, and plays with her on the way to school.
After walking out of the cinema, we saw a roadside stall. She shouted excitedly: Auntie, I want to buy this set of bestie necklaces. My best friend and I will each have a pair. They will definitely look beautiful wearing them.
I bought it for her without saying anything. Even if the whole world doesn't understand her, there is at least a ray of light that can illuminate her, which is hope.
I only hope that her thoughts can warm more people.
I also hope that she will find a better version of herself and be treated gently by this world.
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Parents who force their children to be excellent but never care about their children
I believe that those who have watched the film, except for the super-burning one whose life was turned around by Nezha, Infected by the plot, you will also be moved by Li Jing's deep love for his son.
You must know that in past film and television works, Li Jing was a representative of patriarchy, majestic, cold, and unhuman. Like the people of Chentangguan, he even regarded Nezha, who was committing crimes everywhere, as a monster and took him as an evil spirit. He didn't know what to do.
But in "Nezha: The Devil Boy Comes to the World", Li Jing has been trying to eliminate other people's prejudices against Nezha. On Nezha's growth path, he played the role of a loving father, mentor, and beacon, constantly influencing Nezha with his father's love.
Especially when he learned that Nezha would be punished by thunder and die when he was 3 years old, Li Jing quickly asked Master Taiyi to take him to heaven to plead for mercy, and without saying a word, he chose to sacrifice his own life for his son.
On the occasion of Nezha's third birthday, Li Jing even said, "Even if we kneel down one by one to beg, we must invite all the people in Chentangguan to come over to celebrate his son's birthday." The love for one’s children is truly comparable to that of the sun and the moon.
Compared with the Dragon King of the East China Sea "next door", his love for Ao Bing seems a little rough and blunt.
The Dragon King of the East China Sea never cared about what Ao Bing wanted in his heart. He just selfishly put all his ambitions on him, gave him spiritual beads, and covered him with ten thousand dragon armor. I just want him to regain the prestige of the dragon clan and get rid of the name of demon.
Carrying the hope of the entire clan, Ao Bing was forced to embark on the road of being "buried alive in Chentangguan". It wasn't until the duel with Nezha that he was awakened by Nezha's cry, followed his true heart, and no longer lived for his father.
Now it seems that the Dragon King of the East China Sea, who worked hard to cultivate his children to become strong, is very similar to those parents in life who impose their dreams on their children?
In order to perpetuate their own ideals and glory, many parents send their children to training institutions they don’t like, regardless of what they think and love, help them choose a major they don’t like, and find them a job. A promising job and even life-long events have been arranged...
So what if the child becomes more obedient and outstanding? But that is not what he likes. He is not living a happy life. He may be living in pain and depression. Have you ever cared about him?
Why are there such heart-wrenching tragedies as a top student at Peking University killing his mother, a 15-year-old talented girl committing suicide by falling from a building, and an 8-year-old child suffering from depression due to stress?
It’s not because parents or schools put too much pressure on them and place too many high hopes on them!
They dare not fall behind, dare not be outstanding, and dare not speak their minds.
Those unbearable burdens can only be carried alone in a self-enclosed world!
So, as a parent, on the road of "parenting",
Can you try to be gentler and more rational?
Can we first learn to teach from the child’s perspective?
Can we let our children follow their hearts, do what they like, and control their own lives?
Just like Li Jing and his wife in the movie, even if they know that their child is a "devil", they still want to give him the best love.
Let him live according to his own way, let him learn to take responsibility and rewrite his own destiny, let him live a "human-like" life with a "magic pill"...
Finally, I want to say:
Although your child is a devil named "Nezha", you can work hard to become a loving father "Li Jing"!
Meet a better one,
yourself.
Ze Xiaozhe & Qiu Meili
Without emotions, the heart is like a wasteland
Without reason, weak and powerless
Without myself, no more Lifeless
Three days without Fang Jie Wa
Family support and companionship
1. Communicate. In the film, Nezha beat Haiyaksha away and returned to the little girl, but was misunderstood and beaten by the villagers. However, Li Jing, his wife, and Taiyi Zhenren arrived and only tied Nezha up with Huntian Ling. Thinking did not defend Nezha. opportunity, and did not communicate with Nezha after returning, resulting in Nezha being wrongly accused and becoming more and more rebellious. This is like our modern family education when a child fights with others in school and parents fail to communicate with their children normally. Instead of blindly accepting mistakes and blaming the children, the conflicts between the children and their parents become increasingly intensified.
2. Companionship. Nezha's lonely figure can often be seen in the film. People around him regard him as a monster and are unwilling to play with him. Nezha can be made happy through a simple shuttlecock game with Mrs. Yin and Ao Bing. It can be seen that Nezha is accompanied by Nezha. What is most needed is also what children and the elderly need most in modern families. Children without the company of their parents will lead to character defects, and the elderly will feel full of loss without the company of their children. Therefore, companionship is the most missing thing in the family.
3. Innocence. Although the two protagonists of the film were destined to be good and evil, their innocence made them become best friends and ultimately changed their fate. The education of modern families allows children to be influenced by society early. Not to mention comparing with each other, children's inferiority complex and sense of worldliness are getting more and more serious. Therefore, innocence is increasingly indispensable in today's families.