I have two junior brothers, Junior Brother Wang and Junior Brother Li, who are about to graduate from college and are looking for jobs. They have similar backgrounds and similar academic performance.

One day, I received a call from Junior Brother Wang. He told me that he had found a very good job. I asked him, what about Junior Brother Li? He said that Junior Brother Li is still looking for a job and has not found one yet.

Later I learned that it was Junior Brother Wang who went to the shopping mall near the school to buy things. He met a person by chance and chatted with him for a few words. It turned out that this person was recruited by a company at the school. . The two had a good chat, and the man directly gave Xiao Wang a very good job.

As for Junior Brother Li, it is a pity that he did not encounter such an opportunity and did not find a job until graduation.

A person’s destiny depends not only on hard work and diligence, but also on luck.

1. "Good luck" and "bad luck"

Some people think that people are born with good luck, and some people also think that they are born with bad luck. Therefore, people are divided into For those who are "blessed" and those who are not. People who are "blessed" will have better luck than others no matter what they do. However, in the West, there is another concept that luck can change at any time. You may have good luck these days, but you will have bad luck the next few days. .

There is a saying in psychology called "self-evidenced language", which means that the kind of person you think you are is the kind of person you may become. So what kind of person will become who thinks he is lucky?

Maya Young, a management scientist at the University of California, Los Angeles, conducted a study on luck. The researchers conducted a questionnaire survey among 185 college students. The questionnaire collected statistics on each student's outlook on luck and work style.

Regarding work style, we mainly examine two aspects: first, whether you are willing to accept difficult challenges; second, whether you can persevere in doing something.

The statistical result is that those who believe that they are born with good luck are more willing to accept challenges and are more able to persist in doing things.

Being able to face challenges and persevere are the valuable qualities of a striver.

Maybe these people are more successful in doing things, so they feel that they are lucky. Perhaps it is because these people believe that they are lucky, so they are more willing to accept challenges and more willing to persevere. Maybe the causal relationship is no longer important. This is a mutually reinforcing positive feedback process.

Why is it that for the same two people, Junior Brother Wang can find a good job, but Junior Brother Li has never found such a job?

Recently, after reading Robert Frank's "Success and Luck", I seem to have found the answer:

At key points in the early stages of life, good luck plays a significant role in subsequent success. A large amplification effect, and this luck effect can always be accumulated.

2. Luck Dynamics

People who like to read inspirational books must have heard of Charlie Munger. He is Buffett’s right-hand man and a Beidou-level investor. . At the same time, he is also a wise man with a low-key style and loves reading.

Many of Munger's words are worthy of being used as famous quotes. One of them is: The safest way to get what you want is to make yourself worthy of what you want.

Of course, this sentence was said by senior masters to young people who are studious and motivated, but if you think about it carefully, it actually says the voice of countless successful people, I am worthy of it.

"Breaking Bad" has a director named Vince Gilligan. Gilligan was once interviewed by GQ magazine. The reporter asked him: What is the secret of your success? He said something more interesting than what Munger said:

Have you ever had such an experience? He balled up a piece of paper, threw it casually into the trash can far away without aiming at it, and threw it in. Next time you want to throw it again, you aim accurately and try your best, but you can't throw it in.

Everyone of us worked hard to make this show, and we wanted it to be the best TV show human beings can make, but you know what? The crew of "My Father Has the Final Word" next door are also so dedicated.

So why does it have to be our show that is so successful? I really want to know why, so that I can have a chance to try again in the TV industry next time.

But to be honest, now that this film can be made, I am already secretly happy.

He said that successful experience is called luck.

There are about three laws of personal luck, which we call the dynamics of luck.

Suppose there are two people now. A and B have exactly the same talent, effort and knowledge, but A's luck is a little better than B's, about 5% better. So let me ask, over time, how much higher will A's personal income be than B's? Is it also 5%? That would be completely wrong, and probably a more reasonable answer would be 500%, or even higher. Junior Brother Wang and Junior Brother Li are exactly like this.

Human society is a non-linear complex system, which means that if the initial conditions are a little better, the final result will not be better in proportion, but may disproportionately amplify the initial advantage. a lot of.

We know that when the initial conditions are a little better, the gap we will create in the future will become larger and larger, but we cannot give up because of this. How to create your luck? Let yourself have good luck? Next, I will explain it to you one by one.

3. How to create good luck?

1. Character, character determines your destiny, and good character determines your success.

The British psychologist Richard Wiseman conducted an experiment: He asked the subjects to complete a separate task one by one-walk a short distance to buy a cup of coffee in a coffee shop. .

The task is very simple, but Wiseman has set up two traps in it. He put some money on the way to the coffee shop, which was just enough to buy a cup of coffee. He placed a businessman in the coffee shop where the parents were waiting for their coffee.

As a result, Wiseman found that those who claimed to have good luck did indeed have good luck. They found money on the ground on the road, picked it up and went to a coffee shop to buy a cup of coffee. While waiting for the coffee, they took the initiative to chat with the businessman for a while.

And those who claim that they have no good luck really do not have good luck. They didn't notice the money on the ground, didn't talk to anyone after buying coffee, and just waited there.

Behaviors form habits, habits form character, and character determines destiny.

