Lying or standing is for contrast, and lying down is easy to understand. Talking with lying down, as opposed to standing up, is enough to show that in the relationship between men and women, there is lust and soul singing.
Rui Xiaodan in "Heaven" is indeed a transparent woman. She understands that in the relationship between men and women, women should either give men physical satisfaction. Here lies the usual role of women, serving, eating, drinking and sleeping! The way of standing and talking is absolute opposition and equality. Women in this relationship are often excellent and have extraordinary charm.
Between men and women, to put it bluntly, it's only a little thing, but it's also the most advanced thing, so Ding Yuanying in the play said: The extreme of affection is the love between men and women.
Let's put it this way: while lying down, dopamine is talking; while standing, the soul is talking.
everyone is sitting and talking. That's what brothers do.
Beauvoir once famously said: "A man's great luck lies in that he has to embark on an extremely difficult road, whether as an adult or as a child, but this is the most reliable road; Women's misfortune lies in being surrounded by almost irresistible temptations. She was not asked to make progress, but was encouraged to slide down to bliss. When she found that she had been fooled by a mirage, it was too late, and her strength had been exhausted in the failed adventure. "
what does this mean? Men are told from an early age that they should shoulder their family and social responsibilities and work hard on their own.
and girls? I was taught from an early age that it is better to marry well than to do well; I will support you all my life; You are responsible for beauty, and I am responsible for making money to support my family ...
This makes many girls feel more attached and subordinate to gender and marriage.
As everyone knows, the best relationship between men and women is never that two people are too fettered, but that they are independent of each other and give each other some free space to be themselves.
in the relationship between men and women, the fear is not dependence, but attachment. Dependence is a sense of trust and identity to a person, which can make people feel needed. Attachment is to habitually gain a sense of security from the other person, without an independent individual, or even lose yourself completely in the end. In TA's view, the other party is everything to himself, and the other party is his own life. This kind of pressure will make the other person breathless and even want to escape.
However, women who have independent thoughts will not always want to rely on others to survive. The era of finding a "long-term meal ticket" is over.
Modern women also think about life and how to make their life more meaningful.
We didn't just come into this world to get married, have children and raise offspring, that's the instinct of animals. Humans can do it, so can animals. In addition to basic survival and reproduction, women should have their own spiritual world.
People are born with the desire for strength, and the adult society is cruel and realistic.
"He who waits on others with beauty loves to be late". Beauty can make you attract men for a while, but it can't make you keep a man's life. For women, beauty is actually the least worth mentioning, because it is easy to get and easy to lose.
A woman who is respected by men must be wise. A woman with an empty head and a superficial appearance will only make men feel like a "vase", which is beautiful and useless, and will get tired of it in a few days. A wise woman often practices both inside and outside, and more importantly, she has connotation, so that men are willing to respect you from the bottom of their hearts.
They are sincere but not deliberate, cheerful but not frivolous, independent but not strong, hardworking but not melodramatic, thoughtful, deep and not pretentious! Know the limits, know the advance and retreat!
I hope every woman can understand and understand:
1. You are mature and independent;
2. You are active, hardworking, interesting and enterprising, and never give up on growth and learning;
3. You can understand the men around you from the perspective of empathy, without control or ego, and give them enough respect and understanding.
this is the best time to be a woman. May every woman have an independent personality and spirit, and may you always have the confidence to stand and talk with men.