1, divert attention. To divert attention is to shift attention from things that cause bad emotions to other things, so as to free people from negative emotions and stimulate positive and happy emotional reactions. The shift of attention can be achieved by changing the focus of attention. When you are in a bad mood, you can do something you are usually interested in and do some activities you are interested in. By playing games, playing chess, listening to music, watching movies, reading newspapers and other legitimate and meaningful activities, I can free myself from negative emotions. Distraction can also be achieved by changing the environment. When a person's mood is not ideal, taking a walk outdoors and playing in a beautiful environment will make people feel refreshed and forget their troubles. Trapping yourself indoors is not only not conducive to eliminating bad emotions, but also may aggravate the harm of bad emotions to you.

2. vent your emotions reasonably.

I don't know if the students have noticed the scene when watching TV movies: someone ran to the wilderness, the seaside and the mountains to shout freely, or desperately hit a tree, or ran wildly because he was in a bad mood. This is a reasonable way to vent emotions.

Reasonable venting refers to resolving the bad emotions in the heart in an appropriate way on appropriate occasions, and venting can prevent the harm of bad emotions to the human body.

(1) Crying-appropriate crying.

From a scientific point of view, crying is a self-psychological protection measure, which can release the energy generated by bad emotions and adjust the balance of the body. Crying is a good way to relieve tension, trouble and pain. After many people cry, the pain and sadness will be much less.

2 shout-shout once.

Don't cry piteously when you are troubled by bad emotions. It is also a way to vent one's inner depression through quick, powerful and unrestrained shouting.

(3) v-talk to relatives and friends.

Telling friends is a good way to vent. Hiding unpleasant things in your heart will increase your psychological burden. Finding someone to talk about their troubles and their own feelings can not only make them feel comfortable, but also get comfort, inspiration and solutions from others. Please remember bacon's famous saying: tell a friend happiness and you will get two happiness; If you tell your sorrow to a friend, you will only be half sad. "

(4) Exercise-strenuous exercise.

When a person is depressed, he is often inactive. The less active you are, the less likely you are to divert your attention, the lower your mood, and the more likely you are to form a vicious circle. Therefore, we can change the bad mood by running, playing ball and other sports activities.

The method of venting is different from indulging one's feelings, being willful and fooling around. If you vent at will regardless of time and place, you will not only be unable to control bad emotions, but also have adverse consequences.

The best way to adjust emotions is to learn to adjust yourself.

3. Learn to control your emotions.

Controlling emotions is to achieve "emotional regularity" and "emotional moderation".

"Often have emotions" is in line with nature and common sense. Be happy when you are happy, and be angry when you are angry. It is human nature that emotions can be expressed at appropriate times and occasions. However, when expressing emotions, don't let them develop. There are many allusions in China's history and novels. For example, Wu Zixu, a general of Chu State, passed Zhaoguan and lost his head overnight. In Romance of the Three Kingdoms, Zhou Yu was furious and vomited blood and died. Niu Hao's happy death in The Biography of Yue Fei is an expression of excessive emotion. Therefore, the expression of emotions should be controlled to a certain extent and scope. Happiness cannot get carried away; Don't fly into a rage when you are angry; Sadness cannot be sad; Fear can't be panicked, it can be "eased". Otherwise, your physical and mental health will be affected by emotions.

There are many ways to control emotions, and we only introduce four. First, let's do a little experiment: you calm down, say "laugh" and "laugh" in your mind and imagine these scenes. How would you feel? You may feel very happy. This experiment shows that language can hint people's emotions. When you are angry, you can repeatedly hint to yourself that "don't be angry, don't do stupid things, being angry is a sign of incompetence, and being angry is harmful"; When you are depressed, you can hint to yourself that "worrying is useless, useless, just cheer up." This method of relieving emotions is called self-suggestion.

① Self-suggestion method.

In negative emotions, a person can motivate himself through famous sayings, epigrams or heroes, thus effectively controlling his emotions.

② Take a deep breath.

Through slow and deep breathing, we can eliminate tension and reduce excitement, so that people's fluctuating emotions can gradually stabilize.

Steps: a. Stand up straight or sit up straight, close your eyes slightly, eliminate distractions, and try to inhale through your nose.

B. Hold your breath gently and count to one, two, three slowly.

C. Breathe out slowly through your mouth and count one, two and three at the same time until you are exhausted. D. repeat for more than three times. Everyone will encounter all kinds of bad emotional stimuli and injuries in life. The positive method is to eliminate and overcome them in time. We can control and vent, but we must not accept that someone severely punishes himself when he is angry, or takes it out on others, damages other people's things, or even hits people and curses. Therefore, venting should be reasonable and moderate, and it will not harm others and yourself. If you do this, happiness is in your hands.