Whether you are extroverted or introverted, you can slowly cultivate your personality through habits. We can make a contract with ourselves and complete the task within a specified time in exchange for our own freedom.

The book "Quiet: The Competitiveness of Introverts" mentions: Make a contract with yourself and become an extrovert for a limited period of time.

For example, we need to chat with strangers, but I am very scared. At this time, I can say to myself in my heart: Okay, I will make a contract with myself, and I will do it within a week. Take the initiative to chat with 7 strangers, write down the process of chatting with each person, and what they thought about their mental activities at that time. After a week is over, do a summary review.

After I have a clear goal, it will not be too difficult for me to strike up a conversation, and I will enjoy chatting with others.

Our character is like a rubber band, which can be stretched and loosened. Don’t think that character is unchangeable. You can make your character better through your own efforts.

2. Patience, patience is the first element of success.

Teacher Malki always said: "Time is your friend, but timing is not." In other words, patience is the first element of success.

If you want to get a score of 10 points, it is not enough to prepare only 10 points of effort. You may have to prepare 30 points of effort. Sometimes we see certain people have some luck and seemingly get what they want by accident. In fact, behind good luck, there may be 30 minutes of hard work.

"The Analects of Confucius": "If you take it from above, you will get it from within; if you take it from it, you will get it from below; if you take it from below, you will get nothing."

People are in luck In bad times, what is needed most is not blind efforts, but slowing down, thinking, and doing things patiently.

The key to getting rid of bad luck is patience and letting time be our friend. Any experience is a treasure as long as it is used well, and it is a waste of time if it is not used well. A thoughtful person will be good at turning past experiences into paving stones for future success.

For example, an internship experience in a certain company is not a product, but a systematic summary report written based on the internship experience can be counted as a product; the experience of reading a book is not a product, but an in-depth and detailed understanding of the book can be counted as a product. A thorough analysis of the article can be counted as a product; having the skill of drawing is not a product, but the painting created using this skill can be counted as a product.

I have been reading. If I keep inputting all the time, learning will be inefficient. If, I can sort out my thoughts and thoughts and share them with others, so that everyone can *** the same There is nothing better than learning and making progress together.

Therefore, I use the above two methods to make a contract with myself: I will output two to three articles every week and organize my thoughts into documents.

In this anxious era, what we lack is enough patience to write well and write an article patiently. Human growth is the process of continuous self-improvement. The most important thing in life is to be a good person.

3. “Do it first”, don’t think too much, just do it.

American writer Joseph Conor said: "There are only two difficult things in writing: start writing and keep writing."

For those of us who are confused, we want to learn everything, just like the urgent He tightly grasped a life-saving straw and refused to let go. When you tell him that it takes time and you need to walk steadily, he will be very anxious and say: You can't do this, then I won't be able to catch up with anything. Is this really the case?

When you are not strong enough to open an opportunity, you simply cannot touch it. Even if it is there, you are the same.

In fact, there is almost no field without opportunities. Even if you don’t see opportunities now, it doesn’t mean you won’t see opportunities in the future. That's because you haven't grown antennae yet, so how can you spot opportunities?

Instead of wasting time hesitating and waiting, it is better to try it first. The reason why many people are unwilling to do it first is because they like to look at problems with static thinking. They always think that if the environment remains unchanged or the environment worsens, not seeing opportunities now means that they will not see opportunities in the future. , so I don’t want to waste time. But the time they save is usually not used in more useful places, and most people would rather waste their time.

Competition is definitely becoming more and more intense, but as long as your progress exceeds the intensification of competition, things will obviously become easier and easier, not more and more difficult.

There are more and more people learning to write. When you first enter this door, there is a crowded crowd. The further you go back, you will find that there are fewer and fewer people. Where have all these people gone? Maybe they went off to do something else? Maybe you think writing still takes time and thinking, it’s too brain-consuming, so I’d better do something else.

Indeed, writing is something that can be done without a high threshold. However, the further you go, you will feel that it is a task that requires you to constantly input, learn, and think. a skill. If you don't have much output, you'll hit a bottleneck.

In order to write, I still maintain the habit of reading and taking notes every day. I will study in depth a field or a problem. It requires your time and patience, and it also requires you to devote your time and patience. Build your character.

The more you read, the broader your mind will be. Doing things will become more and more organized, and it will also cultivate your patience. Do everything in advance, and start reading from reading 5 pages of books every day, and listening to audio for 5 minutes. As long as you start, it is not too late.

"The best time to plant a tree was ten years ago, followed by now. As long as you have faith in your heart, there is no time gap, and you can start anytime."

4. Conclusion

If you want to open opportunities, there is a clear process: your own conditions - open opportunities - achieve your goals.

Opportunities are everywhere, but everyone has different resources and different conditions, so the results that can be developed are naturally different.

Opportunities don’t fall from the sky, they are developed by you using your resources.

We can build our own character and have the patience to get through your trough period. During this period, do it first and wait for your opportunity.

Every opportunity is actually made up of pieces. Without the pieces accumulated in the past, it will be difficult for you to piece together the next figure, and without a piece of the next figure, you naturally cannot Spell out the next one. Accumulate the puzzle pieces and piece together the puzzle of your life as soon as possible.